When did you realize you're not really Gay but Trans?

[BillieTex]

I never thought of myself as gay, but feelings from very young told me I was not what I should have been, but different was wrong. I could be with a man if I didn't have what nature cruelly cursed me with. (and when God has done everything to show me I will not be with a woman - anyone who has loved me deeply is dead - I can never again risk another life for my own happiness) Some day maybe with courage things will change...   

[Mahsa Tezani]

  Yikes...so your really just a gay guy who became a woman for more sex?   

More like...more meaningful sex.

If you've ever lived as a gay guy...meaningful sex is rare. Between the gloryholes, and promiscuity.

But I get sex either way...

[MsDazzler]

More like...more meaningful sex.

If you've ever lived as a gay guy...meaningful sex is rare. Between the gloryholes, and promiscuity.

But I get sex either way...

lmao at tis one.. actually I think you led a way more wild and promiscious sex life as a gay dude than I ever did.... I ve had my fair share to be sure, but my encouhters tended to be on the romantic and drunk hookups 

[MacKenzie]

More like...more meaningful sex.

If you've ever lived as a gay guy...meaningful sex is rare. Between the gloryholes, and promiscuity.

But I get sex either way...

  You have a point. 

[MsDazzler]

Why is it everyone is up in arms if a trans woman could become a hetero woman attracted to men but no one blinks an eye when a transwoman professes to be a lesbian?

I note that formerly gay men-turned-hetero women tends to butt heads with formerly-hetero-men-turned-lesbian women... wonder why... probably because they are coming from different places having grown in different environments, the former environment being LGBT, the latter being non LGBT environment.

Such an irony because the shoe is on the other foot now - you used to be hetero man, now you are gay woman, i used to be gay man, now I am hetero woman. Your transition has earned you TWO LETTERS (L and T) in "LGBT" community identifying your membership while I merely traded one letter for another letter (from G to T), lol.

[MsDazzler]

When I was still teenage I thought I was 'Gay' but then I slowly realized there was something fishy. Even I went to Gay bars I hated it, I didn't like staying with other Gays. But once I went to a Travesti Night and it was SOOOOOOOOOO exciting me when I saw the girls doing a Travesti Pageants, I felt like 'IN'.

And the strangest thing is I AM NOT ATTRACTED SEXUALLY BY GAYS AT ALL, NOT EVEN THE ACTIVE ONES NO MATTER HOW HANDSOME THEY ARE. It's like I get 'turn off' as soon I hear someone is Gay HOWEVER I get very turned on when I hear a guy is STRAIGHT even he is just normal looking and not that handsome (i dont mean ugly though) and it's like I am attracted STRICTLY ONLY BY STRAIGHT MEN.

And in my head I said, how the hell in the world will I attract straight men when I have a male appearance myself and furthermore I always felt and dressed like a girl when I was a child, so there I started crossdressing part-time till 1 day I realized to be happy I need to fo full-time permanently.

And you, what's your story? How long did it take to realize you're trans and not Gay?

omg i cant believe I forgot to +1 this post in the first place - exactly what i described as ONE of my deciding factors to transition - i was not really attracted or happy dating gay men and preferred straight men.

[MacKenzie]

Why is it everyone is up in arms if a trans woman could become a hetero woman attracted to men but no one blinks an eye when a transwoman professes to be a lesbian?

  I don't see anyone doing that here.

[MsDazzler]

  I don't see anyone doing that here.

This thread has 26 replies and the other lesbian-related thread, "Strange Rules of Attraction", has 1 reply (as of this posting) - mine. Furthermore, any gay-related thread tends to either a) fire off a storm of controversy and draw tons of replies or b) ignored/skipped over.

I rest my case.

[Mahsa Tezani]

This thread has 26 replies and the other lesbian-related thread, "Strange Rules of Attraction", has 1 reply - mine. Furthermore, any gay-related thread tends to either a) fire off a storm of controversy and draw tons of replies or b) ignored/skipped over.

I rest my case.

Girl, I knew that with the first one I posted here...

