Little things you can't do because of being trans/andro/genderqueer

[xAndrewx]

Hey guys, so normally I try to avoid negativity but I know throughout the boards I occasionally see people frustrated about something they can't/choose not to wear or do & to still "pass". So I thought maybe a thread to vent about the little things that you don't think are worth a new thread might be cool. Any other situations that don't fit into that scenario are cool too. Then follow it up with anything positive about your day, your life, anything really.

I might have also created this to vent my annoyance too 

So here goes- I choose not to shave my head even though I love having it shaved because it kills my passing rate by more than half the tradeoff of loving my hair not equal to the uncomfortableness of not passing.
The positive aspect? Between losing weight and T I think I might be able to pass with a shaved head in the next year

[NatashaD]

Just doing a mental search of people with shaved heads, I think the shaved head look usually works better with a goat-tee to balance it out. T will help with that.

As for my rant, I would like the option of being able to transition and go back into the Army. I had many complaints about the Army itself, but I really liked my job and if I were to go to a job in the same field here in the outside world, I'd have to start at the bottom.

[eli77]

Cool, I like the idea. Oddly, mine is a hair thing too:

I would really, really like to cut my hair back to my jawline or above, but my jaw is still too sharp to do it. So I'm stuck with an inch or two longer than that unless I want to look awful which means my hair is forever getting in my face and trying to convince me to eat it. However, if I can gain 10 pounds my jaw might soften enough that I can do as I like with the hair. Fingers crossed!

[Lily]

Give birth. 

[Wolfsnake]

Dress femmy. I always wanted to be that boy who wore lip gloss and nail polish. :/

[Renee_]

which means my hair is forever getting in my face and trying to convince me to eat it.

Bangs aren't just for aesthetics. My hair goes 6-8 inches down past my shoulders. I was always having that problem till I trimmed in some bangs. They give me a more feminine look and are very effective in keeping my hair out of my face, not perfect but it's rare instead of common now.

[420NEKO]

Idk if this fits here, but-

I feel like I can't act 'natural'. My body language is VERY feminine and sexual, even when I'm around someone I can't stand. When I try to be aware of it and change it, it only makes me look more awkward. x_x

[eli77]

Bangs aren't just for aesthetics. My hair goes 6-8 inches down past my shoulders. I was always having that problem till I trimmed in some bangs. They give me a more feminine look and are very effective in keeping my hair out of my face, not perfect but it's rare instead of common now.

Thanks for the advice. It's something I've considered, and I'll probably do it if I end up stuck with hair this long.

[Amaranth]

I can't say a word when I use any public bathroom without freaking out because I don't have the voice down.  And I'm pre-everything so I won't be able to go swimming or use dorm showers or locker rooms for a long time. T_T

[Fighter]

Give birth. 

That's hardly "little", but true all the same .

Spreading my legs in public. It's so uncomfortable to keep them so close together all the time, and it just looks so un-feminine! Heck, even cis-women can't do that, but at least they feel comfortable having their legs close together...I think...I need more female friends so I can get answers to questions like that >_>.

[Padma]

Going swimming in public - I feel like I won't be able to do that again until I get "debulged", and I love swimming.

[Futura]

I cannot fight in a war because everyone is bigger, stronger and faster than me...

[JenJen2011]

I'm tired of having to tuck every single day. It's a pain to have to go through. And unless I'm using duct tape, I have to wear certain clothes that will sort of hide that area.

The positive..I will have SRS, hopefully within the next 1-2 years. Then I'll be able to wear whatever I want including a bikini for swimming. Oh, and I'd love to be able to wear a thong, hehe. That may have been TMI.

[xAndrewx]

I don't mean to offend anyone with this statement but it's interesting to see how similar in some ways our troubles are even with being opposite genders. The females not able to swim due to their lower half, the males unable to swim because of their upper half. I can remove this comment if it offends anyone.


I'd love to respond to everyone but this is quite a busy thread already. I'm glad it has been of use to some

[NatashaD]

I cannot fight in a war because everyone is bigger, stronger and faster than me...

Having been there and done that multiple times, unless you are a full-on dwarf, you can go to war.

Audie Murphy was only 5'5".

[JenJen2011]

I don't mean to offend anyone with this statement but it's interesting to see how similar in some ways our troubles are even with being opposite genders. The females not able to swim due to their lower half, the males unable to swim because of their upper half. I can remove this comment if it offends anyone.


I'd love to respond to everyone but this is quite a busy thread already. I'm glad it has been of use to some

That was not offensive at all. It's the complete truth. And yes, great topic!

[Padma]

I don't mean to offend anyone with this statement but it's interesting to see how similar in some ways our troubles are even with being opposite genders. The females not able to swim due to their lower half, the males unable to swim because of their upper half. I can remove this comment if it offends anyone.

Certainly no offence here - I know the day my friend first went to a public pool with his top off, post-top surgery, was the happiest day of his life .

[Bird]

Not being able to go to the beach or swim, totally.

One little thing that bothers me right now is having to avoid guys in cis clubs when I go out. They obviously want a cis girl, and even if they don't realise I'm TG at first, I feel if I make out with them they would easily find out. Heck, all it takes is a bit of pressure in between my legs and he would notice something is not quite right.

So, not being able to go on proper dates at the moment annoys me.

On another hand... I want to say I'm actually enjoying being TG because I absolutely love the good moments.

[Jasper]

Thought I'd pop in on this thread.

I hate not being able to swim in public - or walk around in summer topless. It annoys the heck out of me and hugely triggers my dysphoria when I go to the beach with my dog and all those college boys are out in the water. I wanna go!

The positive? I may have finally found a therapist, so maybe I can start T sometime in the nearish future. yay!

[Elise]

move to a new state be homeless and be safe