Once again, the cycle of arguments goes around and around and around....
Did I say, anywhere, at any time, that sexual reassignment surgery is a choice or is optional?
No, I didn't.
But that doesn't mean that it is, by it's very nature, absolutely 100% mandatory either.
That's where the problem lies.
Just because I can live without srs does not make me a woman. Just because I can live with my vagina doesn't make me a woman any more than having been born with one.
THE DEFINITION OF WOMAN IS NOT VAGINA!
Is this really so bloody hard to understand?
It's not about whether or not SRS is or isn't fundamentally a choice, it's about the fact that it can be, for some, possible to be themselves without srs while others may feel they need it to be remotely comfortable in their own skin.
It's absolutely, 100% necessary for some, but not all.
THIS DOES NOT MAKE THEM ANY LESS MEN OR WOMEN!ยจ
Yes, for most of us, "if" it were possible to have a 100% guaranteed result of a 100% fully functional set of genitals, we'd all jump at the chance, but let's face it, there's no 100% guarantee, there's no 100% fully functional, and there's a lot of pain, a lot of cost, and considerable risk of losing more than just a little.
You know this, you've been here a while, you've seen girls post of their third or fourth revision, eventually giving up on the hope of ever feeling content with what surgery has brought them.
We do have a choice, I don't care what WPATH says, no one can physically force us to have any surgery of any kind against our wills. We can "choose" not to accept a medically necessary heart transplant. We can "choose" not to undergo medically necessary cancer treatments. Therefore we can "choose" not to have SRS.
Those of us who choose not to have SRS don't do so because we're "crazy" but because when we're faced with the cost (fiscal, physical and mental) as well as the risks, and we weigh that against our own personal level of dysphoria regarding the downstairs area and the results we can theoretically expect in a "best case" scenario, we find that in our own personal position, as it is, at least for the time being, the surgery is not something we're willing to go through with.
This doesn't mean that it was a simple choice for other people, in other positions, with other personal backgrounds and so on.
It doesn't mean that it's the same for everyone.
It doesn't mean it's cosmetic or even "elective".
It means quite simply that my body will be altered to suit my needs. MY NEEDS!
Not yours, not some other persons, MY NEEDS!
It doesn't change what your needs were any less "needs".
It means that I am not you.
It's very simple.
I am not you.
Here's the only thing I want from you.
Stop dictating my identity, stop dictating my transition, and stop othering me.
That's it!
