I just came out to parents today

[mellissa]

I just came out to my parents. they have been watching me for years and finally today they sat me down and asked me to come out they actually don't care they accept me thank god my dad said if anyone messes with me he will beat their ass. And that's coming from a drill sergeant but anyway Im transsexual I am a girl I'm not a guy I'm stuck in this horrid body and I need to know if I can use scholarship money to pay for my srs and other things I just need the boobs and vagina evrything else is already as if im a girl people already think I'm a girl which I am I just need the right body to fit me so how much would it be for just those 2 surgerys also how can I find a therapists to talk to so I can get this done earlyand then do basic training and the rest of college                                                                                                                         

[~RoadToTrista~]

Hi mellissa! ^.^ you're braver than me I'm waiting till i get the frick out of school, lol

[mellissa]

Lol I can't wait im ready to live as my right genderi wad going to wait but the cooperation of my parents made it a lot easier

[Felix]

You can't officially use scholarship, grant, or school loan money for SRS, but people do all the time. Try not to get into trouble.

I'm glad your parents are supportive.

[AndromedaVox]

Hey Mellissa,

I was in your situation a while back. I started transitioning when I was 15, because like you, I had supportive parents. You are very fortunate that they seem to be accepting. This is going to be quite a journey, so I would say definitely take a breath. SRS will be down the road, as you will need to be on hormones and seeing a therapist for a while before SRS comes into the picture. The best thing you can do now is find a good therapist who has experience with working with transgendered people (this may be easier if you are near a larger city) and from there you can start the process of transition with androgen blockers, estrogen and perhaps laser hair removal/electrolysis. Once you feel comfortable you can start living full-time as a girl.

I know surgery sounds like the best part of transitioning, but honestly, I feel that going full-time as a girl and being seen as female by the outside world was a much more meaningful accomplishment than the surgery. The surgery will give you a vagina, but being a woman is much more than just having a vagina.

Best of luck to you!

Andromeda

[Michelle.]

Congrats sweetie, your quite brave.
If, I, only had a time machine!!!

Time is on your side. Just start saving money from a part time job. It won't pay for everything, but would go along ways towards securing loans.

[mellissa]

Thank you everyone its nice to talk to people like me I've been depressed about my situation but when my parents finallly realized I wasn't happy for a number of years they caught on so anyways would Columbia south Carolina be a big city its the home to south carolina gamecocks a very recognized college football team also if I got a part time job now could I have Atleast half the money by 19 also do I need the hair removal process? and will hormones shape my body to fit my mind? Thank you everyone and I hope your having the best of life.

[justmeinoz]

If your parents are behind you then that's the major hurdle out of the way.  As for your father being a drilly, it sounds like you are looking at the Army as a female soldier so he will be happy about you continuing the tradition I  would think.

At your age HRT will have a strong effect, the effect diminishes with the older you start. I am 58 and after six months am on the way to actually having a waistline, hips and sub-A sized boobs. You should do fine.
Just don't be surprised at how much upper body strength you lose, I am fairly fit but am still surprised at what I can no longer do easily.

Transition is not always easy, but it sure beats the alternative. Have a great future.

Karen.

[lilacwoman]

Hi Melissa
congrats on having super parents...they'll make life a lot easier.

at your age your face and body hair will still be growing in so if you get on hormones it might stunt and not get tyoo bad but face hair shadow is a dead gievaway so get a part time job and start electrolysis and alser to kill all the hair.  iot ain't cheap and it isn't quick but it has ot be done so you can go out barefaced instead of having to go out with heavy foundation and makeup when all the other girl sare barefaced.

[mellissa]

So I was told a transsexual can't join the army which sucks and I'm trying for hormones but where do i start how do i get a therapists

[A]

I'm happy about your parents and how it's turning out. I seriously congratulate and envy you for going with it so soon in life. Though I can't help but say... Please, for my eyes, buy a bunch of commas to put in your sentences. They're cheap. o_o

Ahem. I'm pretty sure transsexuals can join the army. Apart from that, I think the first step would be to go to your family doctor and expose the situation to them. Not sure how old you are, but you feel like you're young. You need hormone blockers as quickly as possible. Getting HRT might be a little longer, but your number one priority is stopping the self-destruction of your body by testosterone.

You could also start by going to your school's psychologist. They might be able to refer you resources.

[mellissa]

One of the administrators on this site said that we cannot join the army and she told me that I couldn't put my age for various situation but I'm a junior in highschool

[~RoadToTrista~]

I'm pretty sure you can't join the military, post-op or not. The only way is if you hold off transitioning and don't let it out.

[mellissa]

Well that sucks we csn do the same as other people that's rude

[~RoadToTrista~]

Yup, well in America. I think one guy on here said Canada let's trans ppl into their military.

I wonder if you can do it in stealth after surgery, lol

[MarinaM]

One of the administrators on this site said that we cannot join the army and she told me that I couldn't put my age for various situation but I'm a junior in highschool

Yeah, that's a side effect of transsexualism being classified treated as a mental/ physical condition, they won't let you in the army. You might try the Coast Guard Reserve.

Scholarships get routed to your education expenses, they're intercepted by your college's financial aid office, so if you don't get a refund those are not gonna help you either.

Try to find a part time job, dump as much as you can into transition while you're still young, and if your parents are cool with it, get their help too.

[mellissa]

Thanks Yall and I wonder if you can joiin without them knowimg your transsexual because like I said I already look like a girl what if they can't tell

[MarinaM]

Thanks Yall and I wonder if you can joiin without them knowimg your transsexual because like I said I already look like a girl what if they can't tell

They give you a physical and have access to your medical records. Only way to do that is go in as a boy, or have surgery beforehand (maybe)

I was in serious discussions with a recruiter about going into political espionage, then they found out I had asthma and they disappeared. I just got a letter in the mail that said I was not needed.

[mellissa]

I'm sorry:/ so I plan on having the surgery first before I join so could they still tell if i joined after surgery

[MarinaM]

Yes, and I'm not sure how the current SOC works, but we were diagnosed with GID, which is technically a mental disorder (to them) and it precludes you from service. If it's no longer done that way you might be able to go in as a girl after the fact. Talk to a therapist, or consult the SOC.