Signs that you are PASSING. Yea!

[Jillieann Rose]

Went to a restaurant with my wife tonight and the waitress didn't know who to give the bill too.
Was in tee and shorts too. No makeup.
It been happening allot recently.
Six months ago and before that I always got the bill.

Please share some of yours.
This should be fun.

[Jillieann Rose]

Men often hold the door for me.

[Sunnynight]

Men often hold the door for me.

Yeah, I get that a lot, too.

I knew I was passing when I was at a restaurant with some friends and the waiter couldn't figure out why there were two male name credit cards and only one male that he could see.

[JungianZoe]

Some of mine:

Taking five minutes to convince a store clerk that I was the person on my license so that I could buy alcohol (even after dropping into boy voice)

The nice girl at Victoria's Secret looking at me in amazement when I told her I'd never worn a bra, then asking me why

Yet another store clerk ask (while looking at my license) "Is that your boyfriend?"  Me: "No..."  Her: "Your husband?"  Me: "No..."  Her: (30 seconds later) "OOOOOOH!!!"

My friend and I talking about how inexplicable boys are in a restaurant, and having the waitress and manager come over to join the discussion

The Social Security clerk looking at my license and saying "But this is <boy name>'s license"

And of course, every time I go shopping with my friends and hearing "How are you ladies doing?"

I'll never get over these!   But I'm SO glad my name change is legal and I have a new license!

[Jillieann Rose]

Zoë,

But I'm SO glad my name change is legal and I have a new license!

Yea! That's great.
When I use a credit card I'm sure they believe it is my husbands.

[Sunnynight]

I forgot to add one that I've mentioned on this site before. My upstairs neighbor asked me what happened to the boy that was living downstairs with my wife.

[Maddie Secutura]

When guys whistle at you when your out for a run.

[Bird]

I'm not passing as well as you girls yet. If I say I'm a male, or give out my male ID, it is a give away. But I am full time nonetheless and have had my moments in this first week of full time.

Being sent towards the girls changing room.

Hearing "Lady! You forgot your bag!"

Receiving a kiss on the cheek from a guy when he says hi or goodbye

[Randi]

Maiara, you pass better than you think you do.

[Forever21Chic]

    I have more trouble passing in male mode then as a woman. When im dressed as male i don't get the guy "head nod" thing anymore from other guys, instead they just smile and say hi or a long heeey  it makes me feel a little weird cuz im dressed as a guy and not a girl. 


       
         

[Melody Maia]

I like this topic. Some of mine are:

Passing teenage girls and boys and not getting a second glance or giggles from them.

Going to Motor Vehicles to get a new license with my old Texas boy one and being told pointedly "Well, this is HIS license."

Having the girl at the restaurant refer to me as "she" and "her" without makeup.

A guy at work asked me to "turn me on" (he meant the engine of the car he was riding in) and me saying in a saucy way "I don't think I could turn you on honey" and then his reply of "Oh, I'm pretty sure you could." LOL.

Asking another guy at work what the "good word" was and him saying "it is hot baby girl."

Telling a straight girl that I used to be a guy and her accusing me of pulling her leg and lying.

Seeing hundreds of guests a day and having them all say "mam."

Passing isn't new to me anymore, but it still feels great. I don't take it for granted and note when these things happen. I hope all of you get to feel that some day.

[Jillieann Rose]

Passing is becoming normal for me too but I cherish it just the same.
And I'm loving it.

I don't take it for granted and note when these things happen. I hope all of you get to feel that some day.

I so agree Melody.

[Jennifer]

Getting stuck by road construction while in my bikini then having the flagman smile and bend to get a better look at me. As I slowly passed him he smiled and tipped his hardhat and said "HEY THERE MA'AM!" 

Jennifer

[Jillieann Rose]

Oh Wow!
Jennifer that has got to be a high.
Hugs,
Jillieann

[Jennifer]

Oh Wow!
Jennifer that has got to be a high.
Hugs,
Jillieann

Yes it was my first time ever and it gave me butterflies. What a great feeling.

Jennifer

[Maddie Secutura]

You know you're passing when you don't even think about it anymore.  Whether or not I pass hasn't really crossed my mind for over a year now.  Incidentally I can't even remember the last time I was called sir.

[AbraCadabra]

Maddie,
not even over the phone?!

I get "mistered" over the phone all the time - and I do not have a very low voice.
Must sound like a "Queen" to most --- is my best guess.
That is my issue if I would want to call it that.

Otherwise I'm doing fine, bar the odd reminder when I step out in ~ boy-guise ~ , jeans, loose jersey, no boobs showing, trainers if you can picture it.

I do garner these: "What is it now Boy-or-Girl?" looks on my daily health walk.

So in fairness I may be passing only 50/50 by looks alone.

I think too wide/square-ish shoulders also do not help, etc. etc. etc. same old, same old.
But that's just too bad, and I have learned to live with it.

Axelle
PS: I easily lost 1 - 2 sizes in my shoulders already! My mom was pretty muscular...

[Cindy]

Looking at a skirt and the sales woman asks what size are you after, I say I'm usually an 8 or a 10. She replies these are a tight cut, try the 10 and a 12.

Walking into my local hotel restaurant and Dave the manger sees me and says, Cindy you are on Table 4, and the people in the queue look at me with the 'Why is she getting special treatment, he must be in her pants '

[apple pie]

Hello Axélle

I hesitated to say it because it sounds a bit like looking down on others (so please don't take it that way! ), but yes, like Maddie said, you know you pass when you don't think about whether you pass any more. I have been full time for 7 months and by now, I expect to pass so I don't really feel anything any more when people say something that are female-specific to me...

As for the voice, I am fortunate to have quite a passable girl voice from the start, so I actively used my voice to pass when my looks didn't quite pass yet. I seldom get ma'ams though because I sound a bit young (last time I called my country's health service to chase up on some payments, the operator started saying something like "well you don't want to trouble your mum and dad do you darling?"... hellooo I'm old enough to have my own finances already!)

But anyway! I think the thread was intended to mean more like "signs that people are treating you as female rather than male" so... here's one I like: little kids like to smile at me when I smile at them!

[Maddie Secutura]

Not even over the phone.  My student loans are still in my old name so whenever I had to call them up the situation took a little explaining.  I had to address something with the account and they said, "...And you're his...?"
        "Doppleganger," I should have replied.  What I actually said was, "I had a name change among other things."
        "Oh," the operator said, "You can send in the certified copy of the court order and we can get that taken care of for you."