A few musings

[Axelfan]

Well, I'm considering coming out of the closet that I think I'm a MTF TG, but there are a few things I've been thinking about.
Right now, as a male, I have quite a lot going for me, and I'm scared that if I transition I could lose it all. I mean, is it better to wait a little longer to start properly transitioning, say, after I've finished college? 'Cos then I'll have my A-levels and can go to university when I like, meaning it could be easier what with what could be going on and stuff.

Also, I'm scared about how my M&D might react, as well Dad seemed really disgusted when some TG's were on a tv program last night.

Anybody got any useful advice?

[HelenW]

If you can avoid it, Axelfan, then do so.  Especially if you think it will put the rest of your education in danger.  You will need a good education to get a well paying job and well paying is what you'll probably need to pay for all that you'll need to do and buy if you go all the way with this.  Transition is not an easy thing to do so unless you feel absolutely driven to it, maybe it's better to wait.

You may lose your family over this.  Dad may be so upset that he won't be able to see the truth and learn what being trans is all about.  Other family members could react the same way.

In the meantime, though, you might be able to educate your parents while their judgment isn't clouded by the fact that their child is transgendered.  That might go a long way towards their accepting you when the time comes.  Counter your dad's disgust with facts, how it's something you're most likely born with and how transsexuals usually end up having the bad choice of transitioning or suicide.  (Lotsa facts in the WIKI! "Coming out to the Family" is also in there https://www.susans.org/wiki/Main_Page) And, of course, keep visiting Susan's because here you can be whoever you really are without anyone judging you.

Good luck, I hope you make the best decision for yourself and the future.

hugs & smiles
helen