Quote from: Amalina on January 04, 2012, 04:27:44 PM
I can see that already about the admiration. It's definitely one of the factors for me on a few people. Also I think that's the problem some may have with you, unfortunately they see honest opinion as being mean. I don't think I've read anything of yours that I would take as mean. People can get hurt easy though, I fall into that as well, but so far thankfully I've seen very little real mean words around the board and none towards me yet.
Transition for some people is like renovating your house and replacing the entire house frame with glass. Basically, if you live as a male and are good at being male, its hard to live as a female. Believe me, it took me a long time to develop a tough shell...Because people are gonna say and do stuff that will shatter your transition...No matter who you are. I've been offended by my coworkers more times than I'd like to count. But guess what? I dealt with it, processed their opinions, and proved them wrong or simply didn't give a f****. But I had less distance to travel in my transition, as I was already fairly andro as a boy. A lot of people don't have that option or have parents who didn't care how their son presented herself.
No one wants their "passing" shattered or anything else. I even posted a photo of me without makeup, because a few people on here said I wore too much makeup or whatever in some feeble attack of "->-bleeped-<-r than thou". In the world of plastic ->-bleeped-<-s, that took balls. I look exactly the same without makeup, maybe even better LOL
But I didn't always have a high opinion of myself. In high school and college, I was timid and weak. It wasn't until I started living as a gay male that I got the power to be bad ass. I think my male duality has helped me through a lot and on a board where people are in essence
transitioning(wanting the priviledge of genetic females). Ego stroking and raunchy humor can be hard to bare. But I am also very supportive of many people here...they WERQK it and are awesome individuals.