Quote from: sysm29 on December 09, 2011, 10:46:45 AM
I'd like to read about your experiences with straight men, before during and after your transitions? How do the dynamics of it change? Are men nicer to you? Do straight guys ever hit on you?
If a straight guy's staring at you a little too long for just a usual random look, what's in his mind? Does he know you are trans, is he attracted to you, or is he just really confused?
Wouldn't the world be a much easier place to transition if there were just women in it and no men? It's the men I'm afraid of.
I found men are much nicer to me, but depends if they know my history, I get doors opened for me all the time, I never have to lift anything heavy, Iv never changed a wheel on a car although I could do it, a man will always make himself available to do stuff like that, the local gas station if your female a young guy will do the fill, I don't like smelling of gas anyway, its nice, I like the attention.
Im used to guys staring at and talking to my boobs, many years ago I had a boyfriend when I was pre op, we didn't get intimate till I had my surgery and the right equipment, few years after that I was post op, had another boyfriend, when I disclosed my history he didn't except me and ended the relationship.
Then I met my current fiancé, dated him for over a year, disclosed my history, he excepted me, got engaged and we are now married, over all, Iv had very different experiences, I remembered being bullied in my school days, called a puff, fag etc. one of my tormentors saw me many years later, he couldnd get over the change, he apologized, said I made an attractive woman, I think he found me attractive, started to hit on me, but I definitely wasn't interested, he wasn't my kind of guy, I knew his history, he was a bully, not the kind of guy a girl like me would want to have a relationship with, my present husband is a straight guy, a gentleman who knows how to treat a woman.
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