Quote from: Stealthy on April 10, 2012, 09:38:33 PM
Pretty, what you're saying right there is one of the major arguments used to claim we don't exist and we're just deluding ourselves, all because the things in our pants don't match our gender identity. I think I might've read a transphobe write those exact words once.
Why should it matter to me what a transphobe wrote? People call everyone a transphobe if they disagree with new-age unicorn gender roles.
Are you really gonna paint me as a transphobe while I'm transitioning?

I don't hate myself THAT much.
Anyway, reality check, just because something someone says denies your identity doesn't mean it's automatically wrong. If life were that convenient I could walk around as a vampire

. I can't do that though. Not saying it's automatically right either, but I'm saying how much it validates your identity has nothing to do with whether or not it's right.
Second of all, and here's the important thing, when someone is transitioning, they're making a claim that they're a sex that they weren't born as, and asking people to treat them as that sex.
If there's NOT a medical basis for it, like, if that never actually happens physically, then it's not a very legitimate claim, is it? Not any more than saying "I'm a vampire, treat me like a vampire." And I really doubt even you would take that one seriously

You know, I don't set society's standards. And I'm not defending people who just want to deny someone's identity no matter how well it fits them just to be a jerk.
Still, like, you can say you have a problem with society's treatment based on sex. You can tell people they shouldn't treat a guy differently just because they're a guy. Or a girl differently because they're a girl. That's kind of a different issue than trans issues. But when you tell someone "I was born a girl but I'm a guy," or whatever, it's gonna silly if you look and act like a girl.
But anyway, actually paying attention to reality doesn't have to work against trans people. Because if you actually pay attention to reality, where men and women have actual differences in personality and interests and sexuality and stuff, and where some men are actually physically born with innately feminine personalities and interests and sexuality and vise versa... then those people can't fairly deny your identity anymore than they could deny that a cancer patient has tumors.
And I went on way too long about this, because honestly I'm kind of in the "whatever" stage about it all, but sometimes I just want to ask this community like, "lol, really?" And I unfortunately have to exclude myself from those "we"s because again, I really have trouble fitting into this community as someone who actually believes it means something palpable to be "masculine" or "feminine." Like, I want to fit in here, but honestly I couldn't even take
myself seriously if I were transitioning after having a wife and five kids, a gigantic beard and a car demolition business or something.