miss-gendered... again (venting post)

[Felix]

Nygeel I'm not going to forget your voice. You certainly sound like a dude.

I pass kinda pretty well for someone pre-t and pre-surgical who tends to flutter around and act generally too feminine.

But no one thinks I'm as old as I am, and I out myself sometimes by letting my voice get high pitched.

And, well, I don't know what good to say, except that Dominick I see you as all man. I have no reason not to.

[Guantanamera]

But no one thinks I'm as old as I am,

You mean your not fifteen?

I think you look amazing for pre-HRT, I can't even picture you as something else but male. (Even down to the style of your writing.)

[Nygeel]

@Nygeel: I'm sorry. That totally sucks. I hope things change for you soon and you get read as male more. I know it sucks being on T for that long and getting read as female. Hopefully it won't be too much longer and more people will read you as male.

Yea. I assume things will change soon but then again I've been saying that for almost a year lol. It's just odd and surprising how...unfulfilling hormonal transition has been for me so far. I know that things should get better, but I don't know if they will...and that's what is scary for me right now.

[Guantanamera]

Yea. I assume things will change soon but then again I've been saying that for almost a year lol. It's just odd and surprising how...unfulfilling hormonal transition has been for me so far. I know that things should get better, but I don't know if they will...and that's what is scary for me right now.

If it's any consolation. I always read you as male- from your avatar pic to the tone/style of your writings.

I firmly believe that you're not only going to be passable- but that your going to blow most natal men of the water. (Most trans men do.)

Don't give up hope!

[Dominick_81]

While I can't judge anything but your appearance, I think you're one hot meatsack of a man. However, your mannerisms/voice might be getting you clocked.

Besides, how often do you get clocked in comparison to passing? Even 1 in 10 is really good odds.

I know it sucks to be clocked, but consider yourself fortunate that you are both attractive and FTM. Most trans women are not 'objectively attractive' as considered by society, and it usually takes us much more work/time to pass than people of the other persuasion.

Keep it up. I know that you'll pass!

Thanks Guantanamera! She called me ma'm before I said anything, so I don't think it was my voice. I don't think my mannerism is famine at all, but who knows.  I'm guessing it was my height.

Yea. I assume things will change soon but then again I've been saying that for almost a year lol. It's just odd and surprising how...unfulfilling hormonal transition has been for me so far. I know that things should get better, but I don't know if they will...and that's what is scary for me right now.

I know the feeling. Do you plan on taking T for a few more years, or are you frustrated and gonna stop after so many years if things don't  change? And I agree with Felix, you do sound like a dude.

@Felix: Thanks! You pass pretty well in your pic there pre-T.

[Nygeel]

For me, my health is a bigger issue. I would like to have the ability to take T for as ling as possible but I'm not willing to do it at the expense of my quality of life (including physical and psychological health).

[Dominick_81]

@Nygeel: Yeah, I get that. Totally understandable.