I need your help

[janis]

 
  Hi, I am new to your post, so please if you can help me I would be very great full///  I am 66yrs young and been trans all my life, but not in the open.
I have been married for 32yrs to my wonderful wife witch I loved her so much but she passed away last yr. and I am heart broken,and we have two beautiful girls.
  My wife new about me about a year after we were married, when I tool her., she said she would never leave me & she stayed whit me all the way/ 
but now I want to be the person I always wanted to be.  I have a great counselor and who help me so much in my inner self/// she said I should be the person I was meant to be/// but I would like to here from others to tell my loves ones what I would love to do///  an I never thought I can cry so much, for a so call guy?
Thanks So Much,
Janis

[Devlyn]

Hi Janis, welcome to Susans! Jump right in and start making friends! Hugs, Tracey

[janis]

Thanks Tracey///
I just want to be the person I should have been///
  Janis

[Jasper]

Hey, welcome to Susan's.

I know there are tons of people to talk to here that can help you through this. =]

Have fun here!

[RachaelAnn22]

Welcome Janis,there are lots of knowledgable people here.Hugs,Rachael.

[Jillieann Rose]

Hi Janis,
I am almost 61 years young.
Glad you joined.
I have been married 30 years this month,
Welcome to Susan's
Jillieann

[annette]

Hi Janis

Welcome from another old gall.
To answer your question...I think you should talk to your loved ones.
Tell them the truth....when they hear that you have been in the closet for so many years, only for the love of your wife, they have to admire you.
At least, that's what I do, I couldn't do it, so, you're a lot stronger than me.
Take the last hurdle to become who you really are.
You were so altruistic for so many years, it looks fair to me that the time has come you live your life the way you want.
I know, it's hard to come out of the closet, but, we all had to do it, and there is no easy way to do it.
But, when your loved ones are accepting you as you are, the reward is priceless.

Good luck honey, you can't hide forever.

hugs
Annette

[gennee]

Hi Janis and welcome. Be the person that you really want to be. I'm 63 and have been married for 31 years. I came out to my wife over six years ago and havenmt looked back. Many times we share sweaters, skirts, blouses and dresses. Itms been fun and interesting. 

[gennee]

Hi Janis and welcome to Susan's. Be the person that always wanted to be. I came out to my wife over six years ago and haven't looked back.I'm 63 and have been married for 31 years. We share skirts, dresses, blouses, and sweaters. I have more jewlry tha she does. Who would have thunk it!

[janis]

  Hi Again,
   I went to see my GP Doctor today,and I made my first step in and I told her about myself// which I should her the letter from my counselor., I told her how much this has been killing me all these years/// she told me to keep praying and I will get a answer/// Well this is my first step in telling my love one,s/// Thanks for listening///
   Thanks for listening.,  Janis

[Jillieann Rose]

Janis,
That is great.
Loved once are usually the hardest to tell and you never know what there reaction will be.
Just keep moving forward one step at a time and you will make it.
Hugs,
Jillieann

[janis]

  Hi,
   As I said that I findley tool my doctor and know I want to tell my daughters/// but know I just found out my oldest girl is going to have a baby/// I do not want to upset her at this time  what to do//
Janis

[janis]

    Hi Again,
      I have been doing very good with my doctor, been on hormones for three
    months, and feeling a lot better about myself., my nipples are feeling a little
    sour, but the Doctor said that is fine knowing that everything is working.
    Well get back to everyone.
      Hugs Janis

[Bexi]

Its good to hear everything is going ok. Congratulations for your daughter too!

If I were you, I would sit them all together and calmly explain about your situation. How you have felt trans for all of your life, your lovely wife's support and how finally you can be who you want to be. I would wait a while, until the euphoria surrounding your daughter's expectancy has died down.

I'm sure they are good people and will accept your choice  Good luck and all the best
x

[janis]

   HI  Again,
     
     I would like to know how long for the nipples
   to stop hurting?

   Thanks, Janis

[Rita]

Probably never, once in a while you will hurt =P.  The intense feelings and sensitivity is heightened and prominent as your breasts really begin to bud and grow.  Now that the growth is normalizing and slowly adding the pain has subsided.  Its no longer a week by week issue for me.  Just a every so often pain associated with growth,

[Jillieann Rose]

About a year into hrt my nipples stop hurting all the time. After that until 2 years in they just hurt occasional for a week or so at a time. After 2 1/2 years they haven't hurt in months.
But each person is different. They will stop hurting after awhile.

[Rita]

Until your hormone levels go a little wacky    A sudden influx of estrogen has been known to make for tender partings.

[janis]

     Thank You,  Rita & Jullieann Rose, for giving me the
       information that I need., they are starting to feel
       very nice
     janis