I found that most of those online "how to gain a female voice" lessons and tutorials were a complete waste of time. They rarely including any decent advice. Especially that "Finding your female voice" lesson made by Deep Stealth. Horrible.
Here are a couple videos that actually helped me begin to understand how to use a female voice:
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Some of the advice in there is useful, some is not so much.
This is extremely hard to explain through text, but I hope I can give you some insight as well.
Once you use your male voice for several years, it is extremely hard to get back to a female voice, but in my opinion, everyone is capable of doing it, they just lack the knowledge of which muscles to utilize and which ones not to.
Remember. Females are controlled by their hormones. This applies to almost everything about them, even their voices, therefore over-trying to achieve a female sounding voice is the wrong way to go, since using a female voice actually requires you to act completely natural, and you shouldn't have to think about it.
What I suggest is for you to first have your tongue in the proper relaxed position for a female, which is, having your tongue rest against the roof of your mouth. Higher than a male's resting position. If this seems awkward, it is because your tongue muscles have gotten lazy over the years from not using them. Males do not tend to use their tongue muscles as much when they create words, they instead use their breath, or raspiness. Not sure how to describe it.
Try doing some tongue exercises to strengthen your pronunciation of words, such as saying the sound "GUH" over and over. You'll notice that saying "GUH" makes the back of your tongue touch the roof of your mouth.
You should also try strengthening your lip muscles to better pronounce things. I suggest seeing a speech therapist, and asking them how you can strengthen your pronunciation.
When I say to pronounce things better, I don't want you to forcefully pronounce things. In the end, words should flow out of your mouth with great efficiency, and hardly any effort. Have you ever noticed that women can pronounce words very well with their teeth closed together, as if when they are angry? That is because they're using their tongue and lips to pronounce their words, not their breath. Their words are spoken with graceful, efficient movements from the tongue and lips, as if their tongue is dancing in their mouth, only positioning their tongue and lips somewhere they really NEED to be to produce the sound they want, and changing their tongue or lip's position for the next sound should be quick, efficient and flowing.
A woman's pitch is almost involuntarily controlled, if that makes any sense. When a woman laughs, or screams, she isn't thinking about raising the pitch of her voice higher, she is instead relying on her emotions to do this for her. When speaking, different emotions and feelings should make your voice automatically want to tighten up, raising your pitch, and relax, lowering your pitch, as you move your tongue and lips around creating words.
Like I said, hard to explain through text. I wish I could sit down with you, personally, and teach you, telling you what you're doing wrong, and what you're doing right.
As I mentioned earlier, if you are getting frustrated, I really suggest seeing a speech therapist.
Singing along while listening to female singers, trying your best to imitate their voice is also another great way to practice, since singing is very flowing.
Best of luck to you.
