why do people think they can tell you how to dress

[Elsa.G]

im 22 years old, i live in my own place (with a roomate) i pay my own rent and bills, buy my own things, have my own car, etc. I believe im a very responsible person, there are times when i ask my parents for help but i pay them back and its not that often. A lot of people, especially in my ignorant family think it's ok to tell me how i should live my life. They dont accept me for being TG but they tolerate it (most of the time). I usually dress "punk/rockabill"y except when im at work just because there is a dress code at my job. It happened today at a dinner with most of my family, 4 of my female cousins 3 of which are younger than me and one that is my age kept telling me how i am too old to dress the way i do. I hate it, its really making me angry im only freakin 22! it's not like im a freakin housewife with 2 kids and a husband im young and single and i feel that i can dress however i want for as long i want. I am not into the young professional look, its sooo boring and im definitely not one of those girls that goes shopping every time they see the "latest trend" on tv or magazines.  I also noticed that sometimes people consider dressing "grown up" to be slutty and skimpy, i dont get this standard it's ok to look like a dowright hoe sometimes but dressing alternatively is not ok. Sorry i had to vent, i have a feeling im not the only one that feels this way

[Mahsa Tezani]

Cuz at other parts of your life, you're expected to wear many outfits in professional vs casual settings. I think you can do whatever you want...But do you want to look like a 35 yr. goth? As time goes on and after high school, you make the look more and more subtle. Rockabilly on the weekends werqkin the hair during the week. Being a TG is already hard enough, and rather than bring attention to yourself, you should dress appropriate for the situations.

I was a metal head in high school...Ultra gay when I turned 18... and I think being female made me dress and present myself more mature.

I go to wineries and I would normally save my "venice beach" style for something appropriote. A nice blouse and dress pants to dinner at a nice restaurant.

I think the women are looking out for you.

[Marta]

i think it has to do with the people around u too. I dress similarly as well, most of the time and no one including my family has ever really cared. I think you can dress however u want, and in the end it doesn't matter what other's tell you because it's you're decision.  I think you are right about other's telling you how to dress, it seems like if you arent keeping up with the latest trend or whatever than it's not an acceptable form of dress for an adult. And i know this because i just turned 21 and i think once you reach that age or even before you're expected to act like a boring ass adult, not by everyone but there are many people who think that way. In my opinion it doesn't matter what society wants or thinks, they aren't living your life anyway.