Quote from: Ms Grace on March 28, 2014, 06:02:01 PM
Standing in front of my current boss and a former boss I had to say "A, would you please introduce me to G, he doesn't seem to know who I am" the penny dropped when he heard my last name. The look on his face was hilarious!
Haha yes! I love that look!
And, well, if you somehow looked like a male before (I just can't see it), you definitely do not now... Of course you must look different. AND now you are beautiful!
Quote from: barbie on April 04, 2014, 05:26:47 PM
I usually work with my male colleagues. I frequently have dinner and drink together with them at restaurants.
A problem is when I meet just one man. In this case, later a few of them complain that other people who saw us think they got a new girl friend.
A few weeks ago, I drank at a bar in Seoul together with a man who is 8 years older than me. The bar owner was a woman, and he was a frequenter. Yesterday, he said that he had a hard time explaining to her that I am not a woman, but a crossdresser, but anyway she was jealous of me, always denoting me as 'she'.
Fortunately, sometimes they got praises from other men like "I didn't know that you are such a real man to have a young woman as your friend at your age" They seem to be proud of me when people in the street watch not only me but them, too, as men at their 50s get no attention at all in the street.
Nowadays I realized that being with just one man can cause problems or gossips to both the man and me. Even sometimes people at my work place mention homosexual relationship. These are a new challenge to my male colleagues and to myself.
barbie~~
Sounds like a pass to me! Just maybe be careful? I would hate to hear if something was too challenging for one of these people and it interfered with your work, but it sounds like more of a positive affirmation to you... and with that I am happy for you barbie!
As I've been working a ton recently saving up for SRS, I spend a lot of time hanging around people I have either never met or people that haven't seen me in a long time. It makes for an interesting mish mash of experiences.
A few weeks back, a coworker from a long time ago surprised me one day sitting across from me at my current desk. The last time I saw him was right as I was coming out to myself as trans and deciding to begin transition ("totally dude-ing it up" is what I like to call it). Anyway, I introduced myself and said that he looked very familiar. To this he said with a tone of blasphemy "What? Really?". As if he was shocked I would say that to him! Hah! At the time, I couldn't quite remember when I had seen him last. I wanted to see if he could place my old name with the girl he saw standing in front of him, and I let him know that I used to present as male- to which he said "Seriously? What?". A huge look of surprise on his face. Just awesome! And then he was determined to find out who I used to be
We started rattling off the places we had recently worked, and finally it clicked where and when we met. Then he finally said... "Wait, your last name wouldn't happen to be ____, would it?". I said "Yep". He couldn't believe it! He just kept saying this is so cool, this is so cool. I ended up having a great time hanging out at work with him once again... Only this time presenting as a girl. But honestly, not much had changed in terms of our demeanor together. I guess no major surprise there- I am still very much the same person!
The other great passing story I have from work happened just today when I was eating lunch with a few coworkers. One of which who I've worked with in the past year- so he knew me before I had FFS and VFS (obviously aware of my transness though). The other guy at the table, however, I have only had infrequent day to day interactions with over the past month or so. A few times he has commented on my outfits, and has been happy to make small talk to me randomly. Anyway at the lunch table, he starts talking/joking about his kids, and then he looks at me nonchalantly and says "You probably know what I mean, you probably have kids- right?" I shake my head and say "nononono" followed by a giggle... 1/3 because I realize that I am completely stealth with this guy, 1/3 because I am looking at the guy that knows of my past, and 1/3 because heck no I don't want kids right now! Then a couple of minutes later (to top it off), guy I don't know asks me if I have a boyfriend. The look on the other guy's face was priceless. What a smirk that was. I thoroughly enjoyed that one.
And my favorite one was from yesterday, when I had to show my passport to get into a bar. The guy took one look at the ID and literally laughed out loud, he thought it was a joke and that we were trying to play him for a fool. I decided to make things quick and explained to him that I am transgender, and that I will be changing my name in July (that one always seems to go over with no hassle). He then gave the ID back to me with a huge grin on his face and held up his hand to give me a high five. When I returned the fiver he just shook his head and said "good job". My friend was hysterical the whole time. Then we successfully ate the best dang burger in LA (if you are in LA you must try a burger from Father's Office - unless you are vegetarian of course!)
Okay that is way too long of a post, I'm sorry. Life has been good though and I thought I'd share
