Quote from: InstantRamen on May 08, 2012, 10:29:37 PM
ahh ok so I'm a senior in high school atm, and my senior prom's coming up. Now I initially didn't want to go cause i'm not out yet at all, but i've been dressing very masculine, and do pass 80-90% of the time, but my friend's have been wanting me to go, so why not ....I guess (they expected me to wear a dress, but i instantly refused, and they started questioning....i eventually argued my way out ..barely >.>;;;...that whole thing made me feel pressured to come out.. if not then, i probably will sometime soon )but, I'm definitely not going in a dress though, that's for sure. I was thinking about a dress shirt, waistcoat, and dress pants... is that formal enough? Did you guys ever go? If so, how'd it go? I'm utterly clueless and nerve wrecked.
hopefully my reply isn't belated, but...i think you definitely should go, i went through a similar situation for middle school (not so much for high school due to irrelevant issues). if you've been so masculine presenting all this time, it's not like you'd be doing something that dramatic. since you hadn't come out yet your friends are still stuck in the "let's try to get the femme side out of this person" thought process (if you're like me it probably annoys you to no end). yes, you'll probably be nervous that people are judging you. but just think of how happy you'll be to remember standing up for yourself and feeling comfortably dressed.
btw i didn't go to my own sr. prom but went to my gf's and i thought it was adequately formal to wear a shirt, tie, and dress pants; i remember the standard "uniform" included the waistcoat but it'll be dark and you'll be overheating less (if you intend to dance) if you do without it. you're call, fancy it up if you feel like, i just happened to wear stuff i owned already. no one will care as long as you wear typical dressed up stuff, everyone will be too busy socializing and looking around/wandering through the venue.
and don't be too worried about coming out; if these people are your friends and are not blind to how you dress and act, yet still are your friends, you have good chances of positive or neutral reception. (based on my experience: you'll be surprised at how nonchalantly most people respond. in fact it's often a rather anticlimactic thing after all the stressing you'll probably do-even if you expect to be accepted)
plus, college is coming up (assuming you intend to continue in school); all i can say is make good hs memories while you can dude.
good luck.
p.s. nice to see another asian guy out there, represent!
