Hi everyone

[towee]

I'm new to the site (hence the introduction). I recently found that my husband is attracted to and actively seeing some transgender partners. This seems like a good place to come to terms with it, an learn a little more about it.

[Jen61]

If by "seeing" you mean having a sexual realtionship, then my advice is to document it, and then file for divorce on the basis of adultery.

However, if what you meanby "seeing" is just firenship, well, then it is Okj as long as you are included if you so choose.

Did he diclose his ->-bleeped-<- before you got marriage? or this is a recent development?

Jen61

[Princess of Hearts]

The Spanish say that there are two things you must never advise anyone to do.

(1) Go to war.

(2) Get married.

I would like to add a third: (3) Get divorced.

[Devlyn]

Hi Towee, welcome to Susans! I'm sorry you're having troubles. I can't offer marriage advice, but I know others here will help you out. Best wishes, hugs, Tracey

[gennee]

Welcome to the site, Towee.

[Padma]

Hi, Towee - when it comes to relationships, as my friend from Yorkshire would say, "Take my advice: don't take my advice!" So I won't offer advice, I'll ask instead: how do you feel at the moment about what your husband is doing?

Meanwhile, welcome to Susan's! We're a diverse and friendly bunch here (the head count is over 8000) - get into things as slowly or as quickly as you feel comfortable, I'm sure you'll find plenty of support here.

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