Hello. I try to keep my legal name off the Internet, so just call me music. Demisexual, masculine by habit, and I guess questioning-genderfluid too.
So first up, I have to acknowledge that there are lots and lots of people here far more courageous than I am, caught between bigotry and self doubt far worse than anything I deal with. I have a lot of respect for them and as silly as it sounds I sometimes suspect I'm "not trans* enough."
(No one's makes me feel that way, it's just my self-doubt.)
I like my body. And I can't honestly say "I'm not male." Penis? Check. Attracted to women? Sure, if they impress me on an emotional level. I friend-zone masculine guys. Oh, and I come from strict LGBT-phobic parents so it's sooooo tempting to let them keep thinking "he's straight, thank God he's not one of them queers. Doesn't like porn? What an angel!"
(Not quite. I've been known to write it from time to time.)
The thing is ever since the puberty fairy came along, I've become less and less one of the guys. More than anything it's like everyone else moved along, fit comfortably into adult gender roles, etc., etc. It didn't help that I was pretty seriously depressed and suffering undiagnosed metabolic issues that very well could have messed with my hormones.
Through school, I was happiest in smart, creative, gender-mixed company: math, debate, music, drama. But what I realize now is I probably got read gay. Bitterly ironic, huh? Of all things I'm not, "pretty twink seeking a big strong man" ranks just about furthest from the mark.
Hypothesis: my masculinity is just an act, into which I've been typecast. It's not even a role I hate, just sometimes it's limiting. I bet Nick Cage has days where he dreams of playing a serious badass in a serious movie (or just in a serious movie), or Jim Carey would maybe once not be Ace Ventura.
My heroic ideal, with the understanding that heroes are people not boys goes something like this. I want be fun like Richard Feynman and brilliant like Ingrid Daubechies. I want to follow my own beat like Nikola Tesla. I want to stare down the darkness of the human soul like Flannery O'Connor and love like Fred Rogers. I want to be the badass action-chick star of a Joss Whedon story, or conflicted and noble like O. S. Card's Andrew Wiggins, or just delightfully weird like Luna of the Potterverse.
And that's, more or less, who I am. For now.