Frustrated.

[Darrin Scott]

I talked to my therapist last time about taking T. He doesn't want to give it to me because he wants me to feel confident presenting as male before HRT. Like, not feel so anxious giving out my male name when no ID is required etc. I get what he is trying to do, but I'm a little miffed. It's very difficult for me to pass pre-T. I'm short and have to wear two binders to cover up my giant chest. I get that some therapists want you to do some RLE before giving out hormones and surgery letters etc, but I just don't see having the confidence pre-t that I need. My voice isn't overtly feminine, but it's not really in the male range, either. I emailed him and told him my concerns and he said he'd review my file and do some research. Research into what I'm not sure, but I don't know what I should do. There's no plan in place or anything. Someone said my college has an LGBT therapist. I'm not sure if it's true, but I might look into it. I'm just frustrated.

[Sharky]

I would just lie to him and tell him whatever I had to in order to get T.

[wheat thins are delicious]

I would just lie to him and tell him whatever I had to in order to get T.

This, but I also want to remind you that T is not magical, it doesn't work overnight (unfortunately). Your chest will still be the same size, you will still be short, you will still need to introduce yourself as your male name and if needed tell whoever that you are in fact male.  It's possible it will still be hard for you to pass even after T. 

It's taken a little over half a year for me to pass consistently as male.  Just starting T did not ignite confidence in me because I still looked the same (re: T doesn't work overnight) and it's hard to be confident if you know you are not passing.  YMMV

[Darrin Scott]

Thanks. I know it's not magical. I might just be impatient.

[JohnAlex]

Yeah, maybe you should just start seeing a different therapist.  but before you waste your money on a new therapist, maybe you should email the therapist and ask them how long they like to wait until they will write a T letter.