regret

[Felix]

There's a guy where I live who transitioned to female and then back to male. He's got soft skin and great breasts, and facial hair, and I would assume he must have had some regret or he wouldn't have detransitioned, but he seems pretty happy with himself.

I've not met anyone else like that, though. I've also never met any guy who regretted top surgery, or taking T, or getting a name change, etc. These steps often bring great relief and higher functionality.

[Darrin Scott]

I think too because these things don't happen overnight and generally are very costly and time consuming, it's less likely you'll make a mistake. Especially if you're sure now.

[Natkat]

thanks for all the comments guys
i have just posted this out of curiosity and to end the argument w/my parents
i personally over the corse of 3 years have moved into wearing guy cloths to the point where i wanna squirm if i'm wearing anything with a woman's label on it.
i was going to a therapist but my parents pulled me out cause they didn't want the therapist supporting my decision, however she said that if i had continued for a few more sessions she would have diagnosed me w/ GID.
also, i cross dress at every oppertunity i get and i when i do my friends support me and adress me by my prefered name and pronouns.
so i know what i wanna do, i was just wondering if i should look out for warning signs of regret although i doubt i will have any.

Well for my point of view, I got alot of "what if you chance your mind" comments,  and I even questioned myself "what if there right?"
but I take it like this, "yeah what if I chance my mind and regret it, or what if I regret I never did it because I thought I would chance my mind?"

I think as long your yourself and just follow your heart, for who you are and what you want with your life, then it I am sure it will be all fine.

[bojangles]

what if I regret I never did it

There's not a day that goes by that I don't wish I could have done this sooner.
I do regret the effect transition has had on some relationships. Difficult to say which of these is stronger.
In my case, some of the effect on relationships is related to transitioning later.

Yes, it is a big decision that should not be taken lightly.
Good idea to test the waters as you are doing. Be as sure as you can be, but know that doubt and fear are normal parts of change and committment.

[Luc]

I've been on T 3 years, full-time for 5. In that time, I've been married and divorced, lost 3 jobs due to transition/intolerance toward transfolk, lost a few friends, had my beloved dog stolen, lost my family for a year (and now they're only back to tell me I'm an abomination), haven't been able to get work for months (unknown as to whether or not this is trans-related), suffered severe bursitis and back problems from binding, have been assaulted for being trans, and just recently had my dad threaten me with violence if I insisted upon being treated like a guy. The last on the list caused me to leave my folks' house, which was the only home I had, and I've been living in my truck with my girlfriend for the past week and a half. Every time I apply for a job, I have to show two different IDs--- the state-issued one with the right name and gender marker, and my SS card, with the wrong name. I have to fight ignorant doctors to get T refills, and have been forced to go off T multiple times due to this.

Would I ever go back? Hell no. I have no assurance that anything would have occurred differently had I not transitioned, and I can't imagine I'd even still be alive if I hadn't. But yes, you have to go with what resonates best with you.