Roomies: To tell, or simply leave it be?

[RenM]

So I've just gotten two new room mates where I live. They are 17 year olds, almost 18- one of whom I'm trying to not crush hard on but he's so hot it shouldn't be legal! His name is Jesse.

Anyway, I've chatted with the more shy of the pair, Ryan, who I came out as being gay to and he was totally cool with it. Jesse, I'm certain, knows because him and Ryan share things. Yet they happily go about the apartment in short shorts and shirtless...which I don't mind.

I know today when I sent Jesse a text asking him if he'd pick a different air freshener scent because it was making my other roomie sick, he said he'd take care of it. Well, apparently right after he went to Ryan and asked if I was mad at him. XD Like when he looked up my face book and I had a different last name (because I didn't want everyone and their mom finding me), then got super defensive when Ryan knew my real last name and he didn't. He was so disappointed...Looked like a kicked puppy. Lol

Point is, my mail comes in under my legal name still (sadly) if it's anything legal. Packages and crap come in my chosen name so that's no big deal. I asked Ryan today that if he ever picks up mail with 'legal name' on it, to hand it to me and I'd take care of it. He didn't seem any the wiser and just said 'Alright, cool. No problem, bro' then we carried on chatting.

This is my first real chance at going stealth and I'm wondering if I should? Or should I out myself now or just wait until some asks a question then confront it if it's ever brought up?

I feel like right now, viewing me as male and not just 'that girl that became a guy', Jesse is warming up to me. He's opening up about some things and even tossing me a lot of honest respect. I don't want to ruin the good vibes we have now because I'd also be outing my other roomie at the same time. @_@
Is it right for me to just let them view me as male and not worry about the details? I'm not hooking up with either of them at this point, so I don't feel they need to know anything unless they specifically ask.
Am I wrong in wanting that?

Any advice is welcome, just please don't hate on me.

[Squirrel698]

If you are confident in your passing and they accept you for who you are than good for you.  I'd say go for it, why not.

However you really do need to be prepared for them to find out one way or another.  Living with someone you tend to learn quite a bit about them.  This is especially true with your male coming under you legal name.  Eventually they might start to wonder if there is more to your story. 

When that happens be ready to answer, "Why the f*** didn't you tell me sooner?"  With that question might come anger and embarrassment from your room-mates as they look back on every single interaction with you.  There might be resentment and that could end badly.  You know these guys.  What are they capable of at the end of the day?     

It's all about weighing the pros and cons.  I hang out with quite a few sexist guys and I know they would be very upset if they found out about my trans status.  It's a chance I take because I need to be seen for who I am.  Regretfully there is still so much misunderstanding of the transgender community.  If they knew about my history they would forever look at me differently.     

[RyGuy]

If you are confident in your passing and they accept you for who you are than good for you.  I'd say go for it, why not.

However you really do need to be prepared for them to find out one way or another.  Living with someone you tend to learn quite a bit about them.  This is especially true with your male coming under you legal name.  Eventually they might start to wonder if there is more to your story. 

When that happens be ready to answer, "Why the f*** didn't you tell me sooner?"  With that question might come anger and embarrassment from your room-mates as they look back on every single interaction with you.  There might be resentment and that could end badly.  You know these guys.  What are they capable of at the end of the day?     

this exactly. most likely people WILL find out, and it's generally better if you can control when and how that happens, but if you feel comfortable leaving it be for now then don't let us stop you.

[RenM]

Yeah, I've been trying to weigh it out and the mass vote seems to be 'let them bring it up' when I've questioned anyone else on their thoughts. I nearly came out to Ryan today but stopped myself. A part of me worries that telling them this early on will ruin things, since they've only been living here two days and I already outed myself as gay.

I think what may be the best route to protect myself is to just get to know them and their views personally a bit better then see where things go from there.
I know if the situation gets violent, I have ways to protect myself so I'm not too worried there. Besides, right now, they seem to hold a lot of respect towards me in the 'big brother' type sense.

I told Jesse when he asked about why Ryan was given 'legal name' and he was given my chosen name that 'The front office is just handing out the wrong information' and left it at that. He didn't question it, just said 'Ah, yeah. That's not cool. Sucks, man'. Soooo I'm not sure if he picked up what I was hinting at or if he just doesn't care. Lol

Edit:

I wanted to add as well that I have walked around the apartment unbound around them to see if they'd notice any difference. Mind you, I don't wear skin tight shirts when I do this but I am trying to ease my own insecurities. Plus, I don't always have a binder to use since my one binder does need to be washed every day after work.

Surprisingly, neither of them have slipped up in calling me male. It may be my voice (5 months and 2 weeks on T now), or just my mannerisms, but they treat me just like one of the guys- even sit around and BS with me when everyone else is asleep.
Ryan also told me that, apparently, Jesse fears upsetting me. O.o Like, I stayed up last night chatting to Ryan's best friend from high school. Jesse had gone to bed. Apparently, Jesse laid awake listening to our conversation (like a creeper...XD), then told Ryan this morning that we'd kept him up but he didn't want to say anything to me because he doesn't want me to think he's a jerk since he already comes off as kinda cold. So, I suppose it's a good thing!