MTF and pregnant thoughts

[Natkat]

I hope I wont offend anyone since it might sound allittle stupid.

I got 2 mtf friends, both really want period, getting pregnant and having kids,
pretty much all uposite of me,
I start to wonder if all or almost all mtf got these fellings? since it not the first time it got mention.
or if there someone who actually dont want these things.
most cis-ender women dont like period, and some dont want children or having them biologically.

also I wonder how much the matter of "being a women" has anything say.
I heard people saying.. that people dont see them as being women because they cant give birth.
dose this has anything to say or is your wish(if you wish so) simple to get children?

please be honest..
thank you....

[~RoadToTrista~]

They want periods? o.O

I would love to be able to bear a child, but I'm okay with sperm banking, although sometimes I get really frustrated because I won't ever be able to bear a child myself. I definitely want kids.

[kate durcal]

I have 3 boys and 2 girls of my own. In each pregnancy I was soooooooo happy for the mother, but sooooooooooooooooo sad for me.

Every time I saw my pregnant wife or any pregnant woman I felt a pain in my abdomen, like a I had a hole on it. In numerous occasions I had to fight some tears off.

As I got oldear the pain subsided, and today I no longer yearn to be pregnant.

Kate D

[Pinkfluff]

I'm not sure if I'd ever want kids or not, but I definitely want the option of birthing my own kids should I ever decide I'd want them. Not going to get that option in this life obviously (even if medical science figures out a way it will be insanely expensive for decades after), but that doesn't make me want it any less.

that people dont see them as being women because they cant give birth.

I have also heard this, but it is a flawed argument. There are ciswomen out there who cannot give birth but they are still women. I've actually heard of cases where such women feel/are made to feel less of a woman for this too, which is just as sick. It indicates to the deeper fallacy that a person is just a pile of flesh. The ability to give birth does not come from being a woman, it comes from living in a body with the requisite anatomical tools and them functioning properly. Some women can't give birth, some men can. Sure it's more complicated than we would prefer, but that's life.

[Ann Onymous]

I was in a relationship for a number of years with someone who had a kid by a previous relationship.  While I adored the kid and had her in my life through high school graduation, I have no desire to birth one of my own, nor am I really looking to get into another relationship with a child involved.  Hell, I am in my mid-40's...if someone in my age bracket has a kid and we are getting into a relationship, they better be close to graduation as we speak

[V M]

If I were 30 years younger I'd def. be barefoot and prego in the kitchen    But unfortunately, I'm too old now   

[Lisbeth]

After going through morning sickness, I can say no way in hell. Besides, I've had three kids already. I was also there for their births. No thank you.

[amymichelle]

I would definitely would like to experience a life growing inside of my body and giving birth. There has to be no other feelings that are as great as giving birth and holding the newborn for the very first time.

[Janet_Girl]

I have three boys and a daughter.  I was there through my exes pregnancies.  The morning sicknesses, weight gain, back aches and everything.  It was as if I was pregnant.  If I was younger, much younger, I would like to go through everything myself.

But now I am a grandmother of 11, and maybe soon a great grandmother.    My oldest grandson is engaged. 

[AbraCadabra]

*Every time I saw my pregnant wife or any pregnant woman I felt a pain in my abdomen, like a I had a hole in it. At numerous occasions I had to fight some tears off.*

Just as Kate said. It is/was one of the major things I had and still have to work through. It gave we GID-fits no end. Actually hard to describe how you can get stomach cramps while bawling your eyes out! Really heavy.

Yes, the rational is: Of course I AM TOO OLD NOW.
But my inner feelings are not concerned about my age, they ARE not rational, they don't give a hoot.
It may have to do with our second puberty we all go through, and with time we grow up and the baby-wish becomes less dominant. So some of the respondents seem a lot more grown-up about this then I am.

If I see a lovely mummy-tummy it still cuts me, I wish it was me, and the knowing to be barren is hurtful and brings up a sense of inadequacy and uselessness.
All biological pain, as Kate said it so right: ...like having a hole in the stomach.