[V M]

I would question myself as to if I were a 'Gay man' but it never seemed like quite the right fit for how I felt and so I would long for something more

I knew I was feminine and wanted to just be one of the girls    I learned about transition when I had finally got a viable computer and searched for ways to grow breasts

From then on I've been a girl on a mission

[MsDazzler]

I would question myself as to if I were a 'Gay man' but it never seemed like quite the right fit for how I felt and so I would long for something more

I knew I was feminine and wanted to just be one of the girls    I learned about transition when I had finally got a viable computer and searched for ways to grow breasts

From then on I've been a girl on a mission

+1 to this! More and more people are transitioning younger and younger those days because of access to computers and Internet. I did not have any access to computers and Internet until I entered undergraduate college!

[Emi]

I thoug in the same way what the "ex- homo men" now "straigh woman" ...
I used to live as a straigh man whit odd  gay fantasyes...but the few times that i try be whit a man...i just got sick and whish that hell end  quickly.
But  in time to time i used to   dream whit be a  woman...just silly fantasyes imagining storys and character....(i am a bit nerdy), but i always thoug that be a woman was just a  stupid dream...and  of course i  never was  really effeminatte...and my problematic bi sexuality  mess all

But close to my 30 years...i realice something... i dont like men really...i like how they make me feel...but i like a lot  female body...but i dont like how straigh females make me feel...
1 + 1 = 2...   i want be whit a lesbian.

Must say somethign  just 2 years ago i realice somethign..i was  atractive as guy, something weird because i always believe that i was ugly..because i was shy..and none girl want to be whit me .

Just to mess all,  at same time i start to discover my own transexuality...i start to date whit transexual (straight ) girls  ...or gay men (indeed they used to thoug  for self as  men too... what date straigh men... a strange  irony...)
One  interesting  fact..a stragh transexual girl non - op .. that rise as a gay man... have some males attitudes ...that fit a lot whit what i want  as a couple... but have a female body..that is what i want  too...So my need to be whit a lesbian is almost complete just being whit a straigh  trans woman.
But the bad thing is..now i know that i want to live as a woman..as a hot woman what can date   lesbian woman (cis or trans   eighter).
And now i have the famous fork....live as a  good (jut good..not a really amazing hot )   guy a bit androginous and  that can qualify as a ->-bleeped-<- of transexual girl and  straigh   manly cis woman  (wow....what a strange combination) ... or take the  misteryous...complicated and   posibly  path to  loniless and depression...make the transition to  a lesbian woman (and lost my actual  relation...  and that suck..because i love this girls and dont want to hurt she and  be hated by her...)

So..in some way i understand  to  MSDazzler 

And by the way..one posibly reason  for your question about why the strigh womane  feel that agresiveness is...because usually lesbian women  dont liek to much listen about how much one women like a man....Or at least that happen to me..nothing  make my GID  blow more and make me sick than notice how much straigh women   want a man...
PD: after say that..you can imagine how much complicated is sometimes  to me  be beside my girl and lsiten her  compliments to man ..or indeed sometimes to my past  more manly look....

I really hope somebody can read what i try to write   I need practice  my english

[xXRebeccaXx]

I realized I was trans when I was 6! I developed feelings for males when I was around 12.

[MsDazzler]

I thoug in the same way what the "ex- homo men" now "straigh woman" ...
I used to live as a straigh man whit odd  gay fantasyes...but the few times that i try be whit a man...i just got sick and whish that hell end  quickly.
But  in time to time i used to   dream whit be a  woman...just silly fantasyes imagining storys and character....(i am a bit nerdy), but i always thoug that be a woman was just a  stupid dream...and  of course i  never was  really effeminatte...and my problematic bi sexuality  mess all

But close to my 30 years...i realice something... i dont like men really...i like how they make me feel...but i like a lot  female body...but i dont like how straigh females make me feel...
1 + 1 = 2...   i want be whit a lesbian.

