I told my mother I'm transgender...

[luna nyan]

Hello Keri,

Congratulations on coming out to your mother - it was hard wasn't it?

I'm not surprised that she said to you "no you can't have one of those sex change thingies" - most parents still immediately think transsexual = sexual deviant who will not be able to hold a job in society other than walking the streets, and saying no is the instinctive response in attempting to protect their child from making what they think is a bad decision.

Please don't let her put you off from sorting yourself out - you need to be able to live at peace with yourself, and simply burying things makes it much worse in the long run.  My first confrontation with my mother was at age 14 - she asked me if I was trans then, and I said "No" out of fear.  It's been over 20 years since that incident, life's entanglements have really gotten complex and I can now only attempt to moderate things rather than doing what I should have done years ago.

[niamh]

Well, congratulations on telling her and thanks for sharing with us! Give her time to process it, and expect questions! Hugs, Devlyn

Questions? Heem. I came out to my parents ten years ago. They've never once asked any questions and never, bar once, brought it up. But for her sake I hope her mom creates a dialogue with her. As far as I am concerned my mom is just the one who give birth to me. We haven't had a relationship in nearly 20 years.

[confused_one]

Wow, congratz I haven't even thought of coming out to my mum.  Although she'd have a field day being a shrink and all.  I hope things continue to go well, and sounds like you have an amazing frat if no ones saying anything

[Keri Allison]

you said that your mom said you can't get a sex change (which kinda alluded to me that you're a minor).

But then you say your fraternity sworn to keep it a secret (which kinda alluded to me you are an adult in college).

Kinda confused

Yeah I'm 19. And I think we met on the other chatroom haha. You have my facebook . This is such a big decision, so it takes a family to decide. And I'm from an Asian family, so that also plays a role.

[Keri Allison]

Wow, congratz I haven't even thought of coming out to my mum.  Although she'd have a field day being a shrink and all.  I hope things continue to go well, and sounds like you have an amazing frat if no ones saying anything

Lols yes, I love my fraternity. It was definitely not my first choice but when I went to their first rush event, I knew that was the one for me. I had a hard time accepting that I don't belong in my first choice fraternity lol But I came to terms.

[Annah]

Yeah I'm 19. And I think we met on the other chatroom haha. You have my facebook . This is such a big decision, so it takes a family to decide. And I'm from an Asian family, so that also plays a role.

ahhhh Thanks. Totally can understand that!

[Princess Rachel]

belated congrats