Stunned after finding out my new lover is a transsexual

[Shana A]

Stunned after finding out my new lover is a transsexual
Published: 31 Jan 2012

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/deidre/4097876/Deidre-Daily-Drama-Stunned-after-finding-out-my-new-lover-is-a-transsexual.html

I'VE just found out that my gorgeous, fit and beautiful girlfriend used to be a bloke before having gender reassignment.

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My girlfriend dropped a bombshell last week when she said she was always bullied at school. When I asked her why, her eyes filled with tears and she said she'd been born a boy.

She said she'd never felt happy and after two suicide attempts, her parents decided to support her and sent her abroad for hormone therapy. She then went on to have a full transgender operation.

I felt sick when she told me and then she saw my horrified reaction so I had to beg for her forgiveness. I keep crying and I've avoided her calls since\

[Jamie D]

Advice column answer:

Think about what it is you are looking for from this relationship. You can't change your girlfriend's past - it makes her the person she is today. If you love her for the person she is then that's all that matters.

Your children don't need to know her history, at least until they're adults, and it's certainly no concern of your ex-wife's.

Enjoy what you have together and talk about what you're both looking for in future. You have your girls but she may want to adopt children for instance. It's early days but you'll need to discuss it at some point.

Seems reasonable to me.

[spacial]

Me too.

[AbraCadabra]

Yes! Very same here.

Axélle