The New you know you pass when

[Keaira]

History is not destiny, Keaira.

Your son has the benefit of a parent who knows what it was like and understands what he's going through.

He's a lucky boy.

Perhaps. ^_^
Ive been told he wants to be just like me when he grows up. I tell him that I dont want him to be just like me. In time, he will be his own person. And one I will still be proud of.

[Brooke777]

I have a couple that happened this week. I started a new job a couple of weeks ago, and I am not out as trans. I'm totally out as lesbian though.

OK, so I was talking with a woman at work and the subject of my pending divorce from my ex-wife came up. She asked me which one of us was the biological mother. I told her that my ex carried our son, but he has my genes. She then told me how great she thinks it is that modern science can transplant an egg of one woman into another woman.

The next one was again at work, I was talking with a woman and some of my military history came up and I mentioned how I broke my back in the Army. She looked kind of confused and said that she did not think women were allowed in combat situations.

The third, and most interesting one was a really good looking guy at work started talking to me. He was standing with a group of male coworkers/friends. So I went over to him and chatted a bit. Then, right in front of everyone he asked me out on a date. So, I told him he was sweet, but I didn't think my girlfriend would like that too much. All the other guys got a huge laugh out of the fact that he just asked out a lesbian.

[Jenna Marie]

When I have to keep arguing with doctors and nurses, some of whom are poking around in my crotch at that very moment, that I don't want a Pap smear.

(It's somewhere between hilarious and frustrating!)

[Keaira]

I went to the dentist a week ago and the nurse asked me the usual are you pregnant have you been pregnant, etc.

[Dawn Heart]

I went to an LGBT Equality march today, and afterwards went to lunch with some of the other people that were there. At lunch, someone said they had trouble telling my gender. In my opinion, I am nowhere near passing yet and so don't present as female yet because I am doing my transition in a way that makes sense to me and allows me to be confident about my looks first. I had no make-up on, and the only thing different about me is that my hair is longer than it was last spring, and is styled differently. 

Guess this is a milestone for me and it feels good!

[Keaira]

Caleb told me this today:

I was talking a little about our upcoming visit and Grandma said "so does she still live at home?" i said "no, she's been on her own for a while, she is married and has kids." and she said "does her husband know you are going?" (lmao) I said "her wife does, I've spoken to her too."
 
and Grandma was like "" lol and then she said "are you sure it's safe? i mean...two women...you have to admit that's pretty different." (she thought we might be a target for homophobia/ transphobia.)

Caleb: I said "they haven't had too many problems" lolol
she doesn't know that you are trans, even after she saw you on cam that one time I didn't tell her, figure there's not much point.

[Adam (birkin)]

Hey Keaira, you know you pass when...you have made 4 posts in the "you know you pass when" thread in two weeks.

[Constance]

You know you pass when a new member at church asks how long you've been there, and you say "Well, 25 years total but 2 years since starting transition," and they ask, "What transition? Religious transition?" and then you explain it's gender transition and you realize they had no idea you were trans until you told them.

Yeah. That was my Sunday after worship!

[Alainaluvsu]

I went in for a laser consultation today... meaning no makeup whatsoever. They had a spot where I had to list the medication so I put E and Spiro. At first, they asked if I took it every day or as needed, and I told them everyday. When the doctor came in she looked really closely at my face with squinty eyes, then asked about the Spiro, saying "That's a LOT of Spiro, do you have bad acne?" ... so I told her, no, I'm transgender. She got wide eyed for a second and just said "Oh..." then after a second said "Well because we get a lot of patients in here with acne". Pretty big confidence boost to pass like that with no makeup, needing laser!

[ZoeM]

Considering you're pretty much one of the board poster children for "Perfect transition results," Alaina, I am not surprised in the least.

[ZoeM]

Edit for, this just happened.
I was in mixed clothing - male top, female jeans, heavy green male-sweater. Not trying to pass.
So, I walk up to the pharmacy counter, say I'm here to pick up a prescription. She asks me what my name is, I say M--, Christopher.
She asks me, literal wording, if his birthday is in April.

Oh, and earlier, I got a fraud prevention call. They have my zip wrong, so I'm transferred to an operator - who, even after hearing my SSN and birthdate, refuses to count it as authentication - asking if I can visit a physical branch. My best guess is that she did not believe I am Chris.

It's a good day, folks.

