Quote from: Isabelle on April 21, 2013, 07:37:37 AM
I still feel I need ffs. I seem to pass but yeah... I think I'll always struggle with my own reflection... Anyway, you've seen my before... Now, do I need my nose and chin done to look cis? Be honest. Please.
Isabelle, usually I don't like giving criticism cause, well, I just don't like doing it. But I'll make an exception since you clearly want it. (Not that my opinion carries any weight. Just one woman's thoughts).
In your profile pic, I don't see any need for any cosmetic procedure on either your nose or chin. You look 100 percent cis. On the frontal shot, your nose is still fine. Could you make it smaller. Yes. Does it need it. No. It looks female and any surgery you might want on your nose would be for your own emotional well-being and to help erase that old image completely.
On your chin: yes, you do have a bit of a cleft chin. However, your chin is also rather short or small so you def wouldn't need (or even want) FFS on it. I did some reading and there are thousands of women with the same problem as you and they almost quote you word for word on how they feel about it. I just looked at 100s of photos of cis women with the same chin problem who pretty much feel the same way you do and said what you said almost word for word. They feel it makes them look manly. If you had a long chin you might need FFS, but it isn't long, it's short and female. So how can something that mainly effects females be manly? Anyhoo, It doesn't take away from your ability to pass whatsoever. Know that. You would prob want cleft chin surgery before rhinoplasty, if you were to go that route. But, you don't need it.
I understand though how women, especially us trans women, are super critical of ourselves and getting it taken care of seems like it would help you a great deal emotionally. You don't need any FFS. Your chin is feminine; it just has the cleft.
Also, you're really beautiful. I mean seriously pretty. There is something to be said for leaving everything as is. Sometimes our perceived flaws are what makes us so unique. But do what you need to do to feel as best you possibly can. I also read that you could get the chin taken care of with a simple outpatient procedure where they inject a filler, Restylane or Juvederm, in order to smooth out the cleft. It would be much, much cheaper than actual cleft chin surgery. You really shouldn't get rhinoplasty as you nose is fine. But I mean who couldn't use cosmetic surgery? Everyone has flaws. And sometimes we look so hard for flaws that after awhile that is all we see. But I'm here to tell you what I see and what I see is an incredibly attractive late 20s woman who I'd run through a bed of hot coals just to date once. I'm funny that way. If I get money to get to NZ, you may have to take out a restraining order on me JK LOL.
Hope this helps in someway and I hope I didn't hurt your feelings or anything. And don't forget, I wasn't kidding when I said how attractive I think you are. I don't lie, ever. I wouldn't say it if I didn't mean it. Say Hi to Peter Jackson for me. All you Kiwis know each other, right lol haha Actually, I'm a much bigger fan of his earlier work, like Heavenly Creatures. LOTR, meh.
