why is everyone else so much more attractive than me?

[xXRebeccaXx]

I'm ugly 

[Anatta]

Kia Ora,



Remember "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder !" What one thinks about their looks[For example the inner critic saying "I'm ugly!"] is not necessarily how others might think or see them...

Metta Zenda

[supremecatoverlord]

Have you even posted a picture here?
I'm yet to see one...

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but there's not really too much to say as to "why" everyone is more beautiful than you if you don't say "why" or tell us "why". Just thought I'd point that out. Regardless, there's very few people in the world that I'd classify as "so unattractive that they have no hope with anyone", but then again, that's just my opinion which doesn't necessarily reflect everyone else.

[JadeS]

I don't know I always feel really ugly and unpassable compared to mostly everyone in the pics threads here, i guess it may just be a common feeling

[PaigeM]

I would rather be an ugly woman than a handsome man.

[Melody Maia]

You do not see yourself the way others see you. I feel the same way from time to time. I am told I'm attractive, but there is a part of me that doesn't quite believe it. We are women and we are insecure about our looks.  Congratulations, you just proved you are truly female!

[MacKenzie]

I'm ugly 

  Post a pic Rebecca! We will be honest with you but you need to upload something for us to look at. =P

[apple pie]

I'm ugly 

Simple because the ugly ones like me don't post pics, so you don't see them Doesn't mean everyone else is a lot more attractive

[Maja.V]

Simple because the ugly ones like me don't post pics, so you don't see them Doesn't mean everyone else is a lot more attractive

Exactly this.

[Keaira]

I think you are full of crap. Ugly people are cruel, mean and just nasty. you are not.

I've been a cute guy and now an unnatractive female. But I am happy. ^_^

[justmeinoz]

You do not see yourself the way others see you. I feel the same way from time to time. I am told I'm attractive, but there is a part of me that doesn't quite believe it. We are women and we are insecure about our looks.  Congratulations, you just proved you are truly female!

That pretty much hits the nail on the head.   Although I have had plenty of comments that I look  quite feminine, including from my gender psychiatrist who has been doing this for years, I still have trouble believing it.

[MsDazzler]

I would rather be an ugly woman than a handsome man.

Another one bites the dust about appearances... heh

[xXRebeccaXx]

Im a fat ugly pig. 

[MacKenzie]

Im a fat ugly pig. 

  No your not! Omfg don't be one of those girls that say they're ugly without even trying. It takes alot of work but it's not impossible to pretty and passable. 

[mixie]

I think you are full of crap. Ugly people are cruel, mean and just nasty. you are not.

I've been a cute guy and now an unnatractive female. But I am happy. ^_^

FFS you are not unattractive.   Seriously people get new mirrors because obviously yours are broken.


The reason women are unattractive is because they think they are.


Here's another example.


Have you ever met a woman who you thought was average in looks.  Never paid too much mind one way or another.  Suddenly the woman starts going off about how much weight she's gained.

You say  "Really you don't look that bad?  What did you gain like 10 pounds?"   She says "Oh no I gained 30 pounds since last winter.  Look at my arms!'  She holds up her arms and yanks up her sleeve and shows you her waddle under her arm  "Look how flabby it is!  And my stomach!  Look at my rolls!"  She points you to her stomach which you didn't really notice before but WOW yeah now that you look at it you can see she has a pooch.

So now you think she's fat.   You didn't before.   You didn't really notice it.   But once it had been pointed out to you you can't unsee it.


This is what I think a lot of you do.

[Keaira]

FFS you are not unattractive.   Seriously people get new mirrors because obviously yours are broken.


The reason women are unattractive is because they think they are.


Here's another example.


Have you ever met a woman who you thought was average in looks.  Never paid too much mind one way or another.  Suddenly the woman starts going off about how much weight she's gained.

You say  "Really you don't look that bad?  What did you gain like 10 pounds?"   She says "Oh no I gained 30 pounds since last winter.  Look at my arms!'  She holds up her arms and yanks up her sleeve and shows you her waddle under her arm  "Look how flabby it is!  And my stomach!  Look at my rolls!"  She points you to her stomach which you didn't really notice before but WOW yeah now that you look at it you can see she has a pooch.

So now you think she's fat.   You didn't before.   You didn't really notice it.   But once it had been pointed out to you you can't unsee it.


This is what I think a lot of you do.

All I'm saying is Guys and girls don't give me a 2nd glance.  I guess I blend in enough to be unremarkable.  I know I have a bit going for me, such as my height, [5'5], practically no adams apple, not overly hairy, and a fairly gender-neutral voice. But I'm not raggin' on myself, I'm just saying that I'm not remarkable.

[JadeS]

everyone tells me i look alright, but i can't see anything but my face screaming MAN, i can't be THAT biased about it

[Anatta]

Kia Ora,

"Why is everyone else so much more attractive than me?"

Simply because you lack 'self worth/esteem' once you get some, your world will take on a different 'appearance' !

And the good news is once you've had a taste of 'self confidence', it takes on a life of its own and the more one uses it[confidence that is] the more it will grow !

"However the mistake that many seem to make is to focus too much on what they want, the mind creates reasons why 'you' can't have it. This leads one to dwell on ones weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills,  and positive momentum. You'll be amazed how much you have going for you!"

A short cut [proven] way to obtaining confidence, is to fake it...."Fake it until you make it !"

Metta Zenda

[Keaira]

I had a taste of passing. and I liked it!! 

Too many people know me at work. and I spend too much time there to really know if I pass or if I was just lucky that day.

[jainie marlena]

FFS you are not unattractive.   Seriously people get new mirrors because obviously yours are broken.


The reason women are unattractive is because they think they are.


Here's another example.


Have you ever met a woman who you thought was average in looks.  Never paid too much mind one way or another.  Suddenly the woman starts going off about how much weight she's gained.

You say  "Really you don't look that bad?  What did you gain like 10 pounds?"   She says "Oh no I gained 30 pounds since last winter.  Look at my arms!'  She holds up her arms and yanks up her sleeve and shows you her waddle under her arm  "Look how flabby it is!  And my stomach!  Look at my rolls!"  She points you to her stomach which you didn't really notice before but WOW yeah now that you look at it you can see she has a pooch.

So now you think she's fat.   You didn't before.   You didn't really notice it.   But once it had been pointed out to you you can't unsee it.


This is what I think a lot of you do.

I think this is true with my one day I look like woman the next I look like a man thing that happens to me when I am looking in the mirror. When I feel like me I see female things about me but when i feel like crap and start looking for male things about me I find them with no problem.