when children make fun of me

[Dane]

Yeah, from 4th to 8th grade, kids are just getting to start swearing and knowing that words can hurt people. They tend to go off the handle because it is something new and exciting and everything. But, as this has been directed at you for like 2 years, you should most def put a stop to it. It shows you have a lot of patience and stuff. If kids were making fun of me, there would be a whole Step Brothers Beating Up Kids Montage.

Just beef up, give them a dirty look right in their beady little eyes, and keep going. That's generally how I keep my sister's friends and little cousins at bay. You could also go down the route of Questioning, which will put one child on the spot in front of their peers. This will freak them out and show the rest of them that you mean business.

[eshaver]

I read you're post and thought as to the best way to answer it . All I can say is welcome to Trans- world . yes , here we experience ridicule from the Religious right, kids and neanderthals . Me , I grew up in the very early 1950's . Things ain't changed too much , I dare say they will too. Meanwhile , I just became grew a THICK, thick skin, determined to force my way through life and fight off ANY urges to harm my self . That's my defense . And that's my story and I'm sticking to it .  ellen

[Felix]

Just beef up, give them a dirty look right in their beady little eyes, and keep going. That's generally how I keep my sister's friends and little cousins at bay. You could also go down the route of Questioning, which will put one child on the spot in front of their peers. This will freak them out and show the rest of them that you mean business.

^ This strategy is how I deal with it for the most part.

I do think that yeah some of them are just getting off on the idea of being offensive. It's a new power for them, and I'm a target they've already got a script for.

[justmeinoz]

One thing tio remember Felix, is that if it is not on paper, or an e-mail it doesn't exist as far as they are concerned.  Any time I complain about anything like this I send copies to all the relevant bodies, and make a note listing them as a postscript.

Amazing how fast people can move when they know others are watching.The fact that your daughter has had mental health issues makes the situation worse, because they could be affecting her recovery.If anyone doesn't get a fair hearing from the Police, just write to their superior, so they can get their arse properly kicked!

Karen.   

[mixie]

I would definitely document something and send it to the school.  Far too many people do not document, they call or talk to teachers or administrators.  You need to document things in order to create a paper trail.

Your daughter may be inviting it by talking about it but it's sort of a vicious circle in that.   I'm not saying your daughter shouldn't talk about it, but once someone has been a bigoted jerk there is this feeling that you don't want to put it away from conversation so quickly because it feels like you backed down.

I will say however this is probably an excellent lesson in your daughters life to teach her to not care what others think and to stay her course and be true to herself in life.   If you think of the number of "can I pass"  "am I good enough"  women out there in the world I would say that your daughter is a strong proud young woman.

Bravo to the both of you and hugs.

[Mahsa Tezani]

One thing tio remember Felix, is that if it is not on paper, or an e-mail it doesn't exist as far as they are concerned.  Any time I complain about anything like this I send copies to all the relevant bodies, and make a note listing them as a postscript.

Really? I think people in real life mean more than people on the net. If someone makes fun of you in real life...It is a real person. Not some loser empowered behind a keyboard.

[mixie]

Really? I think people in real life mean more than people on the net. If someone makes fun of you in real life...It is a real person. Not some loser empowered behind a keyboard.

I think she means documenting to create a paper trail.   If you "call" or "talk to the teacher"  there is no evidence really what was said in the conversation.   You just need to send a little note to school that says something like

"I just wanted to let you know that XXX has come home upset that she is being bullied in school because of this issue"  etc etc etc.   Date it, and even notarize it.   Send one copy to the principal, one to the guidance and one to the teacher.   Then they will take it very seriously.  Otherwise they will yes you to death and do nothing.

[Mahsa Tezani]

I think she means documenting to create a paper trail.   If you "call" or "talk to the teacher"  there is no evidence really what was said in the conversation.   You just need to send a little note to school that says something like

"I just wanted to let you know that XXX has come home upset that she is being bullied in school because of this issue"  etc etc etc.   Date it, and even notarize it.   Send one copy to the principal, one to the guidance and one to the teacher.   Then they will take it very seriously.  Otherwise they will yes you to death and do nothing.

Well then nevermind.

*stays empowered behind keyboard*

[justmeinoz]

I meant that there are other people who have been informed of the situation, Ombudsman, MP's, Council members etc.  The inference is that they may ask questions too.

As for kids who approach me and ask why I talk the way I do, I lie and tell them to ask their Mum what throat cancer is!  The look on the bigoted parent's faces is priceless!!    As the Rugby coach said, "get your retaliation in first!"

Karen.

[Felix]

I got what you meant. A paper trail is incredibly important, and no I have not been creating one. I need to do that.