Questions for people who are/have been stealth in high school.

[Wilhelm]

When I have legally changed my name and other stuff I'm gonna go back to highschool. But I'm gonna be stealth because I just moved so nobody knows me. And I pass 100% so there's no problem there. My dad told me that our neighbors had asked about his son. And I'm the only child he has! And there has been another FTM a few years ago, that went to the school I'm gonna start in. So the school is completely cool with it.

Anyway, here's my questions:
If people touched your chest, did they notice the binder?
If you've hugged someone, did they notice the binder then?
And if you pack, and someone touched it through jeans, did they think it felt real? How about through sweat pants? (btw, what packer do/did you have?)
Did you come out to anybody and if you did, how did they react?
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Also, I'm not gonna have Phys. Ed. instead I'm gonna have to do something else. I have no idea what but as long as it doesn't involve a locker room, I'm happy!

[icontact]

I was stealth in high school (except to those who had known me from freshman year/middle school) and am stealth in college currently.

If people touched your chest, did they notice the binder? No. I have been moderately felt up on a few occasions and no one has noticed. Obviously, if you are a D cup, things are different.
If you've hugged someone, did they notice the binder then? No.
And if you pack, and someone touched it through jeans, did they think it felt real? How about through sweat pants? (btw, what packer do/did you have?) Do not pack, I have been kicked in the crotch before without questions being asked.
Did you come out to anybody and if you did, how did they react? It depends on the person, and I will only come out to people who I know are queer-friendly so that biases my experiences. One of my ex-girlfriends barely blinked and went back to making out with me. One freaked out and dumped me on the spot, but a week later, she got over it. Most people just take a mental step back, probably ask a few questions about what it really means, how does it work, etc. and just move on with life. In my experiences, after the initial coming out, people often forget that you are trans. Funny enough, I have had to re-come out to people because they had simply forgotten.

[harlee]

If you legally change your name, certain things should be so much easier My name isnt legally changed, so important things and tests that come from outside of the school are in my legal name.. fortunately tho, my school has been really good about it.

To answer your questions, I try not to let people touch my chest, but it has happened a few times. One time I was hit across the chest by my friend.. but it was with his arm, not hand, lucky! So far I dont think anyone has noticed (they havent said anything at least) but it could depend on how you bind and position yourself. Same goes with the hugging. I dont think anyone has noticed or said.

Sometimes I will pack for school, sometimes I wont.. but I have a Good Vibes packer that is 4 inches (sometimes I feel like its too big for me). Im pretty sure tho, that if you go to school stealth and someone touches your packer through your clothes that they will definitely think its real I have been kicked "in the balls" while I wasnt packing, but the person who did it didnt notice anything, they thought they had got me. So you should be right.

I guess when it comes it coming out, different people will react in different ways. My parents didnt freak out when I told them, but I feel as if they arent really supportive about it either They dont try with pronouns at all, so having friends home from school would be awkward.. it never happens. I have come out to friends who once knew me as a girl and I have also come out to a few who knew as male from the beginning, all have reacted pretty well

Have fun at school  It feels so so so much better when you can go as yourself!

[Wilhelm]

Just thought I'd say thanks for the answers, and now I'm actually, kind of, almost looking forward to school. Trippy.

[Sam-]

Just wanted to tell you that you're lucky to have figured yourself out this young, I would kill to have gone through high school as male. I mean I'm only twenty myself, but I didn't figure it out til right after I graduated. Good luck man, I'm sure all will go well. The general population isn't much aware of trans-people, so they won't even think twice about maybe feeling something a little off under your shirt and definitely not down below. It's just not on their minds especially when they only know you as male. 

[mcZ]

I'm totally stealth at school at the moment and there hasn't been any problems. A guy has (jokingly) stroked my chest and he didn't notice my binder. I don't pack and I've has girls sitting on my lap and they didn't notice anything wrong. So my experience has been very positive. Good luck with school bro.