Howdy!
We're out here.
After about 10 years of being single and not looking (it really was not miserable by any means), the right woman showed up. I thought I had a good life, but suddenly this woman came into my life that shared so much with me and complimented me with her differences from me. So I married her. I wasn't looking for anyone - I was fine being single. But if you find love, you find love.
Prior to meeting her, I had several intersexed friends, so I knew a tiny bit about sex and gender (a tiny bit, sadly, is way more than most people know). So the idea that someone might identify one way but have been identified on their original birth certificate another way wasn't all that huge of a stretch for me. Did I ever anticipate marrying anyone but a female that was originally and always identified as female? No, it never even crossed my mind that I would. And I had plenty of ugly prejudices, albeit mostly before I became friends with a some intersexed people. I've learned that the heart doesn't always follow my prejudice. That's a good thing. I'm glad that my heart was wise enough to love my wife, and very glad my mind was able to catch up.
I can't say I can see myself as a stereotypical male. And my life experiences have proven that things aren't quite as simple or black and white as the uninformed typically believe them to be. I'm even learning that it's okay to be me - whatever that looks like. It's one of the gifts my wife gave me: she can first-hand put into perspective how important being honst with yourself and society is. Most people never have anything in their life that requires that level of honesty. So most people aren't honest.
There are people who will follow love, even some of us men! I fear that we're not quite in the majority, but we're still there. There are straight guys who will love you with everything in their being. Yes, there are other types too, and it's really important to figure out which type a guy is (that's true for everyone, regardless of the gender of your partner - you need to know if they are decent or not! Too many women find lousy husbands and vise-versa). But we're not all bigots. But we may be ignorant and need to be educated. A decent guy can be easily educated. If it's a struggle, that's a warning sign. But there are guys without that problem, really!
Sorry for the long, rambling post. But one of the reasons I do post here is to let people know we exist, both other men who might be worried and women who might wonder if we exist. We do, and, while I'm taken, don't worry, there's better choices than me out there.
And I truly wish you to find the love that would fill your heart with joy.
