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[Emmaline]

Paaaaaaaassssssss!

The one thing I am not looking forward to when I pass is those annoying cosmetic sales people in the mall targeting me.  Dead sea scrub my a$$.

[Jill F]

Funny story here I thought I'd share-  My wife and I went out to dinner the other day.  She was dressed pretty andro and was driving the car.  The valet called me ma'am and sir'd my wife, who is cis.

Even cisgirls get misgendered sometimes.  She laughed it off.

[kira21 ♡♡♡]

I started a bar job yesterday and I was told to let the guys lift anything that was heavy. They did too, they came up and said they would carry this or that for me. ^_^ It was lovely.

[Sheala]

such a pass.....

no such stories from me lattly...... I keep getting little kids asking if im a boy or girl....  it kinda hurts but it also tells me in headed in the right direction.... if they feel the need to ask i fall some where that they dont know... hehe

[LizMarie]

Normally I work from home but my laptop was at the north office the last two days while I mostly twiddled my thumbs. But it finally got fixed, and today I was able to go in and pick it up. Fridays are "casual Fridays" at my workplace so jeans are allowed. I went in, women's jeans, a guy's belt, women's sneakers, a guy's polo shirt over a compression shirt over a sports bra to flatten things out. Hair pulled back into a ponytail. Favorite cap on. In my opinion, I look like a geeky guy, right?

At least I assumed I looked like a geeky guy. And of course everyone I interacted with at the office treated me as a guy because that's the preconceived notion, they know me as male, and I'm presenting like a guy, right? At least I think I'm presenting male...

So I pick up the laptop, talk to my boss (who gives me a few odd looks which baffled me until a few minutes later), then head home. Headed to the door some guy from the second floor who I do not know at all is headed there ahead of me. He stops, opens the door and holds it, saying, "Let me get this for you, ma'am."

I am floored but just smile, drop my head slightly and continue on out the door. Wait a minute! Wasn't I supposed to be presenting male? How'd that happen?

I guess it's a good thing the legal name and gender change paperwork is planned for later this year.

[barbie]

Nowadays I experience a kind of opposite to passing.

Yesterday I visited two banks to arrange my financial debts while wearing a miniskirt, as it is getting warmer. I showed my ID together with my 2013 tax report and a certificate on my working position. The staffs just treated me so naturally, and were just busy processing the forms. They were all so much kind, as usual. No unusual reaction. No surprise.

I stopped at a shopping market, but no so many people studied me. Just a few aged women in the corridor seemed to be awed by my height, although I were wearing flat sandals.

In the evening, I had dinner with my friend in a restaurant. The owner and workers there greeted me, and I chatted with them. Some of the guests there also know about me a little bit, and we exchanged hello each other.

No thrill any more.

A photo of me yesterday.



barbie~~

[faye]

Funny story here I thought I'd share-  My wife and I went out to dinner the other day.  She was dressed pretty andro and was driving the car.  The valet called me ma'am and sir'd my wife, who is cis.

Even cisgirls get misgendered sometimes.  She laughed it off.

haha made me laugh


A waitress asked if my sister and me where twins. We giggled to each-other.

[barbie]

That spread in front of you looks delicious Babrie! x

Looking delicious, but it will assault your tongue and even esophagus by surprise. I once served it to some fellows from other countries. One guy from the U.S. bravely tried it, with only regret. Other guys from Europe even did not try it, after listening my introduction to the fermented food. The Norwegian gentleman knew something about it, as some Norwegians eat fermented sharks, but he did not try it. Only one fellow from China tried it, commenting that it is very delicious. Even most Koreans have never tried it, but my kids became addicted to it. It is a special recipe in a southern province here, and good at preventing dementia:

Fermented skate.
Very expensive, but those exported from South America are relatively inexpensive.

barbie~~

[Jill F]

Last night my wife and I went out for my b-day.   We ordered a couple of super nice bottles of wine from the sommelier who remembered us from last year.  She asked us what the occasion was then and my wife let it slip that our 20th anniversary is coming up and that we are married.  She looked incredibly puzzled until I told her that I used to be a dude.   Then her jaw about hit the floor.

Pass.

[Shantel]

Last night my wife and I went out for my b-day.   We ordered a couple of super nice bottles of wine from the sommelier who remembered us from last year.  She asked us what the occasion was then and my wife let it slip that our 20th anniversary is coming up and that we are married.  She looked incredibly puzzled until I told her that I used to be a dude.   Then her jaw about hit the floor.

Pass.

Pass and 

[barbie]

Last night my wife and I went out for my b-day.   We ordered a couple of super nice bottles of wine from the sommelier who remembered us from last year.  She asked us what the occasion was then and my wife let it slip that our 20th anniversary is coming up and that we are married.  She looked incredibly puzzled until I told her that I used to be a dude.   Then her jaw about hit the floor.

