I will straight up...Looking at this site, youtube, other places. I'd rather be compared to a drag queen. I have been called a "drag queen", "fugly" "->-bleeped-<-", "->-bleeped-<-" "It", "s/he", etc throughout my 3 years transition. Granted, it's only been to my face once or twice and a few time on internet forums. However, these terms dropped off the more I transitioned, improved my makeup, etc... I took the negative comments and did something with them.
But the truth is, that is how people are gonna see you especially if they know. Now for some of you are gonna have HRT do magic. I know it did with me, but I was never masculine looking before. I was a fairly feminine boy. But for others, you're gonna have to deal with these terms. It doesn't make the people ignorant. But although most people can suspend believe or not know. People aren't stupid.
Common people notice broad shoulders, masculine features, big hands, etc. Although we may surround ourselves with cheerleaders here. Reality is not like that... When I look at the photos of people here...I turn off the female side of my brain and turn on the objective male side. Most of the time I say nothing.
It is not for me to pass judgment on someone else's transition if they ask or post photos for critique. If you say you pass with flying colors, you better post a photo. Without photos, you've got nothing and are blowing smoke on this forum.
As for the hatred of drag queens in thread, I will say that a lot of drag queens make gorgeous women when they don't do crazy ass clown makeup. Most of my friends in "light" drag make beautiful women, as many gay men are born lookin femme. Watch "RuPaul drag race" and imagine them with natural hair, HRT, hormones, etc... They look wonderful and passable. But...it takes work. A lot of work even if you were born feminine...naturally butch girls will have an even harder time.
However, for most of the people in the transcommunity who work in IT, play rpg games, etc.. They are not used to the harshness of this. Truth is, no matter how you choose to identify. You need to put you're all into your look. No makeup will get you clocked immediately and people will call you ugly. Transition is not an RPG or a video game. It's real life with real consequences. People will judge you for your looks even if you were cis. It's cold hard reality.
But truth is, these terms are gonna be applied to you if you have the whole shebang(ffs, BA, srs). It's just how society is, so if you're gonna have a face...you better make it good.
