Were you ever Obsessed with being Pretty?

[Devlyn]

At one time I was obsessed with being pretty. That time would be now! I just know someone is going to come by and call us and this thread shallow!

[Ann Onymous]

Don't all girls want to be pretty?  Eventually I settled for passable, but I would have a hard time believing anyone who said she never wanted to be pretty.

I never cared about trying to get to head-turning or even anything other than average.  I don't want the added attention and headaches that come with the better levels of looks...

And, Kristi...you SHOULD be able to believe me on that given that you know how little effort I put into appearances even for the first time meeting someone... 

[wendy]

I just know someone is going to come by and call us and this thread shallow!

Too funny!  I always wanted to be pretty even when I was young.  Guess that was why my head had to be shaved and young boys would toss my gloves and hat over tall iron fences of big inner city.  It was bookworm nerdy look.

I know that I'm not going to look like a model at my age but I do my best to look decent    I do like to feel pretty though

I really have this thing for colors these last few years.  I love bright and bold and flowing and beautiful colors!  Wow I like concept of feeling pretty!  I know I am not pretty but I have purchased nice jewelry and nice expressive clothing. 
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I will take it that a reasonable number of people on this portion of site would like to be pretty to some degree.

I am still married and not out.  (Wonder if "marriage" and "not out" are correlated?  Rhetorical question.) 

Wife informed me that, "Ugly girls do not need to be pretty to be women.   Therefore my feelings are not warranted since I want to be pretty."

My youngest daughter informed me that "Dad you no not want to be a girl!  You just want to be pretty!"

Both wife and daughter are "very" pretty.  I want problem of just being pretty.  Yesterday I dressed in a blue female polo and white female shorts with sterling jewelry , female pansy glasses and light blue female sneakers.  I have a receding hairline and no hair rest of body.  I have pink nails and pink lip gloss.  I wear a sports bra or it hurts  to move too fast.

I met rude people, polite people, and funny people all in one day.  One nurse at doctor's office gave me a T-shirt and told me to submit a picture for a $100 prize.  I told her I bet I would win!

One pen-pal on this site has told me world sees me as humorous gay cross-dresser.    I do not see myself as a humorous gay cross-dresser but that strikes me as funny.

Shame shame on me! Self-centered, shallow and want to be pretty!

[AbraCadabra]

Hehe,
such a funny and self-revelatory post surely needs some applause!
Surely some others can not help but feel a bit giggly now also? :-)
Well done!

Axelle
PS: I LOVE pink, no question, nails or otherwise --- and add my nightie!... oh, and aren't we ever so deliciously shallow. Just love it :-)

[pretty pauline]

Hehe,
such a funny and self-revelatory post surely needs some applause!
Surely some others can not help but feel a bit giggly now also? :-)
Well done!

Axelle
PS: I LOVE pink, no question, nails or otherwise --- and add my nightie!... oh, and aren't we ever so deliciously shallow. Just love it :-)

Yes yes, Im a girl and I want to be pretty, its part of my user name, goes back a long time when my transition was complete, my Dad use to call me ''pretty pink pauline'' Iv spent an absolute forture over the years on clothes, fashion, shoes, hair, nails, skin care and makeup etc all because I want to be pretty, its not an obsession, its a girl thing!
Pauline

[wendy]

Yes yes, Im a girl and I want to be pretty, its part of my user name, goes back a long time when my transition was complete, my Dad use to call me ''pretty pink pauline'' Iv spent an absolute forture over the years on clothes, fashion, shoes, hair, nails, skin care and makeup etc all because I want to be pretty, its not an obsession, its a girl thing!
Pauline

Here's what a "sir" spent on himself:
$6,000 for fixing a cross bite and having Hollywood teeth.
$6000 for removing facial and body hair to become naked mole rat.
$3000 to leave parts bank for future work and beautification.
$3000 for hormones to grow big uns as children call them.
$3000 for doctors to tell me you're different but we love you.
$3000 for androgynous and feminine wardrobe.