I can feel for all these GGs that for some reason or other can not bear babies and so desperately would like to. I think is just written in our genes.

Also, we (females) are the "source of life" after all. Mother Nature will call on you if you are... even if MtF! YMMV

Axelle

[Cindy]

I always wanted to. I was a sterile male as I had been castrated when raped. So I could not impregnate my wife, and when we were young it was very early days for IVF etc.
But I have always wanted to carry my children. But I'm way too old.

So just dust off and keep on jiving
Cindy

[Tammy Hope]

the poll doesn't provide adequately for caveats.

I am too old and have to many other priorities even if it were biologically possible.

so i can't say yes to either pregnancy or wanting more kids.

But if I were 25 again, and physically equipped to do so - yes, i'd love to.


More to the point - if I had a magic wish and could wish either to be an attractive fully passable female as a result of having had all my work done, or i could be a natal female with periods and all the other "negatives" one might name, the choice would be easy. My wife thinks it's an insane thing to say, but if i could have anything I wanted, it would have been the life of a woman born physically female, with all that comes with that good and bad.

[Cindy]

What she said

[Maga Girl]

both really want period

Why???!!!!  bio girls hate that

I'm okay with sperm banking

You are lesbian? bi?

[Cindy]

Proof?

[Taka]

Why???!!!!  bio girls hate that

i'm not too sure about that. they are all fine talking and complaining about it even in public some times. whereas i who am bio female but don't feel like it at all any more pretend it doesn't even happen to me, and isn't that much closer to hating it?

i mean, "all" people complain a bit about things they don't like about their friends, spouse etc, but if they really hated them they wouldn't even mention their name


i often find myself in the opposite position of that of many ftm. when i see a pregnant woman i wish i had a wife who'd bear my child. probably won't ever happen, but i like the idea

[Natkat]

pinkfluff; of corse it a lame agument, and I agree 100% with you.
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I used to be very ill during my period, it probebly been a mix of deep depression and much pain,
and I always had to stay home for days, and take pills, when I wasnt on T. (on T I actually felt less pain)

now my pain always always been very bad, but I still cant understand people wanting to be in a pain for 1 week every mounth for years not even cis-gender women who are used to it, and who want children...
I once saw in tv some girls talking about there first period and one said she felt like a women now when she got it, so it didnt really seam unhappy..
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btw, seam as many actually do wanted kids but feel too old, im sorry for not thinking about that while making the poll.

[Ann Onymous]

I can feel for all these GGs that for some reason or other can not bear babies and so desperately would like to. I think is just written in our genes.

Also, we (females) are the "source of life" after all. Mother Nature will call on you if you are... even if MtF! YMMV

not a true statement...there are LOTS of women who never had a maternal instinct.  Some of them are even heterosexual in orientation...

[Taka]

now my pain always always been very bad, but I still cant understand people wanting to be in a pain for 1 week every mounth for years not even cis-gender women who are used to it, and who want children...

not all women experience pain. i never had any pain before having my daughter. after that i have bad cramps every time for about 3-4 hours on the second day. i don't mind the pain or the bleeding. what i don't like about it is the annoying fluctuation in hormone levels, and that i feel like it should just stop because i've already been enough woman for an entire lifetime

I once saw in tv some girls talking about there first period and one said she felt like a women now when she got it, so it didnt really seam unhappy..

i've heard some of that too. weird, i just registered that i got it and dealt with it as any other necessary chore. i wouldn't even have told anyone if i didn't need certain hygiene products

[Hikari]

Of course I would like  to be pregnant and have a child, I think that most women trans or not would want to. I will say though, that since not all cisgendered women want to get pregnant and have a child, I doubt all MTFs would either.

Honestly, if it were possible to have all the correct organs I certainly would want them; in my view all of that goes along with being a woman. Though, I am comforted a bit by the fact that not all cisgendered women get periods or are fertile either and some (such as women with CAIS) have XY chromosomes too, so when I think on it what an MTF can be is within the range that some non trans women are, and that makes me feel better about things.