sensitivity , increase or decrease or stay the same ?

[lilacwoman]

Delia,
no one seems to make a jelly dilator/dildo that is ideal for a newish post-op fighting tightness issues.

That ring of muscle about 1.5/2inches deep needs to be stretched but as we naturally sit on it it keeps wanting to close up.
The only thing I found clsoe enough to ideal was (ironically) a jelly butt plug that could be used and left in overnight as the big flat handle piece made sure it didn't slip in past the muscle and get stuck and need a trip to a medic to get it fished out.

Having to go to an emergency room to have  a 'foreign object' retrieved from a vagina by a medic would be the ultimate validation of femaleness as medics are very used to removing objects from GGs.

[Deila]

that is a great idea, thank you! I shall look into it, did you ever walk around outside with it inside of you? At this sex toy shop they sell kinda big penis shaped but plugs with the base that im thinking of shoving up there for a few hours a day.

[AbraCadabra]

that is a great idea, thank you! I shall look into it, did you ever walk around outside with it inside of you? At this sex toy shop they sell kinda big penis shaped but plugs with the base that im thinking of shoving up there for a few hours a day.

Well I tried THAT... the problem?

Butt-plugs narrow down sharply toward the 'end-flange' the part to prevent it slipping all in.
This is designed for the first ring-muscle/sphincter of the anus.
At least my vj has that first ring-muscle (sphincter) some 1 ½" in, so the 'flange' will prevent it going in deep enough to stay put.
The vj sphincter will be in front of this neck, just about at the thickest part for the plug, and as soon as you get up it be ejected.
No one panty be 'strong enough' to keep this thing in place.
Speaking from experience.

[Deila]

ty for the reply, but I shall find a way even if I have to make my own.

[AbraCadabra]

ty for the reply, but I shall find a way even if I have to make my own.

Hum, good luck

[lilacwoman]

Quite true Axelle, but have you tried?
Experience does count even these days.

Most butt plugs are actually wrong as they have the big long part with a short thin neck neck while what we need is a big short end and thick long neck.

This is about what we need:  biggish end to stay in place beyond the muscle with a big enough shaft to keep the muscles stretched to about 1.4 inches/35mm.  Its a lot more more expensive than I paid but all sex toys have massive amrk-ups.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19206

I have a similar one with same sizes but I can't find it listed now so no use me putting a link to it.

This looks big enough to do the job and short enough to not cause damage if you sit down a bit too hard but shoudl be OK to leave in all night.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15190

It woudl be good to be able to see a full selection of dildos and plugs but do shops have them all on display?
I only ever ventured into a sex shop once and hurried out when I saw there was frogman's suit on a model by the door.

[AbraCadabra]

Quite true Axelle, but have you tried?
Experience does count even these days.

To say it again: "Well I tried THAT..."  and "Speaking from experience" , so yes, I have tried as in: speaking from experience

Most butt plugs are actually wrong as they have the big long part with a short thin neck neck while what we need is a big short end and thick long neck.

Quite right this too. But there are some exceptions, though they are too small in size/diameter to even bother. Again speaking from experience.

This is about what we need:  biggish end to stay in place beyond the muscle with a big enough shaft to keep the muscles stretched to about 1.4 inches/35mm.  Its a lot more more expensive than I paid but all sex toys have massive amrk-ups.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19206

Jeepes... those suction cups will make you walk like I did - one week after SRS. No good, nah.

I have a similar one with same sizes but I can't find it listed now so no use me putting a link to it.

This looks big enough to do the job and short enough to not cause damage if you sit down a bit too hard but shoudl be OK to leave in all night.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15190

Length: 5.75 inches !!! --- TitanMen, eh
You may want to sit on that lot - not me. I'd be sitting on my peritoneal reflection (bone) and all I may say, tears in my eyes. No, please, too much!

It woudl be good to be able to see a full selection of dildos and plugs but do shops have them all on display?
I only ever ventured into a sex shop once and hurried out when I saw there was frogman's suit on a model by the door.

Oh, well - toys, eh?
Something for different tastes. Frogman's suits, really? Must be for doing some muff diving then, he he.

Axélle

[kelly_aus]

ugh.  never tried anal sex but I do know the anal muscle is definitely not intended for more than a few seconds use so if it can be made to relax then its outside my experience and likely to stay that way.

I do know the the muscle does weaken to the point that 'messy leaking' is a serious issue for analists and had a pre-op friend whose b/f preferred anal sex until eventualy the pre-op needed a very expensive and serious op that has forever ruined the natural anal situation.
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this nervous tightening reflex is what that stupid woman doctor claimed was the sign that all those children had been anally sex abused in north of UK some years back.
All thsoe of us who have chnaged and washed our babies know that their little anusses tighten up when washed so why this stupoid doctor took that as a sign of sex abuse must mean she is pretty sick in the head?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cleveland_child_abuse_scandal

I've known gay guys in their 60's who have had more anal sex than I've had hot meals and not one of them reported any such issues.. Can't say I've personally had such an issue either.. Could it happen? Sure, I suppose so.. But it's far from the major issue you make it out to be...


Analists? Really? I think you need to get over your homophobia or at least learn to not make it so obvious..

[lilacwoman]

analist is a perfectly good short way of saying 'men and women who like anal sex?'


meanwhile out in the real world the real facts of anal sex are:


but don't let that stop you.


Edit: Link removed.

[lilacwoman]

To say it again: "Well I tried THAT..."  and "Speaking from experience" , so yes, I have tried as in: speaking from experience
Quite right this too. But there are some exceptions, though they are too small in size/diameter to even bother. Again speaking from experience.
Jeepes... those suction cups will make you walk like I did - one week after SRS. No good, nah.
Length: 5.75 inches !!! --- TitanMen, eh
You may want to sit on that lot - not me. I'd be sitting on my peritoneal reflection (bone) and all I may say, tears in my eyes. No, please, too much!

