Does appearance determine transition?

[ByeBye]

it doesn't matter how much I trans, family keeps telling me, I'm not a girl.

[supremecatoverlord]

Lyss -

I think it's much more important for you to transition and find a way to pass if you're trans than what your family is telling you, as long as you know it isn't true. I'm a transguy, but I tend to frequent all of the sections because I like to stay informed about people in general and keep an open mind in attempting to understand issues that may not be entirely equivalent to my own; I also posted on your topic that talked about the "pronouns" and I know that's what you're referring to here...and I have to say I don't think your comment holds much relevance to this topic, especially with all of the advice many of the people who posted in your topic (and also posted here) have given you. It seems like you're not really paying much mind to what other people are saying to you, because I don't think it's the MTF community ganging up on you like you may feel or something. I also agreed with the things they were saying and it's not fair to keep reiterating your problem when people have already given you advice to help you pass more. Just thought I would say.

[Nurse With Wound]

I imagine what you're noticing is more of a decrease in the age of transition with the Internet and openness of information people are able to discover that they can even transition a lot earlier, I know for me since I'd been pretty reserved when I started using the Internet one of earliest things I searched for was about changing my body to that of a girl which opened me up to what I'd been searching for without asking people face to face. Thus they have less masculine features because they're simply younger.

But if there's one thing I've learned from trans communities it's that there's no finite reason we transition but people transition for all different reasons; whether it's a dysphoria that has them in detest with their body, or they feel that their personality and mannerism would have them better fit in with society as a girl, and combinations of these reasons.

[madirocks]

I have a stupid ugly face, but still want to transition. However, I suppose if it was a bit more than that, I would put more thought into it.

[Kelly J. P.]

Plenty of femme guys don't transition... plenty of masculine ones do. There may be a correlation, but I don't imagine it would be major enough to build a solid idea on.

As for myself, I feel that my appearance is sort of middle-of-the-line, where FFS might be nice, but I can pass without it. I'm probably androgynous-looking in male-mode, though I have no way to know. My transition, however, was not based on whether I could pass or not... I did it hoping I would, but my primary reason was sanity retention. I would have gone crazy if I had to live as male, and I mean that literally.

[RhinoP]

Honestly, I think most orientations and gender disorders are usually pretty genetic and ingrained, but I believe that looks and appearance have a LOT to do with how open and confident one is about it. Generally speaking, the hot boys are the ones who don't get any "flack" at school for coming out as gay or Trans, while the ugly boys are the ones who are always picked on for those very same words - I got picked on so much in high school for being gay at the time - even by other gay boys. There were so many gay boys who, just because they were so much hotter than me, were tremendously popular and very open about their sexualities. Then there were the gay boys who were so extremely ugly that they had like a in-denial sense of confidence and were confident none-the-less. I'm speaking about gays here because Trans people didn't really exist in my school.

Like me, I'm as masculine as can be, I have extremely male features, and male features that even are very ugly compared today's "hot" male (Aston Kutcher, Justin Bieber, Johnny Depp, ect ect). I look more like Jack Black. I'm extremely self-concious about Transitioning and Dating, and people who don't even know I'm Trans call me ugly all the time, even when I dress as a natal male. I have a pretty horrible confidence. I am not transitioning at the moment. I just find it impossible beyond any sort of reason.

However, when it comes to if some boys transition just because they were born looking like a girl, I don't think that's true. If it was true, Justin Bieber (and every one of his genetic clones - there's about 5 in every middle school/high school classroom, his genetic makeup and physical features are extremely common among young boys) would have claimed they were Trans a long time ago. However, these guys indeed end up being the most confident out of Today's male generation (long gone is the sportsy, buff, athletic man - everyone in today's world thinks of that type of man as being a "douchebag".) So wether they're gay, straight, or Trans, the cute, petite, model-esque males in today's world usually are always the most popular, confident, and open about whatever it is they may go through internally.