The New you know you pass when

[Shantel]

Shantel;

I have learnt over the years three key things:

1. Be confident
2. Never look down
3. Smile

Mind you it does help that I have nno Adams Apple, small hands and feet and always wear dresses or skirts. Mind you in Banning most women were in Jeans or Shorts although I was in a Red sleeveless top and black skirt and boots, but I felt a million dollars!

I live in the Pacific Northwest and the majority of women here seem to dress like loggers half the time, so it's always refreshing to see a woman wearing a dress and looking as if they enjoy being a real girly-girl.

[CoderMarissa]

Intake nurse: mmhm, and when was your last period?
Me: Oh um... I don't have periods.
Nurse: Oh, did you have a hysterectomy?
Me: No, not exactly.
Nurse: Well then why not, honey?
Me: I don't have ovaries.
Nurse: You don't have ovaries?
Me: Nope, I'm trans.
Nurse: Shut up! ... Really?
Me: Really.
Nurse: Good for you!

[MaryXYX]

Good one Marissa!  The nurse must have been close enough to you to see you properly.  Very good for her to be supportive.

If I was asked when was my last period they would be expecting a year not a day of the month.

[YinYanga]

Marissa 

[Autumn]

Intake nurse: mmhm, and when was your last period?
Me: Oh um... I don't have periods.
Nurse: Oh, did you have a hysterectomy?
Me: No, not exactly.
Nurse: Well then why not, honey?
Me: I don't have ovaries.
Nurse: You don't have ovaries?
Me: Nope, I'm trans.
Nurse: Shut up! ... Really?
Me: Really.
Nurse: Good for you!

Ha! I just had the same thing happen to me yesterday.

Nurse: When was your last menstrual cycle?
Me: Uh...I've never had one.

[Patty_M]

This is ancient history but one time I had to meet my ex in a restaurant over some business matters. 

She walked past me twice without recognition.  She did pick me out on the third pass by because apparently I look like my mother!

[Emmaline]

Lol.

Oh yes, I am really starting to look like my mother too.  Very weird.

[Jane's Sweet Refrain]

Ha! I just had the same thing happen to me yesterday.

Nurse: When was your last menstrual cycle?
Me: Uh...I've never had one.

Before a recent surgery, an in-take nurse asked me if I was sure I wasn't pregnant. I told her, "disappointingly, no". And, "I'm 45." She said, "Oh, I'm sorry."

[Danniella]

You know you pass when:

People start asking for directions on the street again >.>

To be clear I used to be stopped for directions a lot...clearly I had a very approachable and driven "I know where I am and where I am going" look about me in the past...

But since I began to transition, I had gotten used to the overt social responses to my presence of "Don't look it in the eyes honey! Overt your gaze and shuffle around the terrifying trans person's wake...lest it infect us with its straaaange".

So after around 6 months of that reaction, you can imagine my surprise when a couple came up to me and asked me where a local landmark was last week, I was genuinely flabbergasted!

At first I thought is must have simply been a fluke mistake from a pair of clearly visually challenged individuals...or that they possibly had the ingenious idea to ask one of the local sex workers...since they would clearly know the best route to all the obscure back streets and public landmarks in the city...but it's happening with increasing regularity once more

So yay for once more attaining my appearance of confidence and geographical awareness...the only downside of this of course, is having to reveal to these nice people that I am actually almost completely inept when it comes to navigating to or from anything that I cannot see within my direct line of sight...and even that can be difficult should it lack a giant floating quest marker over it's head >.>

...

Videogames, you are a cruel mistress...

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

You know you pass when:

People start asking for directions on the street again >.>

To be clear I used to be stopped for directions a lot...clearly I had a very approachable and driven "I know where I am and where I am going" look about me in the past...

But since I began to transition, I had gotten used to the overt social responses to my presence of "Don't look it in the eyes honey! Overt your gaze and shuffle around the terrifying trans person's wake...lest it infect us with its straaaange".

So after around 6 months of that reaction, you can imagine my surprise when a couple came up to me and asked me where a local landmark was last week, I was genuinely flabbergasted!

At first I thought is must have simply been a fluke mistake from a pair of clearly visually challenged individuals...or that they possibly had the ingenious idea to ask one of the local sex workers...since they would clearly know the best route to all the obscure back streets and public landmarks in the city...but it's happening with increasing regularity once more

So yay for once more attaining my appearance of confidence and geographical awareness...the only downside of this of course, is having to reveal to these nice people that I am actually almost completely inept when it comes to navigating to or from anything that I cannot see within my direct line of sight...and even that can be difficult should it lack a giant floating quest marker over it's head >.>

...

Videogames, you are a cruel mistress...

Nice pass you nerd! lol
(Im a nerd too.)

[Ataraxia]

My second time going out presenting as female was on Monday

You (can be fairly confident) you pass when:

You go out wearing distinctly female clothes and no one so much as glances at you

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

My second time going out presenting as female was on Monday

You (can be fairly confident) you pass when:

You go out wearing distinctly female clothes and no one so much as glances at you

Indeed!  Way to blend in. 

[Jaime R D]

When I was bringing out a sub to a customer that was disabled the other day, his transporter(who happened to be on crutches himself currently) asked me if I was a mother since I was being a bit nuturing and doing that even though I was already off work and all. 


There are probably a lot of other little incidences as well, but I don't relish in much of it anymore, I've become a bit jaded to most of it and just do my thing and not worry a lot about it.

[Ataraxia]

When I was bringing out a sub to a customer that was disabled the other day, his transporter(who happened to be on crutches himself currently) asked me if I was a mother since I was being a bit nuturing and doing that even though I was already off work and all. 


There are probably a lot of other little incidences as well, but I don't relish in much of it anymore, I've become a bit jaded to most of it and just do my thing and not worry a lot about it.

That's awesome! I would love to get a comment like that one day. That means you "pass" emotionally as well as physically

[Shantel]

That's awesome! I would love to get a comment like that one day. That means you "pass" emotionally as well as physically :)

She really does!

[Sydney_NYC]

You know you pass when:

When other supermarket customers ask you about how the seafood department is in the grocery store. I had a woman walk up to me and ask. I'm a very conscientious shopper as I read labels very carefully due to wife having food allergies (casein and corn) and mine (tomatoes.)

[Jaime R D]

That's awesome! I would love to get a comment like that one day. That means you "pass" emotionally as well as physically

Pass as what would be the big question!

[Shantel]

Pass as what would be the big question!

"asked me if I was a mother"   Uh - As a female because mom's are always feminine gender! 

[Jaime R D]

"asked me if I was a mother"   Uh - As a female because mom's are always feminine gender! 

Hey, even female dogs can be mothers!   


*runs away*

[jennifer356]

Haven't been to the hair salon for ages as I have wanted to let it grow out a bit - Stylist I saw I have known for years but this was my first time presenting female and I explained the situation and let her do her magic - They have a computerized database/register system and repeat customers get a discount - sooooo - The cashier asks for my name - I give her my femme name which of cause isn't there - I tell her to look for my male name - She types that in and brings up my account and then asks "Who is John?  Is that your son?" - I explain that he is me and that I am transitioning and she says "believe me hon you are there already" - Definitely made my afternoon

be well
jennifer