Passing not just a one-off

[Keaira]

Today I walked down to the JC supermarket with my wife to pick up groceries. When we got to the section with the eggs, there was an elderly woman and another woman with a broken foot there, both using the electric scooters the store provides. The woman with the broken foot was trying to get some eggs in a box inside the refrigerator using one of her crutches because they were the ones on sale but were not on the shelf. I offered to help her because I know how much it sucks to be disabled like that and something be out of reach. inside each carton was one broken egg. so we swapped the broken one out for an unbroken one. All in all we got 4 dozen eggs.  But as I was doing this the 2 women were constantly referring to me with female pronouns. My wife just watched with pride I guess, for helping them. Then she asked me to get a carton too.

But this time I was presenting as female, I had perfume, minimal make-up and jewelry on. So I might not be the prettiest girl but at least I am passing as one.

[Adio]

Congrats!  That's such an awesome feeling, isn't it?    I'm sure that lady appreciated your help.

P.S. I think this might be in the wrong section.

[Keaira]

Ah! Again?! Dang it! Thanks for pointing it out to me Adio. . For someone wanting to get away from the boys life I sure do seem to come back to it too often.

I'm sorry again. *blush*

[Joeyboo~ :3]

That's great Keaira!

I was gendered female at the mall today :3
it felt great.

[Keaira]

That's great JoeyD ^_^ And yes it does feel great. ^_^

[Berger]

Ah! Again?! Dang it! Thanks for pointing it out to me Adio. . For someone wanting to get away from the boys life I sure do seem to come back to it too often.

I'm sorry again. *blush*

Well, ftms and mtfs may be starting and ending at opposite ends of the spectrum, but we still have a lot of experiences that we can all relate to, and being happy to be gendered correctly is one of them.
It's good to hear you had a nice passing moment while you were helping those ladies out.

[mixie]

Awesome!

[Felix]

Yay, Keaira. That's so good.

And your misposting confused me and made me giggle. I love being confused and I love giggling.

[Anon]

Before reading the post I looked at your profile picture and wondered how anyone could possibly see you as male, but then I realized the mistake. Congrats!

[Keaira]

Well I really should stop posting from my iPod. For me, posting in the guy's forum is like walking into the boys locker room.. Where they are talking about what they use when dealing with that monthly annoyance. [Nod to an old post there:P]
But you know, its a happy moment for anyone of us when we get seen in the right gender... maybe I felt like sharing with the guys?
I know though that you probably don't mind. Especially since I'm a tomboy.

@ Berger, The passing was nice, and it always makes me feel good and happy, but I like helping people. I may not be saving America but I am performing an act of kindness that maybe will be passed on to others.

And here lately I'm getting the feeling that posting picture to be judged by your peers is all fine and dandy, but out there is the real test. As Mixie has pointed we kind of look too hard at each other for flaws. And here lately I'm getting the feeling that posting picture to be judged by your peers is all fine and dandy, but out there is the real test. As Mixie has pointed we kind of look too hard at each other for flaws. But I do have an idea. instead of women judging the women, why not have guys judge? It might seem to objectify us, but men look at women all the time. The women could do the same for the guys.

And Anon kind of proved my point right there! LMAO! thank you it means a lot to me

[Felix]

I did not know that iPods were ever internet-capable. Huh.

We don't mind, Keaira.

[Keaira]

I did not know that iPods were ever internet-capable. Huh.

We don't mind, Keaira.

Yes, the iPod touch has wireless internet connectivity and bluetooth. Which is why it's my notepad, mp3 player, go-anywhere internet surfing device, hand held gaming machine, internet phone, camera, video recorder, audio recorder, photo book and movie player that goes everywhere with me.

Thanks Felix. ^_^
keep it up and I might come here more often.

[mixie]

Such a great post Bev.   And Keaira's  wife seems to agree with me on certain observations.  I do think this site is way hard in the mtf section.   In the ftm it seems really about more advice.  But in the mtf the advice seems to come across as "Look you fail miserably just accept it, get plastic surgery, pump yourself full of hormones and pray....but seriously no....you aren't good enough."

I've seen your transition pix in the other thread Keaira where you showed your muscles.  I kept looking at the "female" you compared to the "male" and I wondered if you had gotten a nose job.  You just looked completely different.  Yes I know it's you so you do look the same in a lot of ways.  But already now you completely pass.

Bev you pass too.  This is what real women look like.  We don't all look like magazine covers.  And especially as you get older you learn to love yourself as a person not as a picture.  Your inner confidence goes a lot further.

[Keaira]

Such a great post Bev.   And Keaira's  wife seems to agree with me on certain observations.  I do think this site is way hard in the mtf section.   In the ftm it seems really about more advice.  But in the mtf the advice seems to come across as "Look you fail miserably just accept it, get plastic surgery, pump yourself full of hormones and pray....but seriously no....you aren't good enough."

I've seen your transition pix in the other thread Keaira where you showed your muscles.  I kept looking at the "female" you compared to the "male" and I wondered if you had gotten a nose job.  You just looked completely different.  Yes I know it's you so you do look the same in a lot of ways.  But already now you completely pass.

