Hello girls, I have a question for some other people who have been in some relationships as a transsexual and just relationship advice in general. I have a friend named Paul, who i have known for 5 1/2 years now. I am just coming out with me being a transsexual to the people closest to me, including him. On top of telling my friend that i was transsexual, i also recently told him that i liked him deeply and have felt this way for about 4 years now, however, I have not told him for fear that it would get out that i was the way i am. Keep in mind that i am 19, and most of the time i liked him i was in high school so me not getting bullied anymore was very important to me. When i told him how i fell he said that he had never thought of me that way, and here recently he said that he really wanted to go out with me, as a guy or a girl. This would be wonderful if there was not one problem he has a girlfriend! i know why he likes me, and i know why he likes her and that is what is really getting to me, he likes her because she gives him sex. i know this due to her cheating on him 2 times and he has not broken up with her. he likes me because of more emotional reasons, i am the only one he can talk to and i am the closest thing to him in the world, he would call me in a heartbeat if he had a problem not her.
i just don't know what to do, i love Paul, but i cannot be a third wheel. if you have any advice that i could take from your past relationship as to how i can make this work. i want more than anything to be with Paul no matter what happens!