Must say somethign  just 2 years ago i realice somethign..i was  atractive as guy, something weird because i always believe that i was ugly..because i was shy..and none girl want to be whit me .

Just to mess all,  at same time i start to discover my own transexuality...i start to date whit transexual (straight ) girls  ...or gay men (indeed they used to thoug  for self as  men too... what date straigh men... a strange  irony...)
One  interesting  fact..a stragh transexual girl non - op .. that rise as a gay man... have some males attitudes ...that fit a lot whit what i want  as a couple... but have a female body..that is what i want  too...So my need to be whit a lesbian is almost complete just being whit a straigh  trans woman.
But the bad thing is..now i know that i want to live as a woman..as a hot woman what can date   lesbian woman (cis or trans   eighter).
And now i have the famous fork....live as a  good (jut good..not a really amazing hot )   guy a bit androginous and  that can qualify as a ->-bleeped-<- of transexual girl and  straigh   manly cis woman  (wow....what a strange combination) ... or take the  misteryous...complicated and   posibly  path to  loniless and depression...make the transition to  a lesbian woman (and lost my actual  relation...  and that suck..because i love this girls and dont want to hurt she and  be hated by her...)

So..in some way i understand  to  MSDazzler 

And by the way..one posibly reason  for your question about why the strigh womane  feel that agresiveness is...because usually lesbian women  dont liek to much listen about how much one women like a man....Or at least that happen to me..nothing  make my GID  blow more and make me sick than notice how much straigh women   want a man...
PD: after say that..you can imagine how much complicated is sometimes  to me  be beside my girl and lsiten her  compliments to man ..or indeed sometimes to my past  more manly look....

I really hope somebody can read what i try to write   I need practice  my english

You are very interesting, lol. Hmm, you are a hetero man wanting to transition to being a lesbian but prefer to be with another trans woman who prferably used to be a gay man?

Is that in a nutshell? heh

[Emi]

Actually i am a hetero man, want to be a lesbian woman.  Yes
My  girlfriends is a  trans woman straight..that  used to be a  gay man (her own words when she talk about her past...so actually is just a straigh trans woman like you..i am sure if  you both meet and talk would find a lot of things in common)    Yes

I prefer be whit her  over whit a straigh woman... Yes

Basically that is my actual situation

[LordKAT]

3 yr old boys aren't gay, at least they don't know it. One really has nothing to do with the other. I never thought  or said i was gay and I certainly knew I was male.

[MsDazzler]

Actually i am a hetero man, want to be a lesbian woman.  Yes
My  girlfriends is a  trans woman straight..that  used to be a  gay man (her own words when she talk about her past...so actually is just a straigh trans woman like you..i am sure if  you both meet and talk would find a lot of things in common)    Yes

I prefer be whit her  over whit a straigh woman... Yes

Basically that is my actual situation

Wow that is deep and complicated. How far along are you in transition? I know that most gay-turned-transgender women tend to prefer men, so I am not sure how hard it would to be find one once you have already started transitioning...

[Emi]

i am almost at the start..just lost a lot of weigth, try the hormones but not much...stop after  a month and half..
never use    female cloth and make up yet...i am  slowly takign a androginous look now ...

[MsDazzler]

You probably would have better luck finding a partner with andro people - they tend to be flexible about gender and whatnot in their partners.

[Nurse With Wound]

This thread has 26 replies and the other lesbian-related thread, "Strange Rules of Attraction", has 1 reply (as of this posting) - mine. Furthermore, any gay-related thread tends to either a) fire off a storm of controversy and draw tons of replies or b) ignored/skipped over.

I rest my case.

I don't think that has much to do with being a hetero trans girl, I've never felt attacked by anyone because I'm hetero (well bi, but leaning to hetero). So I don't know where you're getting that vibe from. D:

And this thread has more replies because it's an easier question to answer that we can all give input on our experience on regardless of being homosexual before hand or homosexual now, not because people want to jump on someone for being gay before transitioning. Whereas the other thread you mention is more of a specialist thread, where not as many people might have the experience to give input on the question at hand.