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Finding a supportive friend

Started by Korra, January 17, 2012, 08:11:46 AM

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Korra

I just wanted to share a little about something I've done today that really just puts me in a good mood.  I've been talking to this girl for a bit, shes a couple hour off but weve been discussing dating and unlike my last i told her about I may transition and stuff and she didn't freak out or anything.  In fact she was somewhat optimistic about the whole thing and wanting to *dress me up* and etc..  I've been telling her everything now and even if nothing comes of this relationship I'm glad i got it out there.  I've had girls I've told, or ex-gfs before that got excited but its just a nice atmosphere when there chiming in about wanting to help and do this and that.

My last gf was barely tolerant, and kept the atmosphere of  " if it makes you happy " which was a really a kind of negative attitude.  I ask about makeup " whatever makes you happy",  where do I buy this kind of underwear? "sigh,."  It always felt like I was being a burden and considering how insanely little I know about anything it put me off of asking her.  Its just really nice to be able to "vent".  It's not like I don't get relief from talking with you guys, it's just an immediate response by someone who doesn't know the pain i go through and has a different perspective is somewhat refreshing.
I may side with the angels, but don't think for one second that I'm one of them.
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Felix

A friend or lover shouldn't sigh or brush you off when you ask about things that are important to you. That's really cool how she treats you. I have exactly one friend I see much in person, and luckily he's very casual and supportive. He doesn't know how much of a difference that has made for me. It helps to have somebody who is good to you regarding gender. It's such a potential vulnerability.
everybody's house is haunted
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V M

Sounds like a darn good friend  :)  Even if the relationship goes no further than 'Just friends', she sounds like a keeper
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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Korra

I agree.  We broke up shortly after all this stuff for different reasons and i quit going to therapy for about a year.  Though I'm trying to pick it up again now, instead of leaning on my old gf gonna try to find other ways to move forward.
I may side with the angels, but don't think for one second that I'm one of them.
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Jenny_B_Good

Another positive happy post...

Thanks   ;D

Keep 'em coming !!

Jen
-       The longest journey a human must take, is the eighteen inches from their head to their heart    -
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Korra

I may side with the angels, but don't think for one second that I'm one of them.
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