coming out to GF's/BF's

[jonjon]

The travels of my life has found me crossing the path of a very nice girl and the more i chat with her, the more perfect she appears to me.

At the minute, she knows me as Jonathan, a guy. So far we've only talked online because there's a bit of a distance gap between us.

A large part of me hopes for something really wonderful with this girl and i hope to sometime meet her in real life. I want to be open with her and i dont want to leave it too long before i tell her, otherwise i could end up getting in too deep... and then to loose that would be too much of a risk. As you can tell, i'm already quite hung up on her.

I'm wanting some advice on how i should come out to her that i'm a TG male and not a bio male. A part of me believes she'll be understanding because she's into the cosplaying scene and with that she does some cross-dressing herself. But, 90% of me fears the worse and that she'll not want to speak to me afterwards.

Are there any rules? Anything i shouldn't do/say?

[AnnieE]

I'm just trying to be as honest as possible:

I don't know of any positive things that are likely to come out of your situation. Even if your were genetically male. Then again, odds are only suggestions. They aren't set in stone. They lead you in two directions, the very good and the very bad.

Plus, I hate to say this, but internet relationships are sort of doomed from the start if there's not total honesty from the very beginning, on both sides; she may not also be telling you the 100% truth either. People talk themselves up a lot.

On the plus side, you're very attractive as a guy.

[debbiej]

I'm sure you know that every situation is different. I have a positive story to tell that might help you be able to share your story with her.

I was role playing a girl and developed a relationship with a guy. I agonized over when to tell him I was a Transexual and was terribly afraid that I would hurt him if our internet relationship went too far before I told him the truth. In my email to him I let him know my feelings and how I never intended to hurt him but that he needed to know before we went any further. Long story short - He was wonderful about it and calls me his Debbie.

I may just have been extremely fortunate but there is such a thing as a happy ending. It hasn't been a total bed or roses but no relationship is. I think honesty works the best and the sooner the better.

Debbie

[jonjon]

Well, i told her.

It knocked me off my ass when she just said: "Thats fine" and we continued talking as if i never even said anything!

And i know the risks of internet dating, but it's not like she lives all THAT far away and we both one day hope to meet. She tells me of all these tea parties she wants to invite me to and dress me up like a an anime yaoi prince! lol Cant wait for that 

[debbiej]

That is absolutly fantastic Wishy!!!! I am so happy for you.


Debbie

[jonjon]

i am happy 

[Cameron]

Anime Yaoi Prince? That just made me ROFFLE!

<3 That rocks so much that you were accepted by her and everything. If someone you like accepts you and still likes you and everything, that really makes you feel good.