Okay okay. Boys, Nygeel needs some help. A Brother is in need.
This is going to sound a bit brutal, but I'm not one to mince words.
You're not rugged like Clint Eastwood. You have some feminine features that can actually be used to your advantage. But ONLY if you're seen as a guy. The world is brutal. If you don't quack like a duck, waddle like a duck or look like a duck, you're not a duck, no matter how much you cluck. A genetic guy would probably be offended to be gendered as female.
You have to rely on other cue's to tell the world, "I'm a man!" if your squeeking and jumping up and down with excitement, this screams "girl!" And growing up in the male world, that would have painted a target on your back and advertised you as "Open for a butt kicking." I of course grew up with other British military kids. How civilian kids were, I don't know too well. the one civvy school I went to I was thought to be gay (Just like at every school I went to) and therefore an easy target because I couldn't hide my feminine mannerisms or speech pattern..something. I never did figure it out. Think of it as balancing stats in sports. The team, is YOU. You're look's aren't strong. The other team are genetic males. So you make up for your weak points with attributes that bring team YOU's stat's up level with the Genetic Males. Study your opponent. watch them. what are the men in your age group buying and wearing? What do other guys say to each other? T wont give you a Grizzly Adams beard over night. it could take years.
I get misgendered. people at work STILL call me by male pronouns. So I do understand the frustration you feel. At drive-thru's it can be hit and miss with my voice. When I am out in public I try to portray a female in my mannerism's, appearance, walk and how I communicate and interact with others around me. And it pay's off! I rushed unto Subway before work yesterday. I was called Ma'am without uttering a single word by the girl behind the counter. I was in a jacket and my work uniform.
We can debate your appearance until we are blue in the face. Photo's will only tell a percentage of the story. The rest is down to your mannerism's, interaction with others, walk, speech pattern, etc.
you either work at it until you pass 90-100% of the time, or you can resign yourself to being misgendered, but just you. Me, I am working with what I have and trying new things all the time. But the learning never stops.
I know it is in you to pass. The key just eludes you right now. So get into the game.
Just my thoughts, no offence is intended. I want to see you to succeed and kick ass doing it!