That's $24,000 for a sir.  Wonder what it would cost if I was TS?

Said I would never buy a dress! Well I purchased a $50 boring gray stretch dress if I am wrong.

A local surgeon told me could fix nose and brow ridge for $30,000.
I told him computer imaging looks like a pretty male.
He said but earrings would help.

Ah $54,000 and a pair of earrings and I will have a nice nose and good teeth!

Wait a minute!  I still would not be pretty! 

Sorry to disappoint all of you....

I will paint my nails pink and dream.......


Yes confusion leaves when I sleep.
Yes time frozen and I do not weep.

Ah my friend Jack sat across table from me.
Mr. Daniels was smooth, well aged and happy.

I swallow him greedily as I drain him dry.
I still like girls but what's another lie.

But I now look pretty as cloud does grow.
In sleep no one needs to know.

[Jillieann Rose]

Yes I have dreamed about being pretty but know that passable is all I can hope for. 
I love girly pretty things and pink is my favorite color to wear.

[xXRebeccaXx]

Yes I have dreamed about being pretty but know that passable is all I can hope for. 
I love girly pretty things and pink is my favorite color to wear.

I think you're pretty!!!!

[Jillieann Rose]

Thank you for the complement xxJuliaxx.

[barbie]

Here it is not difficult to see women at their 80s wearing lipstick and earrings, together with decorative flowers.

Barbie~~

[Jennifer]

I want to make myself as pretty and feminine as reasonably possible. Lots of make-up and jewelry and frilly clothes and high heels.
I guess you could say I am obsessed with being pretty.

Jennifer

[inna]

The holy grail of trans condition is passability at almost any cost, such is a desire to be seen as genuine and accepted. Being pretty is more of self awareness to make others focus and appreciate you more than someone average and to tell you the truth who really ever want to be average? I find that vanity had surfaced in my psyche right at the onset of allowing my self to start transition, before it was reserved to my own and lasted only a short while while being in fem. Now it engulfed my entire being 24/7. I believe that female psyche is constructed in such way that vanity is an integral part of presentation in order to attract the best mate. Man do the same however their impressive front is built out of sweat, muscle, and testosterone infested brute force.

[xXRebeccaXx]

I want to make myself as pretty and feminine as reasonably possible. Lots of make-up and jewelry and frilly clothes and high heels.
I guess you could say I am obsessed with being pretty.

Jennifer

*Looks at avatar* I would have never guessed

[madirocks]

But of course! Even when I'm in boy mode I try to be, and people always wonder why... Then I ask them why not? I suppose that's a bit strange coming from someone "presenting" as a boy.

Sorry for a quote!

"We desire to possess a beauty that is worth pursuing, worth fighting for, a beauty that is core to who we truly are. We want beauty that can be seen; beauty that can be felt; beauty that affects others; a beauty all our own to unveil." - Stasi Eldredge

It's imprinted into who we are.

[Susan Kay]

Just a couple of random thoughts for contemplation:  What is pretty? What is the opposite of pretty?

Susan Kay

[tunak]

I agree with everyone here, that the desire to look pretty is innate not just in ts women but also ggs.

It is ok to feel this way... but you have to learn how to distinguish what is obsessive and what is normal.
Being a transgirl, our passability is our 'seal of approval and acceptance' by society, and i think that is why many ts women go over board with the surgery. The desire to be accepted drives them to get all these surgeries done to the point that they do it soo much that they become 'synthethic' looking. Now people can do whatever they desire with their bodies.

My point is that ts women like genetic women, have their own imperfections (uniqueness in other words) and we need to learn how to accept them or deal with them. I personally have my own battles with this. I would love to get my brow bone shaved off, my hairline advanced, my hips wider and all. I am learning to accept that perfection is in the eyes of the beholder. I do know i want to get rid of my adams apple, as i find it important in my passibilty. The rest are just obsessions to look pretty.

Also we need to learn to distinguish the difference between passing and looking pretty.

