The New you know you pass when

[MaryXYX]

I went to Callen-Lorde health center (where I get my HRT) to get the second shot for my Hepatitis A/B vaccination. (I had never been vaccinated for either.) Anyway, I was directed to a different floor where the nurses didn't know me and the nurse asked what was their for and hadn't look at my chart closely. She handed my a form and ask if it was possible if I was pregnant. I told her that due to chromosome disorder in the form of a Y chromosome, that it wasn't possible. She laughed and sad that was the best one she's heard.

I must remember that one!  Although I wouldn't be asked that particular question at my age.

[FalseHybridPrincess]

 I was going on my laser appointment today and on my way outside a bakery there was a young lady treating cookies
she asked me if Id like one and I said yes then she said
"should I give you one without sugar? nah you re young I ll give you a normal one"

anyway the hint here is that im from greece and we use different pronouns in adjectives for male and females
and she used the female one when she called me young

[Ms Grace]

I was going on my laser appointment today and on my way outside a bakery there was a young lady treating cookies
she asked me if Id like one and I said yes then she said
"should I give you one without sugar? nah you re young I ll give you a normal one"

anyway the hint here is that im from greece and we use different pronouns in adjectives for male and females
and she used the female one when she called me young

Well that's sweet! Hope the cookie was tasty!

[FalseHybridPrincess]

Well that's sweet! Hope the cookie was tasty!

probably the best cookie I ever had 

[Dee Marshall]

probably the best cookie I ever had 

With an intro like that the cookie could have tasted like cardboard and it would still be the best you ever had.

[Handy]

About two days ago on campus while in boy mode (I'm still at least partially closeted so boy mode is currently my only mode  ), I was washing my hands in the restroom, and as I was preparing to leave a guy walked in, JERKED BACK OUT really quickly with a mortified look on his face and checked the bathroom sign, then proceeded to come back in was a confidence boost to be sure

There was one other instance which really stood out in my mind: My SO muffinpants was driving when she got pulled over (me in the passenger seat, and long before coming out about being trans), I said something to the officer when he bent down and looked in, his response, "Who are you? A girlfriend?" "Uh.. no" "Her sister?" "No.. I'm her boyfriend", I'm blessed in that puberty hit me with the combined force of a handful of feathers. Naturally things were decidedly awkward after that and I suspect it's why we didn't get a ticket XD

[faye]

I take a jog every other day and wear guy styled shorts and shirt, after a long run I had to stop as my side started cramping, i untucked my shirt to get some air and while i was crossing the street a car turned by me and I heard someone call out the window, "Stop wearing boy clothes!" and for a moment i was offended, confused and then realized what had happened all at once. Reverse gender insults are so weird!

[llerret]

Mine isn't as great as everyone else's but it's something. A couple of days ago, I went to the movie theater with my mom and as we were sitting, my tuck was stinging really bad and my mom urged me to go to the bathroom. I no longer can go into men's rooms but am so afraid of women's rooms but I rushed in the ladies' room and handled my business. I waited int he stall until everyone was gone and went to the front mirror and washed my hands. My makeup and hair were a mess so I was fixing myself up and suddenly a woman walks in. She walks to the little machine that you buy tampons and stuff from and then comes up to me and asks "do you happen to have an extra tampon on you?" to which I told her "no, I'm so sorry. I don't have them with me" and smiled. She said it was okay, smiled, and bought her a new one from the machine and I walked out really happy haha

[barbie]

I take a jog every other day and wear guy styled shorts and shirt, after a long run I had to stop as my side started cramping, i untucked my shirt to get some air and while i was crossing the street a car turned by me and I heard someone call out the window, "Stop wearing boy clothes!" and for a moment i was offended, confused and then realized what had happened all at once. Reverse gender insults are so weird!

I have noticed that people tend to speak to runners more easily. In my case, they usually ask directions. In summer, some men stop their car to offer me a ride. I nearly replied like "Are you a fool? Isn't it obvious to you that I am running for exercise?"

barbie~~

[barbie]

Mine isn't as great as everyone else's but it's something. A couple of days ago, I went to the movie theater with my mom and as we were sitting, my tuck was stinging really bad and my mom urged me to go to the bathroom. I no longer can go into men's rooms but am so afraid of women's rooms but I rushed in the ladies' room and handled my business. I waited int he stall until everyone was gone and went to the front mirror and washed my hands. My makeup and hair were a mess so I was fixing myself up and suddenly a woman walks in. She walks to the little machine that you buy tampons and stuff from and then comes up to me and asks "do you happen to have an extra tampon on you?" to which I told her "no, I'm so sorry. I don't have them with me" and smiled. She said it was okay, smiled, and bought her a new one from the machine and I walked out really happy haha

Yes. Women tend to feel more comradeship in women's restroom.

barbie~~

[Adam (birkin)]

I take a jog every other day and wear guy styled shorts and shirt, after a long run I had to stop as my side started cramping, i untucked my shirt to get some air and while i was crossing the street a car turned by me and I heard someone call out the window, "Stop wearing boy clothes!" and for a moment i was offended, confused and then realized what had happened all at once. Reverse gender insults are so weird!

Haha, it is weird, isn't it? I'd consider that a definite pass.

I have noticed that people tend to speak to runners more easily. In my case, they usually ask directions. In summer, some men stop their car to offer me a ride. I nearly replied like "Are you a fool? Isn't it obvious to you that I am running for exercise?"

barbie~~

I've noticed that too. I don't know why they would talk to runners, though. Here usually it seems that they either heckle them in some form (making fun, or hitting on them), or they want to offer encouragement (like saying "good for you!" or something). It's part of the reason I'm kind of scared to start running, because I've observed these interactions many times.

