Parents and... underwear

[Henri]

Recently I've been getting increasingly annoyed with having to wear women's underwear. It really just kind of messes with me. Everything else clothing-wise that I wear is men's clothes. So I've been tempted to go out and buy men's underwear. I'm also going to be getting a packer soon so the fact that men's underwear has that front pouch would be very useful. The only problem is that I live with my dad and I'm not sure how to bring it up with him. He's supportive of me transitioning but it takes him some getting used to each small change that I make. Have any of you guys had this problem? Do you have any suggestions on how to bring it up/etc?

[Sauce]

I am the same way. As for taking small steps at a time, you could start by buying the sporty womens underwear. They are basically longer boy shorts and aren't "cheeky". I got some from walmart and they look just like briefs but are titled for women. So if you're worried about your dad taking it the wrong way that's one approach. Then maybe you could step it up and start buying actual men's briefs. I got a pair of 2 from old navy for 10$ and they are very comfortable. If you still are nervous about telling him you could hide the pair of actual, MENS briefs from him or wash them separately while he's out. Goodluck and hope that helps!

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[Sharky]

Why even tell him about your underwear? You can always do your own laundry, if that's the issue. . Or tell him you just sleep in them. 

[JohnAlex]

Why even tell him about your underwear? You can always do your own laundry, if that's the issue. . Or tell him you just sleep in them. 

I do do my own laundry for exactly that reason.  However, once I accidentally left a pair in the dryer and was basically found out, lol. 
So I think he (the dad) is going to find out either way.

[Noah G.]

My vote is to just buy the underwear (you can get multi-packs for not too bad of a price at department stores). If you're truly worried then do your own laundry, and if he finds out just say they're more comfortable or something.

Regular underwear (briefs, boxer briefs, boxers) are no big deal if you really think about it, and it's not as though they're obvious to everyone, so maybe he won't even care.

This does remind me though of the fact that the other day my ma no doubt spotted one of my jock straps when she threw a load of laundry in the washer for me -- there's really no reason to have a jock strap unless you have something for it to support. I thought for sure she would say something (it was my rainbow/pride one at that), but I was a little surprised that it was never mentioned. Even when she told me she put a load in for me. Glad though that she didn't go a step further and put everything in the dryer as well.

[Silas]

I begged my mom for boxers (briefs are icky to me XD), but she kept saying no because she knew it wasn't just to sleep in, and she felt it'd be "crossing a line". She ended up letting me get crappy cotton ones to swim in, then later when they were all I wore, gave in and let me buy a pack of men's boxers.

If you have the money, I suggest just buying your own. It's none of your dad's business, really. Say they're more comfortable. Or if you're into that expensive "slowly does it" stuff, you could go for boyshorts or sports undies, or maybe patterned boxer briefs? XD My chick friend has one pair of boxer briefs identical to mine.

[Lee]

I'm sure it depends on your family, but it ended up being no big deal for me.  I forgot my laundry in the dryer at my parents' place a few weeks ago, and everything ended up sorted and folded courtesy of my mother.  I was a bit worried she might bring up the fact that all of my underwear is fairly obviously men's, but it ended up not being an issue. 

[Thrall]

i don't know your dad, but i can tell you about what happened to me.

my mom is a christian, pretty much a homophobic, transphobic, non-white people phobic, etc.
i visited her place this summer. i washed my obviously male underwear and put it in a balcony to dry. i also hanged out at home in my boxers (so she didn't think it was my boyfriend's). not a single f*** was given.

[anibioman]

Why even tell him about your underwear? You can always do your own laundry, if that's the issue. . Or tell him you just sleep in them.

if you get boxers you could definitely tell him you sleep in them especially since its summer now. you can always buy your own underwear most raindews and rite aids and such sell hanes which are plenty comfy.

[Julian]

My mom's actually bought me men's briefs before; I popped them in the shopping cart and explained that I like underwear to cover my butt. Which is true, for me at least. Women's briefs ride up, men's don't.

I also buy boxer briefs for myself. I do my own laundry most of the time, and if my mom's noticed them in my basket in the laundry room, she hasn't said anything. It's no big deal, it seems.

[Hadrian]

I really haven't had this problem, especially since my grandma in OR is the one that gave me my first pair of boxers (to sleep in haha), but I'm pretty sure my grandmother here (mid-west) has noticed that all my underwear is MALE and I'm almost positive she's seen my binder, but she has been very careful not to say anything except to randomly say that: "I'm a girl, I should be wearing/liking girl things" She's not a stupid woman so I'm sure she's got ideas.

I don't have probs w my parents since I don't speak to my dad, and my mom lives in OR. My grandmother here in the mid-west is my worry. I don't know how she's going to react when she actually has to recognise what's going on in my life. She didn't like it when I first cut off my hair, but I think now she's just trying to be supportive bc she's doesn't want to push me away when she knows damn well my supposed parents aren't there for me and has taken it upon herself to be my "stand-in" mom.

[Sam-]

I was worried about it too, but I just went out one day and bought my own boxer briefs and my mom's done my laundry since then and hasn't said anything, except actually commented that she liked a certain pair of them. I was surprised. You might be too, just give it a shot, if you get too worried just make sure you keep it separate from the rest of your dirty clothes and wash them when no one is around. I don't think you really need to discuss it with him, underwear is kindof a private thing. Just do it on the down low.

[Mr.Rainey]

If they are comfy and cover what they are supposed to why should anyone care lol.

[Darrin Scott]

My mom's actually bought me men's briefs before; I popped them in the shopping cart and explained that I like underwear to cover my butt. Which is true, for me at least. Women's briefs ride up, men's don't.

I did the same thing with my grandmother. Only I didn't explain and she didn't ask.

[LilKittyCatZoey]

Haha ok so try womens sport underwear  Cbs123 is right i mean i hate mens underwear so i sometimes wear those and even in a change room guys didnt notice they were womens.  and your parents will be none the wiser.