i feel you completely. i am so glad i found this place. my husband toggles back and forth. i do not know if that word is acceptable and if not i am sorry. right now she has decided to keep the feeling and desire to be the real person she is. this is happening for the lst 9 years. the only things that i am mad about is #1 wont communicate #2 selfish #3 starts drinking hard liqour and such.
i dont know what to do. i fear she will leave her job(as in every prior time)i told her tho if she quits i have no choice but have to leave with the kids. unless i find a job while going to school, she can not quit. we are too old to be asking our parents for money. i feel so embarassed over money asking.
i feel that even venting here and then going back to her with good information and things that may help she never wants to talk that minute. but when she speaks there is no stopping her.
am i doing something wrong by continually supporting her? i mean i have gotten used to her stealing my clothes when she comes back. but not all my clothes. i have learned to hide everything when she decides that she can not do this. b/c i got tired of buying clothes for her when our kids need it more....
so when she went to be her true self the other day i saw the clothes i had hidden. my closet is basically storage for stuff i dont want outside. but its my stuff..i dont go into hers ever. well no yesterday i HAD to steal a pair of jeans back. and what has me a smidge livid today is she stayed up all night knowing she would not be awake today. i got news from my doc that i have to go early monday from my anemia becoming severe, to sit and not do much this weekend.
i figured at least she would help clean or watch our 2 year old. nope. fine. i am dealing with it. ut when i went to do the laundry of my kids and mine, i noticed my tattoo machine box had been messed with.thats one thing that i have that is truly mine! i dont feel like tatting this weekend, i am sorry. but it is mine,i dont mess with her things or when she is confused and convinced that these are not real feelings.
if i touch anything, it is bloody murder. thats what goes back to selfish.
i am loosing it right before her eyes, and it is no matter.
the last thing was my honda has been sitting in the carport for 2 years now, with bad brakes. she stated to me that the jeep is starting to "go"like all the other cars here. and he needed todrive my honda. no. its mine. i have had to deal with it sitting there. my mom said she would fix it and c gets all up in arms that she could pay her for it. c got extremely ill
c says that it is not safe for me to drive around with the kids, but since mechanically inclined if something happens it would happen with her. NO. no. i said no, but she is not listening. someone help me...
yes, i see a psych and my primary care...im just not doing well this time. really i am not.