Why is considered a sticky topic, I wonder... Is because the very essence of non-binary goes beyond what most cis-gender people know about the 2 primary genders (man/woman)?
At any rate, my birth name- the name the world knows me as- is Jamie. I guess hence my username I go by Mx. July on here also. Everyone can call me by either name. I'm just happy, blessed I guess, my parents, male or female, would've named me with the same unisex name. The gender label I've been using for a few years now, really because it's one of the first I came across that really described my gender identity the best, is genderqueer. But I've started wondering if maybe I should reexamine that label. Like maybe instead I'm agender, or pangender, or bigender- one is as good as the next.
All I know is my gender identity is most definitely not male nor is female. If I'm a combination of male & female, or a member of the third gender or third sex I've come across. Except for my brain, I'm physically & biologically utterly female (or "flea-male" as I sometimes jokingly say).
Beyond gender, I am a 23 year old coffee-drinking, vegetarian, fantastically creative, pansexual-demisexual working in the veterinary field. With a love of all things horror, & utterly clueless why I've always disliked the taste of cinnamon roles.
I've been actively questioning my gender since about 2007, or maybe 2008. But when I was little, as far as I know, I willingly & even chose to wear dresses all the time when I was little; & I have no memory if I actively expressed persistent dislike with my physical self (I mean, other than dislike with being overweight).
Currently, I'm trying to narrow down a list of possible names in order to eventually change my name to something more gender neutral. Along with looking for a mental health counselor that specializes in transgender issues.
Oh, & backstory behind my username: it's kind of a moniker of like "Miss USA" or "Miss [insert state name here]". I came across "Mx" yesterday as an apparent gender neutral form of "Mr" or "Mrs". And basically, the July & 1991 is a reference to my birth date. So... I'm Mr/Miss July of 1991 (my full "title").
This is me in a nutshell.