Oh, well - toys, eh?
Something for different tastes. Frogman's suits, really? Must be for doing some muff diving then, he he.

Axélle

I did say the various plugs were to be used during sleep when there won''t be any sitting,
I understand the suction cups are removable so their size won't be a problem.
5.75 inches is the over all length with 5 inches usable and most sex change surgeon aim to get such a depth anyway.

Edit: derogatory comment removed.

[mementomori]

That website has information / advice on sexuality change and a section on christianity , I wouldn't trust any site that is christian based on this subject . Religious dogma and science should remain separate , if you're going to criticize anal sex as being unatural then I find that ironic considering srs is hardly " natural " in the traditional sense 

[kelly_aus]

analist is a perfectly good short way of saying 'men and women who like anal sex?'


meanwhile out in the real world the real facts of anal sex are:


but don't let that stop you.

I can't find any reference for the word 'analist' that agrees with your statement, please provide a reference..

And that was hardly a large study.. And the results don't seem to make it as large a problem as you seem to make out.. Oh, and I've never used a plug and can't think of anyone I know that does/did.. Given what I know of plugs, they are more likely to be the issue than anal sex..


Edit: Link removed.

[mementomori]

I can't find any reference for the word 'analist' that agrees with your statement, please provide a reference..

And that was hardly a large study.. And the results don't seem to make it as large a problem as you seem to make out.. Oh, and I've never used a plug and can't think of anyone I know that does/did.. Given what I know of plugs, they are more likely to be the issue than anal sex..

id like to know how many of the people studied enganged in other acitivies like fisting etc that would obviously cause damage

[loulou]

I'm a lot more sensitive and it's the first time I've really been able to have orgasms since HRT.  I was circumcised though as a child so I do wonder if it fixed some damage caused by that.

[Renee]

Uh... I'm not sure that's really answerable. Everything is in different places, so it's a bit apples and oranges. I'm 11 weeks post-op. My clit is basically too sensitive to touch directly / unpleasant to touch. I have zero sensation in my inner labia lips. And semi-sensation in the outer ones.

The only things that really have any erogenous feeling are immediately inside the vaginal channel, and around the clit / clit hood. Not enough to orgasm, which is... frustrating. Unlike some girls my sex drive is very much alive and not super pleased that I haven't been able to do much for 2 and 1/2 months.

But I'm early on, and the nerves should sort themselves out a bit better over the next few months. Tiny bit impatient though.

Who performed your surgery?  I am over two years post op (Meltzer) and just starting to have intense orgasms.  There is a lot of relearning to do!

[Renee]

id like to know how many of the people studied enganged in other acitivies like fisting etc that would obviously cause damage

Actually tried a little of that with my GF.  pretty intense, but she has small hands

[AbraCadabra]

Who performed your surgery?  I am over two years post op (Meltzer) and just starting to have intense orgasms.  There is a lot of relearning to do!

Thanks for sharing
I'm 8 month, never thought: "There is a lot of relearning to do!"
In my case after dilating, I most all the time have hardly ANY incentive to fiddle any more with my crotch...
Low libido doesn't help much either. I'm numb AND oversensitive, if that makes some sense.
Reading my chick-lit, the more saucy part, actually leaves me jealous, when on my part feeling so... disinterested. I guess only time will tell.
Life, um.

Axélle

[Renee]

Dr. Brassard. And oh my god I hope I don't have to wait that long. I will die of sexual frustration. I swear.

I was able to achieve an orgasm by myself with much effort about 6 months in.  It took my longer with a partner and we were trying for almost a year before it happened.  But I think that there were a lot of mental challenges for me to unravel. Mind you, I went back for stage #2 (Meltzer's technique that has it's pros and cons) after 3 months so I was just starting to feel better when I had to recover all over again.  The labiaplasty really made my hooding numb to the touch which is difficult to get used to, however, applying sustained pressure to that area does get me to the point of orgasm if I am in the right frame of mind.  direct stimulation of my clit only feels good when I am really aroused.   Also the same for the g-spot.  It feels good only when I am really aroused. Then I want to push myself to the limit.  I have to say that Meltzer's technique is really good for maintained depth and ability to strech.  Sorry it this was TMI.  Just trying to help.  I know how frustrating it can be, and there is not a lot of good information out there to help.

[Julie Wilson]

one thing i was curious about has anyone had a increase in genital sensitivity after srs , say as a result of nerves that werent exposed now being exposed, or generally does it always decrease in sensetivity or stay the same

No.  However after SRS with Dr. Bowers, several years after SRS I had a secondary procedure where Dr. Chettawut repositioned my clitoris in the correct area and because of that heterosexual missionary sex is much more enjoyable and being touched in general is just overall more enjoyable.  I think it also has to do with the hooding Dr. Chettawut created to protect the clit from abrasion.  Being closer to the area it belongs, the clit get's bumped during actual sex which is a good thing whereas previously it was MIA.

[Renee]

No.  However after SRS with Dr. Bowers, several years after SRS I had a secondary procedure where Dr. Chettawut repositioned my clitoris in the correct area and because of that heterosexual missionary sex is much more enjoyable and being touched in general is just overall more enjoyable.  I think it also has to do with the hooding Dr. Chettawut created to protect the clit from abrasion.  Being closer to the area it belongs, the clit get's bumped during actual sex which is a good thing whereas previously it was MIA.

How does the the hooding feel? Mine is numb over the clit.  I am fearful of more proceedures that may cause loss of additional sensation.  I can orgasm, so that good, but have never been happy with the psition or look of my clit.  I would appreciate a little more detail on you Chettawut proceedure.