Making a move

[mowdan6]

Now that I have been able to change gender markers, had surgery...etc,. I have decided to try to get back into my old profession.  When I told my family, I got mixed responses.  Some are happy and some want to give me negative messages.  And, both messages are true.  There is good and bad with every move we make. 
I need to decide what messages to listen to.  If I listen to the negative, nothing will ever change.  If I listen to the positive, I need to also be aware that there are pitfalls, but, being aware of them, I can overcome.
Just wanted to write this because i feel we all deal with similar situations in transitioning.   Who do I open up too....How can I be me......My parents/friends don't accept me.  Etc.  I have come to the conclusion....it's all a choice.  If we listen to the naysayers, nothing will ever change, and we get to do the same thing, over and over, every day.  If we listen to the naysayers, and take a chance anyway.  Well, even if it does'nt work out, we can re-adjust, keep trying, at least we are moving. 

[AbraCadabra]

Hi mowdan,
all changes are scary, loaded with risk, but ALSO with new opportunities.

The only way to get unstuck is to step out and take some risk. Opportunities do not come without risk.

Peoples opinions are most often based in risk-avoidance, prefer to tread water, be stuck in the mud.

In the end it depends HOW MUCH risk you are able and willing to take.
You have to use your own training (from nappy training on) and your intuitions to find how far you able to stretch.

Being trans, having done some significant step(s) in your chosen gender direction will tell you "Yes I can stretch" intuition should tell you how FAR, not to overreach and fall of a cliff.

It's not possible to say much more here, as your post is quite nonspecific also your age is not in your profile.

Good luck,
Axelle

[mowdan6]

Hi Axelle.  My age..54....my profession....CPA.  And even though I live in a state that has no trans rights and makes it almost impossible to change a gender marker, I was shocked that the Board of Accountancy here, not only re-instated my license, but changed all my records to male.  All without me asking.  all they know is...I changed my name and took some time off. 
Been out of the field for a while, so I do have alot of catching up to do.....but I am going to do my best.  With God's help.

[mowdan6]

Addition.  I did'nt write this post to be about my situation.  I wrote it for all that are looking to come out to friends, family, work, etc.  It's all about choice.  Yea, it sucks that we have to deal with telling our life to others, facing discrimination, losing loved ones, etc.  And, for myself, I have found, it's a choice between staying stuck or taking a chance.  Moving forward, or staying in a rut.  It has been a hard road.  Those that i thought would be for me...turned against me.  But, it has made me stronger.  Guess I just want to say.....Don't fear being yourself.  To deny self...means to deny having a life.  Staying in the rut...is not a life.

[AbraCadabra]

mowdan,
thank you.
I actually understood your post in that way. Just wanted to make sure I had that right.

WELL DONE, I say!
So you stretched, took risk, and created new opportunities. That is worth some applause!

Thank you for sharing and all the best of luck. It sure will create some pointer for others to overcome some of their fears and reluctance.

Great achievement, thanks again,
Axelle