My boyfriend is a fink.

[Mahsa Tezani]

I had invited a few of my gay ex boyfriends over to make Christmas cookies with me. I told my boyfriend about it, since he would be spending Christmas with his two lifelong best friends. We argued and he did the usual, "You still act like a little ->-bleeped-<- in drag" lecture.

But then I asked him, "What would you do if your wife cheated on you?" his reply, "I'd leave her" I then said, "Thats hypocritical" and he said, "It is what it is". What a fink.

Now all the sudden, I feel it is right to hit SF again and try and meet a new man again. This man I was a mistress to for the last 20 months is a creepo. Between him blocking my transgender performance stuff, my makeup gigs, etc... It has to end. I will always love him, but when you get so controlling. Also the fact that he can womanize behind my back and it's okay on his end. I'd rather have an open relationship with someone than be bound to him.

[~RoadToTrista~]

I think that's healthy, considering you've been complaining about him since you joined.

[Mahsa Tezani]

I think that's healthy, considering you've been complaining about him since you joined.

Honestly, our sex life has kind of dissolved over the past 3 months. We went to Monterey and Hollywood....and literally spent the night watching TV.

[Anatta]

I had invited a few of my gay ex boyfriends over to make Christmas cookies with me. I told my boyfriend about it, since he would be spending Christmas with his two lifelong best friends. We argued and he did the usual, "You still act like a little ->-bleeped-<- in drag" lecture.

But then I asked him, "What would you do if your wife cheated on you?" his reply, "I'd leave her" I then said, "Thats hypocritical" and he said, "It is what it is". What a fink.

Now all the sudden, I feel it is right to hit SF again and try and meet a new man again. This man I was a mistress to for the last 20 months is a creepo. Between him blocking my transgender performance stuff, my makeup gigs, etc... It has to end. I will always love him, but when you get so controlling. Also the fact that he can womanize behind my back and it's okay on his end. I'd rather have an open relationship with someone than be bound to him.

Kia Ora,

  The choice is yours Mahsa, it always has been and always will be...But I guess it boils down to how strong willed one is...

If you 'think' you are a door mat, then others will see and use you as such...

Metta Zenda

[lilacwoman]

->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s just wanna chase ->-bleeped-<-s then when the novelty dies they go chase another.

[Mahsa Tezani]

->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s just wanna chase ->-bleeped-<-s then when the novelty dies they go chase another.

That's awesome. Except I didn't actually say anything about ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s or even implied my boyfriend was a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<- or that any of the men who have persued me were ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s. So I don't know where you got that idea...

But you know what, you made this thread a bit entertaining... LMAO.

Glad I wasn't drinking milk or my computer screen would have looked like I had just watched prawn.

[lilacwoman]

if he was your b/f he was by definition a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-.

[Mahsa Tezani]

if he was your b/f he was by definition a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-.

And....why? LMAO.

[Felix]

if he was your b/f he was by definition a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-.

That makes no sense.

[Mahsa Tezani]

That makes no sense.

+1

[justmeinoz]

I think the title says it all really.  Time to throw him back and get a new one sis!

[Mahsa Tezani]

if he was your b/f he was by definition a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-.

Listen hun, is this more "->-bleeped-<-r than thou" stuff? Because if it is...I don't give a crap and just stop it now.

[Cindy]

 
Stop now.

I want people on this thread to be very careful and to strictly follow ToS.

Cindy James
Global Moderator

[kelly_aus]

I'm surprised it's taken you this long to work it out..

[Mahsa Tezani]

I'm surprised it's taken you this long to work it out..

The younger guy I met keeps contacting me... That and I am dating another guy.

Plus, the sex life is always the last thing to go. My boyfriend and I can't get through the week without arguing.

[Felix]

Good luck getting over him. Breaking up hurts even when it's a guy (or girl) who is no good for you.

[AbraCadabra]

Good luck getting over him. Breaking up hurts even when it's a guy (or girl) who is no good for you.

The whole situation has co-dependant written all over it, no matter if boy, girl, ->-bleeped-<--->-bleeped-<-, b/f, fink, or what ever you'd call it.

Co-dependency is one serious thing to get hung-up on and by no means easy to overcome.
Some might also call it complementary neurosis.

If you don't have someone to help you keep away from the guy (fink) you'll find yourself going back for more pain over and over again...

You have my sympathies,
Axélle

[Lexicaligari]

Anybody who goes to Montery and Hollywood and ends up watching TV, certainly has cause for reflection! A beautiful gal such as yourself shouldn't squander your time on a jerk. I ain't no spring chicken anymore, dearie, and so I say don't waste your time-- it is fleeting. I did with knuckleheads and its really my only regret-- especially since I had lived the life lessons, and didn't learn from them as fast as I could have. Sweep out the house, put on your best, and see what the world has to offer you this new year!

Best of Luck,
Lexi-
On the Road in Roanoke, VA ; hitching up for more southern climes in the AM--