[wendy]

I agree with everyone here, that the desire to look pretty is innate not just in ts women but also ggs.
Also we need to learn to distinguish the difference between passing and looking pretty.

Dear Trisha,
Many use an Avatar to represent themselves.  Your Avatar is very beautiful.

I attended a pre-conference meeting of TG people.  I heard a couple of older men say "He just looks gay."  They were in lobby and did not know me but knew I was one of "T" people.

I am not paranoid just me.  My TS friend told me I looked flaming gay or Gender Bender.  She asked me if  "was there".  I am confused.  My wife gives me pain reward scenario.  I dressed as a girl and used male restroom.  Older guys in restroom said  I guess "He" was outed."  I asked TS folks and they said girls would not have problem with you.  Oh I a  confused.

Trisha how can you find fault in yourself?  Is Avatar just image of yourself?

Today I dresses in front of wife.   I saw a person in mirror  that looked pretty but not girl.  I looked, in between, without surgery but not ugly.  Just different.  If I were accepted I still would want to make make mind and body coincide!

T o t a l l y  c o n f us e d.

[Amazon D]

Been there done that and found out i was becoming superficial and was losing my spirituality which meant more to me. So here i am much happier about myself.

Maybe i should write about how we started out spiritual and knew even though we didn't look like the other gender we were so we had a very strong spirituality of our self. However, then after we finish the outer we then can get hung up on it and lose our strong spirituality.

UNDER OUR GENDER / IDENTIIES
....................Queer.............Q
......................U...................U..........U
...............transsExual.............E
.........................Straight...........S
..........................T.....................T..........T
..........................bIsexual.............I
............................O.....................O.........0
.....................lesbiaN.....................N
...............................INGay...............ING

OUR SPIRITS LAY
WITH OUT PREJUDICE

LISTEN TO THE SPIRITS.....HUMAN LIFE IS A DREAM OF THE REAL SPIRITUL WORLD


UPDATE : I STARTED THAT THREAD HERE ==> https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,103616.new.html#new

[wendy]

Occasionally some random person calls me female and an even rarer person does not correct themselves.  I do not see me as male.  However I do not know what it is to be female since I am viewed as male.

I do not plan on killing myself but Jack Daniels is my boyfriend and I am not able to interact with society.

With great effort I can pass but I will never be very pretty.  Maybe someone will find me attractive?  Certainly my soul mate finds me unattractive as she like males and I am a "whatever".

She is ashamed of me and if I do not remove a "female" marker" I can stay home.  She said remove pink finger nail polish or stay home from volunteer assignment.  And today she said take off scarf and wear a tie or stay home from Church.

I am angry.  A day of volunteering is worth less than pink nails.  Going to church is worth less than wearing a scarf.

A free day of volunteer work is unacceptable if you have pink nails or a day at church is worth less than a scarf?

What am I missing?

Why am I so hideous? 

Society is wrong and I told my wife I should divorce you!  She told me that is fine.

[Sadie]

Dear Trisha,
Many use an Avatar to represent themselves.  Your Avatar is very beautiful.

I attended a pre-conference meeting of TG people.  I heard a couple of older men say "He just looks gay."  They were in lobby and did not know me but knew I was one of "T" people.

I am not paranoid just me.  My TS friend told me I looked flaming gay or Gender Bender.  She asked me if  "was there".  I am confused.  My wife gives me pain reward scenario.  I dressed as a girl and used male restroom.  Older guys in restroom said  I guess "He" was outed."  I asked TS folks and they said girls would not have problem with you.  Oh I a  confused.

Trisha how can you find fault in yourself?  Is Avatar just image of yourself?

Today I dresses in front of wife.   I saw a person in mirror  that looked pretty but not girl.  I looked, in between, without surgery but not ugly.  Just different.  If I were accepted I still would want to make make mind and body coincide!

T o t a l l y  c o n f us e d.

Yes that's Trista, she is utterly gorgeous.