Pass.

I will have the 20th anniversary next year. My wife is nowadays busy taking photos for me using the smartphone. I frequently have lunch together with her at restaurant, and in most cases, people there know we are a couple, but sometimes do not recognize me.

I am anyway still a dude 

barbie~~

[jfong]

Fermented skate.
Very expensive, but those exported from South America are relatively inexpensive.

barbie~~

삼합? I tried the fermented skate (홍어) all by itself before and I do agree it is the most foul aside from the Icelandic hakarl (fermented shark). I still do want to try it with bossam together though.
I do love the 막걸리 though

Ps. Excuse my Korean spelling, still learning

[IamNotxChristine]

I like to go to really rough bars
Like rough where dealers hang out  people get LOL get
Shanked the door men are old ex gangsters
And girls beat each other up cops always walkjng by
Often you see people outside late with broken noses
Cut foreheads lol
And me so clean prissy snd proper
And 5 guys walk in together all checking me out
Saying to each other comments about my legs butt ans face
Well they got told after LOL but 5 guys all wanted to do nasty
Things to me until they were told the reality lolol

[@Diana]

Last night my wife and I went out for my b-day.   We ordered a couple of super nice bottles of wine from the sommelier who remembered us from last year.  She asked us what the occasion was then and my wife let it slip that our 20th anniversary is coming up and that we are married.  She looked incredibly puzzled until I told her that I used to be a dude.   Then her jaw about hit the floor.

Pass.

[Carrie Liz]

You know you pass when...

I was checking out at Walgreen's yesterday, and the cashier asked me if I had a rewards card. I couldn't remember whether I did or not because I hadn't been there in a long time. So they told me to type in my phone number and they'd look me up in the system. With a perplexed look, the cashier asked me "is there a 'Charles' in your household?" I smiled and laughed, saying "Uh, yes, there is." She looked really confused. I then said "And actually..." and pulled out my credit card, showing her that the name "Charles" is on it as well. And yet the cashier still didn't figure it out. She asked if he was my brother, and if I wanted her to put me in the system as well.

[Shantel]

You know you pass when...

I was checking out at Walgreen's yesterday, and the cashier asked me if I had a rewards card. I couldn't remember whether I did or not because I hadn't been there in a long time. So they told me to type in my phone number and they'd look me up in the system. With a perplexed look, the cashier asked me "is there a 'Charles' in your household?" I smiled and laughed, saying "Uh, yes, there is." She looked really confused. I then said "And actually..." and pulled out my credit card, showing her that the name "Charles" is on it as well. And yet the cashier still didn't figure it out. She asked me if he was my brother.

Great pass Carrie, because if a cis female can't read you then you are all good to go!

[barbie]

삼합? I tried the fermented skate (홍어) all by itself before and I do agree it is the most foul aside from the Icelandic hakarl (fermented shark). I still do want to try it with bossam together though.
I do love the 막걸리 though

Ps. Excuse my Korean spelling, still learning

Yes. You know so much about Korean food and culture/language. All Korean words were spelled correctly.
All of my family members can eat the skate.

barbie~~

[barbie]

You know you pass when...

I was checking out at Walgreen's yesterday, and the cashier asked me if I had a rewards card. I couldn't remember whether I did or not because I hadn't been there in a long time. So they told me to type in my phone number and they'd look me up in the system. With a perplexed look, the cashier asked me "is there a 'Charles' in your household?" I smiled and laughed, saying "Uh, yes, there is." She looked really confused. I then said "And actually..." and pulled out my credit card, showing her that the name "Charles" is on it as well. And yet the cashier still didn't figure it out. She asked if he was my brother, and if I wanted her to put me in the system as well.

Yes. One advantageous thing while traveling in a foreign country is that people there can not figure out my gender from my first name.

barbie~~

[barbie]

A couple of weeks ago I took a taxi cab for me and kiddo (2y 10m). Me and lady-driver were chit-chatting about random subjects and when we arrived, kiddo paid for us with quite generous tips and lady said to her: "Hold on, and let me find some change for Your mommy". I was like - OMG...and just mumbled smth like "It's OK, please keep that change", and she went on: "Tnx! Then, girls, let me help to get out of your seats". And I was dressed quite andro and using my normal voice...

Yes, Emily. HRT is changing your environment, too. Have you noticed any change in your voice?

barbie~~

[Sydney_NYC]

You know you pass when...

Yesterday my wife took this picture of me and posted it on Facebook (I didn't think it was that great of a picture as I was squinting)



One of her friends (who had been off Facebook for the last 8 months and just logged back on) messaged my wife and said that she didn't know her husband had a twin sister. My wife then explained to her about me transitioning and she was in shock. After the shock her first question to my wife is, how is she handling being married to a woman now.