[Alainaluvsu]

Thanks for the compliment

And when they don't believe me, I just tell them I'm transgender. Saves the hassle. Nothing bad has ever happened to me. Usually there's a big "OMG HOW NEAT!!" factor to it lol

[SarahLJP]

In February of this year I had a scary yet affirming moment with a bicyclist. I had been on HRT for 4 months. I was driving to see my therapist and it was snowing fairly heavily. Just as I pulled into a parking spot a guy on a bike came up and started yelling at me, telling me to use my mirrors. He called me a b***h, hit and spit on my window then rode off. Obviously he felt I almost hit him, but I didn't see him until he was on my left (which he shouldn't be) just before the incident. Also my side mirrors were covered by snow. My rear window was obscured too. I was visibly shaken for a bit in the waiting area of my therapists office.

[Alainaluvsu]

Here's an easy one. I was getting off the elevators today, and I asked a guy where the bathrooms were. He told me to follow him as he needed to go to one too. I followed him to the restroom and as he went in the mens room he just kinda pointed to the womens room door right besides the mens room door. Told him thanks and walked on in the womens room!

[V M]

In February of this year I had a scary yet affirming moment with a bicyclist. I had been on HRT for 4 months. I was driving to see my therapist and it was snowing fairly heavily. Just as I pulled into a parking spot a guy on a bike came up and started yelling at me, telling me to use my mirrors. He called me a b***h, hit and spit on my window then rode off. Obviously he felt I almost hit him, but I didn't see him until he was on my left (which he shouldn't be) just before the incident. Also my side mirrors were covered by snow. My rear window was obscured too. I was visibly shaken for a bit in the waiting area of my therapists office.

Cyclist can get a bit feisty sometimes, possibly they feel that motorist should be a bit more aware and responsible because they don't have the benefit of a steel cage to protect them from machines that weigh a ton or more

He probably had to swerve to avoid getting pinched in and that's how he ended up on the left side, by avoiding an accident with you

Remember, the cyclist is even more exposed to the weather conditions than you are, consideration = respect, Share the road

[SarahLJP]

Cyclist can get a bit feisty sometimes, possibly they feel that motorist should be a bit more aware and responsible because they don't have the benefit of a steel cage to protect them from machines that weigh a ton or more

He probably had to swerve to avoid getting pinched in and that's how he ended up on the left side, by avoiding an accident with you

Remember, the cyclist is even more exposed to the weather conditions than you are, consideration = respect, Share the road

Because of the heavy snow the conditions weren't very good. I did worry about what if I had actually hurt him though. Cyclists make me a little nervous. Here in Chicago and I'm sure other places they often act like they're pedestrians and go through four way stops without looking. They're not quite motorists, but they're not quite pedestrians. That was the only incident I've had with a cyclist in the 4 years I've been living here. I'm usually vigilant with cyclists.

[V M]

Possibly Chicago is a bit unique, but everywhere I've lived, the laws are just as strict and enforced for cyclists as they are for for motorists, particularly in the major cities where there is a congestion of the populous

Anyway, I'm not interested in arguing over it, be safe, be happy - Let's get back on topic

Hugs

[Renee]

I guess I must pass ok since when I went to the dressing rooms at Belk(they are in the middle of remodeling) yesterday, other women customers would point out which makeshift curtained "room" was available for me to try some jeans on. 

[SarahLJP]

I just remembered something that happened a few weeks ago. We had a little Friday night excitement when a building across from our house caught fire. Of course the whole neighborhood had to come out and watch the firefighters work, my mom and I watched from our front porch. Well, there is a woman that owns a 3 flat apartment building across the alley from us. She had seen me before I started transitioning when we first moved in, but we haven't seen much of each other in the intervening years. That night she was standing near by on the sidewalk while the fire was being put out. She came over to our house and the three of us started talking about the building. It had been unoccupied for a while. At one point the woman asked something like "so this is your daughter?" to my mom. We had just recently switched to using my female name openly. It caught my mom by surprise. Eventually my mom said "yes, this is Sarah". The woman obviously didn't remember me when I presented as male.

[Alainaluvsu]

When guys you work with ask for your phone number.

Or another more subtle way. A basketball game on TV was playing at work. I asked one of the guys who he was goingfor. He said San Francisco. The teams playing? Indiana and Miami lol. Boy I ain't stupid...