What to do

[person]

Well I'm 16 year old and crossdress a bit. I don't know what to do. When I'm alone at home I dress up in my mom's clothes and after a bit clean up and put the stuff back so not to get caught. But lately i've been getting these feeling that I need to crossdress and I can't because my mom is home or my big bro is home. I've been getting these feels more and more and now I don't know what to do. So I need advice.

[Maebh]

Yes that's a tough one!

How long have you had these feelings? Do you dress-up fully or only wear certain garments? Have you got your own room? Can you afford to get your own stuff? Would you have a safe place to stash it away? Is there any CD/TV support group near where you live?
One thing is sure these feelings won't go away. Like all of us, had at some stage, you will find your own way on how best to accomodate them according to your circumtance.  Don't worry too much; from my experience, when the left and right side of the brain get together most TG can be quite resourceful. What about organising a fancy-dress party?


You already have found Susan's place as a resource. You are not alone.

All the best on your journey of self discovery and self expression.

Light, Hope, Love and Respect.

Maebh

[HelenW]

Hi, Person, Welcome!

When I was your age I felt very dirty and guilty about cross dressing so the first thing I want to tell you is that it's nothing to be ashamed of.  It's simply a part of who you are.

When I was unable to pursue my feelings in reality, I used my imagination.  This could work for you.  But if you are getting so distracted by your feelings that the rest of your life is beginning to suffer, then maybe you should consider seeing a therapist or counselor to help you deal with things.  A therapist experienced in gender issues would be best, you can find lists of them through this and other sites (check the Links section on the Main Page).  Of course this means you have to tell your parents that something is going on but I don't see that it would be necessary to go into detail with them.  Save that for the therapist.  If that avenue is closed, maybe your school has a counselor that you can trust and who you can talk to?

In the meantime, you can wear things under your outer clothes that can help you feel better.  Sometimes just a simple pair of girl's socks might help to ease the pressure and no one else would know any different.  And, by all means, keep visiting us here at Susan's.  Check out our WIKI if you want some facts and the links if you want variety and come back to the forums and/or chat just for company.

again, WELCOME ! !
helen

[serenity]

Hi you,

To continue what Maebh said this doesn't look like it's going to go away. Many of us passed this road before. Denial can get things worst so don't push it away because it's going to come back anyway.
First you must know who you are when you dress. Do you feel like a women, a men in a dress, a men covering is identity or... etc.
Search this forum for answer, consult Wiki and ask us the questions you think can help you.

When I was your age I was hiding like you do  I waited till it was really late to dress when everyone was asleep. I even stole lingerie from my friends sisters and hide it under my bed. (Don't do that )

Just find your way, you will get it through we always do.

Good luck
Sérénité