Bev you pass too.  This is what real women look like.  We don't all look like magazine covers.  And especially as you get older you learn to love yourself as a person not as a picture.  Your inner confidence goes a lot further.

Well I dont think anyone looks like a magazine cover. Too much airbrush, not enough substance.
No, I've not gotten a nose job. I don't plan on having any surgeries on my face. A lower hairline would be nice, but I'm not losing sleep over it. This is who I am.
I know that women are bombarded with all these messages about what beauty is. " Buy this and you'll never look 50!" "Use this and you'll never have saggy breasts and guys will flock to you" And I think that pressure has almost tripled in the MtF areas. "my chin is so huge, I need FFS!" "Your adams apple is showing just barely, you need a tracheal shave."
I concede that for some it would help their situation and maybe their self esteem. But in the end, the real test in in the outside world. So far I've been lucky. At 3 months, I wore this to my doctors appointment and had to walk a block. I was wearing heels too and I still didn't get noticed. or stared at.


My transition so far has been : wear female clothing, take hormones as directed, adjust voice a bit, be myself. I get called Ma'am on the phone all the time without even trying. In fact I made it a game: 'How many times can I get a ma'am before I get called sir?'

Bev, those were two great stories and yes, you pass just fine to me.

Heck, I may just post photo's in the FtM boards just because it's guys who look at women all the time. I'll even help the guys out with their appearance.

In the end, if you worry about passing all day long, you're going to miss out on life and all the little things. So just live it. ^_^

[Keaira]

The best passing moment I had was a few months ago. A kid whom I knew from my eldest Daughter's high-school graduation came to work at the company I work at. I saw him working and I went over to say Hi...

Me: "I know you!"

Kyle: "You do?"

Me" Yes, from the high school graduation. You're friends with my Daughters."

Kyle: "Who are your Daughters?"

Me: "Tori and Lacy."

Kyle: "You're Tori and Lacy's Mom?"

Me: ".........Err... Yea?" * I was thinking, "Crap! I was not expecting that! ...Awkward*

Kyle: "Tori will flip out when she hears I'm working with her Mom."

Me: "She know's already, How do you think I know you?"


And that was me, in uniform.

[Felix]

The best passing moment I had was a few months ago. A kid whom I knew from my eldest Daughter's high-school graduation came to work at the company I work at. I saw him working and I went over to say Hi...

Me: "I know you!"

Kyle: "You do?"

Me" Yes, from the high school graduation. You're friends with my Daughters."

Kyle: "Who are your Daughters?"

Me: "Tori and Lacy."

Kyle: "You're Tori and Lacy's Mom?"

Me: ".........Err... Yea?" * I was thinking, "Crap! I was not expecting that! ...Awkward*

Kyle: "Tori will flip out when she hears I'm working with her Mom."

Me: "She know's already, How do you think I know you?"


And that was me, in uniform.

That is so yay. I've had similar odd conversations regarding my kid, so I feel you. XD

[Keaira]

High five for being a cool parent Felix ^_^

What gets me is I'm getting monthly 'symptoms', minus the mess and pads. 1st month it happened, I was thinking it was just a stomach ache. 3rd month: "cool! I get periods!" 6 month: " god this s€£¥'s getting old". 10 months in: " this week isn't going fast enough!"
How's that for passing?  And it's that week right now! Which explains my bitchyness leading up to it. But it's early.

[Felix]

High five for being a cool parent Felix ^_^

What gets me is I'm getting monthly 'symptoms', minus the mess and pads. 1st month it happened, I was thinking it was just a stomach ache. 3rd month: "cool! I get periods!" 6 month: " god this s€£¥'s getting old". 10 months in: " this week isn't going fast enough!"
How's that for passing?  And it's that week right now! Which explains my bitchyness leading up to it. But it's early.

Ha. Congratulations and condolences.

[Berger]

The best passing moment I had was a few months ago. A kid whom I knew from my eldest Daughter's high-school graduation came to work at the company I work at. I saw him working and I went over to say Hi...

Me: "I know you!"

Kyle: "You do?"

Me" Yes, from the high school graduation. You're friends with my Daughters."

Kyle: "Who are your Daughters?"

Me: "Tori and Lacy."

Kyle: "You're Tori and Lacy's Mom?"

Me: ".........Err... Yea?" * I was thinking, "Crap! I was not expecting that! ...Awkward*

Kyle: "Tori will flip out when she hears I'm working with her Mom."

Me: "She know's already, How do you think I know you?"


And that was me, in uniform.

That's one amusing thing about seeing people from before transition and then after it. Mostly I've had "you look familiar...do I know you?" and I generally respond with "um...I dunno, maybe we were in the same class or something in high school."

[Keaira]

Ha. Congratulations and condolences.

Thanks Felix. Talk about walking a mile in someone's shoes. lol.
well it's going to be interesting in June. I am going to be a bridesmaid in a friends wedding. So we'll see just how well I pass by then. I've been warned that the Bride's Dad may try to hit on me. I hope not.