[barbie]

In retrospect, I once nearly passed. When I was 13 or 14 years old, I was at the house of my friend. A little girl at her age 8 or 9 whispered to the elder sister of my friend, and she suddenly laughed out loudly. She said the little girl seriously asked whether I am a boy or a girl. At that time, my hair was very short, but my physical features tended to be androgynous, probably coming with puberty.

Nowadays I get that kind of question nearly everyday when I am introduced to people for the first time. Some of my colleagues recommend me to write down my biological sex in my name cards.

barbie~~

[kira21 ♡♡♡]

Mine isn't as great as everyone else's but it's something. A couple of days ago, I went to the movie theater with my mom and as we were sitting, my tuck was stinging really bad and my mom urged me to go to the bathroom. I no longer can go into men's rooms but am so afraid of women's rooms but I rushed in the ladies' room and handled my business. I waited int he stall until everyone was gone and went to the front mirror and washed my hands. My makeup and hair were a mess so I was fixing myself up and suddenly a woman walks in. She walks to the little machine that you buy tampons and stuff from and then comes up to me and asks "do you happen to have an extra tampon on you?" to which I told her "no, I'm so sorry. I don't have them with me" and smiled. She said it was okay, smiled, and bought her a new one from the machine and I walked out really happy haha

Erm,  how is the not as good? I thought it was awesome :-)

[Aquarelle]

For my last fulltime period, which is about a month maybe, I didn't get any strange looks and haven't been "sirred", but neither being "ma'amed" - people just behave completely normal to me... Don't know if it passing or not...

[FalseHybridPrincess]

For my last fulltime period, which is about a month maybe, I didn't get any strange looks and haven't been "sirred", but neither being "ma'amed" - people just behave completely normal to me... Don't know if it passing or not...

normal is good, its probably passing.

[Lyric]

Ironically, I think for most us really don't start "passing" until it stops mattering whether we do or not. I think what most of us want the most is to simply be treated with respect. The best way to do that is to have complete inner confidence in yourself and enjoy life without being particularly concerned with what others are thinking. I don't think confidence comes from passing, but instead, it's the other way around.

[Shantel]

Ironically, I think for most us really don't start "passing" until it stops mattering whether we do or not. I think what most of us want the most is to simply be treated with respect. The best way to do that is to have complete inner confidence in yourself and enjoy life without being particularly concerned with what others are thinking. I don't think confidence comes from passing, but instead, it's the other way around.

So true! Knowing I don't pass ever and coming to terms with it makes it unimportant enough that I'm confident in my own skin just being me and it seems that I pass without really passing because of it. Kind of convoluted, but it does work.

[Allyda]

My best (and kind of cutest incident) also happened in a Wal-Mart mens room. I had walked in by mistake not thinking then felt a tug on my blouse. I turned to see a little boy who I'd saw standing outside as I walked in who said: "Ms., this isn't the girls room. It's the boys. The girls room is across from this one" then he took me by the hand and led me out of the mens over to the girls then said: "My mommy's in there. Could you tell her to hurry?" I thanked him, asked his mommy's name, and had him describe her. Then went in. I found her at the mirror. After striking up a conversation and telling her what her son did we talked for about 5 minutes. She waited on me outside, and as we were both leaving we talked on the way out. Because of that cute little boy and my mistake I'd made a new friend. Never once did she question, or doubt my gender. Upon reaching my truck (I've a handicapped license plate due to my disabilities so I was parked in front) I did tell her I was transgendered because I didn't wish to start off a new friendship without being truthful. She replied:"I never would have known if you hadn't told me." and we chatted for a while more then exchanged phone numbers and said our goodbyes. We're still good friends to this day.

Ally

[Shantel]

My best (and kind of cutest incident) also happened in a Wal-Mart mens room. I had walked in by mistake not thinking then felt a tug on my blouse. I turned to see a little boy who I'd saw standing outside as I walked in who said: "Ms., this isn't the girls room. It's the boys. The girls room is across from this one" then he took me by the hand and led me out of the mens over to the girls then said: "My mommy's in there. Could you tell her to hurry?" I thanked him, asked his mommy's name, and had him describe her. Then went in. I found her at the mirror. After striking up a conversation and telling her what her son did we talked for about 5 minutes. She waited on me outside, and as we were both leaving we talked on the way out. Because of that cute little boy and my mistake I'd made a new friend. Never once did she question, or doubt my gender. Upon reaching my truck (I've a handicapped license plate due to my disabilities so I was parked in front) I did tell her I was transgendered because I didn't wish to start off a new friendship without being truthful. She replied:"I never would have known if you hadn't told me." and we chatted for a while more then exchanged phone numbers and said our goodbyes. We're still good friends to this day.

Ally

Wow, good one Ally!

[Sheala]

My best (and kind of cutest incident) also happened in a Wal-Mart mens room. I had walked in by mistake not thinking then felt a tug on my blouse. I turned to see a little boy who I'd saw standing outside as I walked in who said: "Ms., this isn't the girls room. It's the boys. The girls room is across from this one" then he took me by the hand and led me out of the mens over to the girls then said: "My mommy's in there. Could you tell her to hurry?" I thanked him, asked his mommy's name, and had him describe her. Then went in. I found her at the mirror. After striking up a conversation and telling her what her son did we talked for about 5 minutes. She waited on me outside, and as we were both leaving we talked on the way out. Because of that cute little boy and my mistake I'd made a new friend. Never once did she question, or doubt my gender. Upon reaching my truck (I've a handicapped license plate due to my disabilities so I was parked in front) I did tell her I was transgendered because I didn't wish to start off a new friendship without being truthful. She replied:"I never would have known if you hadn't told me." and we chatted for a while more then exchanged phone numbers and said our goodbyes. We're still good friends to this day.

Ally

Absolute best pass i have heard.