Fearing Sex Change Surgery makes you a NON-OP or PRE-OP?

[Sad Girl]

If someone is CRAVING to be operated but the only reason retaining is FEAR and remains in a uncertain and neutral state for a long while and still UNDECIDED & CONFUSED, does this make her a PRE-OP or NON-OP?

[caseyyy]

I say non-op I guess. For me, pre-op suggests that it's certainly coming. If it's not certain, it's non-op. Cause a lot of people want SRS, but can't have it for whatever reason, so they call themselves non-op. I don't know if that makes any sense, lol..

[supremecatoverlord]

Is this just a fear of general surgery or sex change surgery?
I'm curious as to whether or not you've had any surgery before at all.

I think it would help to know exactly why you're avoiding SRS, because you could be afraid/apprehensive for a number of reasons.
Your reasons for fear could ultimately decide whether identifying as pre-op or non-op is a better decision for you (at least for now).

[King Malachite]

I will go out on a limb and say questioning op but if I had to choose I'm will go with non-op since you are in a way refusing the surgery.

[heatherrose]

Why worry how to classify yourself?
There is no need to pressure yourself.
How does anybody KNOW that they won't change their
minds in ten years and then want the surgery.
IMHO
The majority of people (in the "community") are "pre-op".
It's not a badge of glory.
it's just another lable you allow
to have plastered on your butt.

[justmeinoz]

I think it comes down to whether you would have SRS if you could overcome the fear of surgery, or not.  If yes you would be pre-op. 
If on the other hand you have no interest or possibility of having SRS for whatever reason, then you are non-op.  Either way you are still one of the girls.
Remember,  labels are for clothes, pity mine are Target and not Versace. 

Karen.

[V M]

I'm afraid of surgery of any kind     But my biggest obstacle to SRS is affording it so I guess you could say that I'm a wishful pre-op 

[shortNsweet]

The surgery itself is something I never worry about. I only worry about how to get there.

[Joelene9]

The surgery itself is something I never worry about. I only worry about how to get there.

The same here.  I can't afford it.  I'm doing the best I can.
  Joelene

[spacecase0]

I take so long to heal,
a regular cut that most people would have gone in a week is still getting better in 3 months for me,
I am not sure that surgery will ever be an option for me,
I figure my best hope is for reincarnation.
but either way that does not change who I am

[heatherrose]

...but either way that does not change who I am

This

[cwrukid2012lakeforest]

I would say pre-op you never know what the future holds

[justmeinoz]

Having worked in a Hospital Pathology Lab for quite a few years I don't particularly like the idea of any  surgery.  Occupational paranoia I guess you could call it.  The main thing that makes me uncertain about SRS is the amount of time I would be unable to exercise, due to a severe back injury that doesn't like staying still.

Karen.

[Dana_H]

I figure it's all about intention. If you want/need SRS and are only being stopped by fear/money/whatever, then I would opt for Pre-Op, whereas Non-Op implies to me that you have either no interest in SRS or have decided for whatever reason that it will never happen. I also think this is putting a binary description on something that is more fluid, as you may be Pre-Op one day, Non-Op the next, and completely confused/undecided the day after that.

The only term in this group that really has a discrete determinable definition is Post-Op; either you are or you aren't.

[Suzette]

I fear contracting germs like golden staph. Having known someone who had lung surgery and contracted Golden Staph in the wound. He died in a horrid way.
I also am unsure as to dilation and the frequency of performing it. Like having had micro surgery on my hand and the turnover in therapists contradicting each other in rehabilitation techniques I ended up with a stuck tendon.
I also like to orgasm, wet or dry but I hate my male genitals so I do wish they were gone but I have heard that sexual arousal and orgasm are sacrificed post op.
So I guess, until I am convinced that my mind is not undermining my needs I am a non-op person (transgenderist).

[Natkat]

im still rather confussed what I am?

I did have top surgery, and it was a must have, but I dont have bottom surgery and I dont think I will do it.
will that make me non up, cause I dont want the bottom surgery, pre up or post up??

and what if somenoe has bottom surgery but not top surgery??

its all kinda confussing..

[AbraCadabra]

Hey, "it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind..." now WHERE will that leave you?

Pre-op one day ... non-op next day ... so how about being 'fluid-op' that be a new terms?
Go for it, I think I just invented it - 'fluid-op' cool, eh?

Giggle,
Axélle
PS: but seriously... WHO really cares?

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Sis,

I would be unable to exercise, due to a severe back injury that doesn't like staying still.

      Would it help if I arranged a visit or two by the GodMother with a branding iron to chase you round the hospital. Perhaps the early ambulatory experience could promote an early and speedy recovery.   

Hugs
Catherine

[Natkat]

PS: but seriously... WHO really cares?

I didnt care before I got on a transfriendly site and had to choose one of the categories, and I was like..
hm... I am not exactly sure... ??

[Kevin Peña]

PS: but seriously... WHO really cares?

Exactly! It's all up to you whether or not you want surgery. I'd say you're non-op seeing as to how you don't want the surgery, despite the fact that fear is your reason (Don't worry, it's one of mine too). The most important thing for you is to be comfortable with who you are, you're still a girl. One of my friends was born with 4 extra teeth than "normal" people, does that make him non-human? No! The same applies here; you can be a girl who just so happens to have a male reproductive system.