Doubt

[Kyyn]

The more I nervously come out to people, the more they find reasons that I must be mistaken.. the majority of them are well meaning and very logical reasons - even if they conflict with my what my mind's telling me. I'm not sure if they're right or just uncomfortable with me now

I'm so confused I barely want to leave my house anymore.

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Alex,
Nothing really unusual about that at all. With respects to any revelation on any subject that you aren't confident with, people will always challange you. The more confident you aspire in any conversation, the less challanges you'll have. I'm certain you are right about yourself. They are just not comfortable with you, at the moment. Again, their problem, not yours.

Much about coming out is to whom and when. And it should always be prefaced with your level of confidence. If you're not feeling right about it; Don't.

Just try pinning your explanatation down to 3 different approaches. Practice these, then go out into the world, and when the time is right. Let them know. Embrace this time of transition for you. It's unique, it's you, and it's marvelous. Try not to let others peoples opinions/feelings stifle yours. If people aren't happy with your transition. That's their problem; not yours. I often find when people disagree with me (they don't get any further work - ROFL) the statement, " I appreciate you thoughts on the matter, it's a pity you haven't been able to appreciate my perspective on the matter. Anyway, I'm quite comfortable with the way I feel," works quite well.

Chin up man. Back on the bike.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[supremecatoverlord]

What are some of the reasons, if you don't mind me asking?

I'm only curious because I'm sure many of us tried to convince ourselves of the same thing, like feeling out of place within ourselves could just be some bad dream we could wake up from.

[Gretchen]

It's been my experience that when I lock myself in my house I also lock myself in my head, therefore rendering me useless and very depressed. Keep going out, even if its to just sit out in the front yard.

[Kyyn]

What are some of the reasons, if you don't mind me asking?

Just little things like
"I'm sure this is just a phase"
"Maybe you just like cross dressing?"
"No, I'm sure you're too old to have just suddenly discovered this. You're confused"
"You're just bored and this is something new and interesting"
"You may just find a masculine personality more comfortable and when you've stated this urge you'll feel less inclined to want to be a boy"

I think it doesn't help that i'm a passive person. I've always been socially awkward so it was a lot easier to just always do what I was told.
So when someone tells me I'm doing something wrong, I falter.

It's very true that, when I'm bored, I'll latch myself onto a new idea and obsess over it. So that could be what im doing.
But that doesn't explain why i used to cry over being a girl before i knew it was even possible to be a transboy  (I live in a small city. Transgender and Transsexuals are openly accepted, but for some reason it's only really presented as a MtF thing).

hnnn... headache..

[supremecatoverlord]

Just little things like
"I'm sure this is just a phase"
"Maybe you just like cross dressing?"
"No, I'm sure you're too old to have just suddenly discovered this. You're confused"
"You're just bored and this is something new and interesting"
"You may just find a masculine personality more comfortable and when you've stated this urge you'll feel less inclined to want to be a boy"

I think it doesn't help that i'm a passive person. I've always been socially awkward so it was a lot easier to just always do what I was told.
So when someone tells me I'm doing something wrong, I falter.

It's very true that, when I'm bored, I'll latch myself onto a new idea and obsess over it. So that could be what im doing.
But that doesn't explain why i used to cry over being a girl before i knew it was even possible to be a transboy  (I live in a small city. Transgender and Transsexuals are openly accepted, but for some reason it's only really presented as a MtF thing).

hnnn... headache..

Most people find that having this sort of disdain for your body is not a phase. You don't look very old and I know plenty of people who didn't even try to transition until being a much older age than you seem. Something you could do is list out the reasons you may want to transition, because this will not only be helpful to you personally, but possibly could also come in handy if you want to explain your situations to other. I only recommend this to you because I've always found faltering is a lot harder to do once I'm able to justify my actions to myself.

[spacial]

Kyyn

Those reasons, if you look at them, each point to their attitude that they know your life better than you.

That suggests they are not yet treating you seriously as an individual.

I know that situation so well. Sadly, in my experience, there is little you can do about them.

The problem is that, they are actually very immature, in relation to you and you are not.