Can I do this?

[Dylan Michael]

Hey guys I really need some advice. So I'm starting high school this fall in a city where nobody knows me. I want to go as myself obviously, and I don't care if I'm out. The problem is my parents don't want me to transition. My dad is really unnacepting and thinks I'm a self fullfilling prophecy or something? And my mom says I'm
Making it worse than it is and that she doesn't wanna deal with it. But I can't go to school as a girl. The thought makes me wanna die. Anyways, my new school has a GSA and some teachers have a triangle sticker in their room for lgbt idk exactly but it seems like a good school to be out at. So my question is can I email my school counselor and tell them about me and ask if I can be out even though my parents want me to go as a girl? I told my mom I was gonna email the counselor like 2 minutes ago and she didn't say anything. Sorry for the rant... I'm just really worried and anxious about this. Any advice would help a lot. Thanks.

[TroyTransistor]

How accepting are your parents? Is there cause for concern about being kicked out if they discover that you're going to school as male? If there is, I would suggest against it merely because being homeless sucks (my friend is homeless, and he can't always find a place to stay). If not, go for it. Mental health is important too, and it sounds like you're having difficulties not transitioning. Sit down with you parents and tell them how it affects you to not be able to transition and how it would be better to be living as male. It might take time, but they'll come around.
Good luck,
Troy

[JohnAlex]

He's young, I don't think his parents are legally allowed to kick him out.   But his parents could od lots of other mean things, if they wanted.

[Dylan Michael]

My dad is not accepting at all. My mom used to be but now she just doesn't wanna deal with it so I'm not sure. I'm 99% sure I wouldnt get kicked out because they are divorced so if one kicked me out I could live with the other. Or with my grandparents who are really accepting.. I should live with them lol. I try talking all the time, but my dad freaks out and my mom just ignores me and gets all annoyed. And I really don't think they would hurt me or anything. It just sucks because I'm super nervous for school in the first place and being trans makes it like 10 times worse :/ . But thanks for replying

[N.Chaos]

Alex, if you've got a counselor that's any kind of supportive, I don't think there'd be any issue with you emailing them. You'd probably want to talk to your teachers individually as well, just so they don't slip up on names or anything, or to at least reduce the risk. If there's seriously no risk of you being kicked out or hurt, I say go for it. Alleviate as much stress as humanly possible, y'know? Fix what you can, or at least try to.

[GQjoey]

Not sure what state you're in, or what your school's guidelines are, but I finished up HS (10th-12th) as male. Meaning, nobody knew my trans status besides one social worker, and the principal. At the time I was living with my dad, and he's always been real supportive, so I just went in with him, talked to the social worker, and they enrolled me with my initials. If you could get one of your parents to agree to go in with you, and sit down and speak with someone, you may be able to do the same.

[Dylan Michael]

I don't know the counselor yet and I'm not even registered yet but I found the counselors email on the school website. I'm trying really hard to get at least one parent to help me but they just won't so I guess I'll do it myself if I can

[LilKittyCatZoey]

Be careful Alex not everyone is so accepting and i suggest e-mail the councilor before you get your hopes up because i assume from your rant you are pre-t and gym class well you cant change with other boys if your gonna have female puberty. This more than just being a boy have to plan around a lot of school stuff with the councilor before you get your hopes up.
The other problem is the school may not allow it because you have unsupportive parents and that may effect your academics.

Sorry but i needed to bring you into reality. Your at the beginning of puberty and entering the most judgmental part of your life High school> If you havent been a boy yet high school is not the best place to start when unpaired because adolescent sex driven boys are fools and overly self conscious adolescent girls are no better.

JUST BE CAREFUL YOUR SITUATION HAS WAY TOO MANY WAYS YOU CAN BE HURT try make your parents become more supportive because you will need them.

love zoey

[emil]

instead of emailing him/her and explaining the whole issue in an email, i would email the counselor and ask for an appointment. just because it's a good idea to give him visible proof you're a boy. he'll probably want to meet you before making any kind of decision anyways. and that way you are becoming an actual person instead of just some kid that wrote an email.

edit: just came up with another idea: how about you bring a grandparent? that way the counselor will know you have some family support.

[Dylan Michael]

Thanks for warning me but I was bullied really bad at my old school for being a lesbian (which I wasn't even out as one) so either way I'll get bullied. Also, I don't have to do gym class this year because you can choose to do it in 10th grade instead so I'll do that.  I'm gonna ask my grandma tomorrow if she will take me to meet the counselor. That's a good idea thank you!